However, we must first understand a question, that is, what is self?
To be yourself is not outspoken, not harsh ... to be yourself, to sum up, just three words, not lazy.
In all our discussions, I have always felt a regret that the other party has never understood the test of the desire to survive in love ... what is the real meaning behind this simple question?
The love we are talking about today is sweet and beautiful ... but the real charm of love, in addition to my deep love for your true feelings, often has a special anxiety about the other half, which is a surge of feelings that are difficult to express and shy ... So, we often suddenly feel a sense of loss at a certain moment, and we will think ... "Are you in love with me, too?"
But we China people are shy! We are not good at expressing love, so we are embarrassed to ask each other directly. Do you love me?
So we need to use other questions to package this subtlety ... Isn't it because of these sweet troubles that love is moving in the turbulent sense of security?
Therefore ... the test of survival desire is not an end, I just asked a question that I have been ashamed to say through this question.
We don't think today's debate should be a sincere or hypocritical comparison. The essence of this debate is to ask if you are willing to think about the questions you really want to ask behind your partner's desire for survival test. Are you willing to understand your partner's entanglement and wandering ... are you willing to think more?
Why should we act? What do we say? Because of love ... stop it, okay? Just because you want to be lazy. Of course, I know it's not your fault This is our human instinct. We always like to answer questions superficially, so when you say you have a stomachache, your partner says to drink more hot water, and you will feel unhappy. "Drink lava!" ..... but your partner still doesn't understand. Of course, if you have a stomachache, drink more hot water!
..... Why are you unhappy? Because the other person only stays on the surface of the problem and doesn't pay attention to the internal needs behind your problem, right?
Similarly, is the survival desire test a simple question? What the other party wants is a sense of practicality. He doesn't want to see you act, or you stay on the surface of the problem.
Your perfect answer on Baidu doesn't give him any sense of sureness. He saw all your superficial acting skills. Can I not know that I am not as good-looking as Liu Yifei? Of course I know that I am not the most beautiful girl in the world. I can't tell if you're acting. I know you love me, and I will laugh it off, but why ... will you still feel a little lost or insecure?
Because I know you are lazy, you didn't answer my real question, and you ignored what I really wanted ... What I wanted was not the same reply from Baidu Zhihu, nor a quick and witty answer. Will you stop acting for me? I want you to start from the bottom of your heart, only from your own heart, and give me a unique answer, that … yes, the only one.
Maybe you will say: you are not the most beautiful girl in the world, you have your own shortcomings, you have your own waywardness, you sometimes have a bad temper, you may not be gentle, you may have pimples and freckles on your face, you are short, you are not slim ... maybe you are not perfect, but it doesn't matter, that's unique to you, and I .. love you so uniquely.
This answer ... may not be a perfect answer on Baidu, but it is a hundred times better than all routines and performances ... at least I know you are not lazy. You gave me a gift in your own words. This gift is called a sense of security.