On August 24th, Hangzhou Intermediate People's Court tried a criminal case: a returnee boy picked up a girl he had secretly loved for eight years and threw her down on the19th floor.
On the morning of March 2 1, the monitoring probe of a residential area in Binjiang, Hangzhou took a cruel scene: two figures were shaking on the opposite balcony, and soon, one figure fell off the balcony with messy hair, and the other figure returned to the room.
At the trial site, the prosecutor asked him, "What did you do? Did she resist? How long did it take from the room to the balcony? "
165438+1October 9, Hangzhou Intermediate People's Court ruled in the first instance: Xue Mou, intentional homicide, death penalty. Because the nature is too bad, the circumstances of surrender proposed by his lawyer are not enough to reduce the guilt.
Everyone knows about it. Xue, a boy, began to like girls the summer after he graduated from high school. But the girl never admitted him. At best, she said she wanted to know more about him. She didn't even hold hands. But Xue still feels that "we are very close, and she will tell me what she did on WeChat".
Xue gave gifts many times, fearing that the girl would get married, and came to the city where the girl worked from the United States, and rented a three-bedroom apartment in Binjiang with the girl and female colleagues.
The relationship between the two did not develop according to the boy's wishes. After the girl went back to her hometown to attend the wedding, she brought back a photo with other boys and erected it on the bedside. The boy collapsed.
The night before the incident, the girl talked with others for a long time, as if she were the "boyfriend" in the photo, and the boy who heard all this outside suddenly killed him.
Tragedy in an instant, the girl's life came to an end, and the boy's eight-year unrequited love road ended.
During the trial, Xue was gloomy and no one knew what he was thinking. Maybe only he knows that he will never get back to the right track of life.
Young, eight years old, but he did not learn to reconcile with himself, and he did not reconcile with himself.
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Xue's family conditions are very good, and he went abroad to study after graduating from college. His life is different from that of a girl born in the depths of a mountain.
After graduating from high school, he began to pursue girls across foreign countries. They talked very well, and he thought the girls liked him.
However, after returning to China and living under the same roof, the girl directly rejected him as "inappropriate". He felt that he couldn't live any longer. First I want to commit suicide, and then I feel that I can't let the other person live.
Does he really love girls that much? I don't know. We haven't seen each other for eight years. Maybe he just feels that he has paid so much and is unwilling to give up.
He walked into a dead end. He cornered himself and had nowhere to go but death. But he didn't have the courage to kill himself. Only by killing that girl can no one get what I can't get.
You can't reconcile with yourself because you are unwilling; Because I was unwilling, I went further and further on that wrong road until I couldn't go back.
How sad and hateful.
He doesn't understand that no matter how good he is and how hard he works, someone will always dislike him. People who can't accept themselves must be people who are not suitable for themselves.
Only by learning to let go and give up at the right time can you meet someone who is more suitable for you.
Learn to reconcile with yourself, learn to give up what you can't get, and you will get happiness and satisfaction.
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Li Xuelian in I'm not Pan Jinlian spent twenty years petitioning for an answer that seemed meaningless because of her ex-husband's words, in order to prove that she was not Pan Jinlian.
So, she gave up all the possibilities of life. She is young, beautiful and skilled, and can start a new life. But in any case, she is determined to seek the justice she wants.
Finally, does the result matter? It seems that persistence is the most important thing. At this time of year, we have to do such a thing-petition.
Are those pains still there? She doesn't mention those past events, and others may forget them. She is just unwilling, unwilling to be cheated, and she wants to prove that she is right.
She can't give up. All the youth she sacrificed should be rewarded. She needs an answer.
She didn't seem to think about what she got the answer for and what she could do if she got it.
You can't learn to reconcile with yourself and let obsession control you. Wrong persistence is also a kind of self-harm.
Twenty years wasted by Li Xuelian is a kind of life injury.
If she had reconciled with herself earlier and stopped her loss in time, her life would have come to an end.
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In this life, we will encounter many worrying things: doing the wrong topic, loving the wrong person, losing our job and failing to get promoted because of a trivial matter, and if we keep obsessing about "If it was me, it wouldn't be me", we will never get out of anxiety.
Reconciliation with yourself is to understand that the past has passed, and no matter right or wrong, it cannot be changed. But as long as you don't die, the trajectory of life will not be fixed.
People should persist, but also understand that wrong persistence is meaningless. There are always some people or things that we can't get no matter how hard we try. Don't indulge or vent your emotions just because we don't get what we want.
When we are hurt by something, we should learn to let go at the right time, don't let ourselves be manipulated by unwillingness, and learn to reconcile with ourselves and stop losses in time.
Some people think it's cheap for a couple of "dog men and women" to get divorced when their partners cheat in marriage. He won't let me feel better, and he doesn't want to feel better. Why should I help them after what he did to me?
So I chose to drag him to death, knowing that I was dragged to death.
There are many reasons for choosing not to divorce. The only thing you can't do is to punish yourself with other people's mistakes.
Learn to reconcile with your anger, learn to reconcile with your unwillingness, and learn to reconcile with your heart.
Some people say: growth is the process of reconciliation with yourself.
Learn to reconcile, and you will no longer entangle those past pains, people or things that you can't get, and trivial things.
Everyone should learn to make peace with himself.
A life that can be reconciled with oneself is a happy life.