Ding Yiyuan, Guangzhou criminal lawyer.

Mother and wife fell into the water at the same time. Who will you save first? I don't know when this problem began to appear, and I don't know whether it was put forward by my mother or my wife. This question seems simple, but it has attracted many heroes! Imagine if you say save your mother first, then your wife will complain that you don't love her, even if you don't save her from drowning. How can I spend the rest of my life with you? If you save your wife first, your mother will say, you unfilial son ~ I raised you one by one, how can you be so heartless? Heroes know who is more troublesome to save first, so they start with the problem and say, I am good at swimming, so it doesn't matter who comes first, I promise to save them all! So the questioner added a condition that only one can be saved! Now, the heroes say, I will save anyone around me. If you are nearby, you have a better chance to save your life. So the questioner added another condition, and they were intimate! Now the heroes say that I will save anyone who can't swim, and always save the danger first ~ so the questioner added another condition, neither of them can swim! Now, these people say, I can't swim and I can't save people. Hey, hey, the romance of the Three Kingdoms is about to begin. Maybe there will be a home! With the painful lessons of predecessors, future generations encounter this problem, just like mice encounter cats, lest they avoid it. Heroes are actually confused. Just live a good life. Why do they have to fall into the water together? Why can they only save one? This, this is not difficult for me ~ In fact, the person who asked this question really wants to know who you saved first? In fact, they don't want to know who you save first, but who you help when your mother-in-law has problems! In all families, at least in China, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has always been a major factor affecting family harmony! On the surface, it is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. In fact, it is a collision between the values and outlook on life of two generations. As a son, you certainly don't want your mother to be angry, but you must make her angry. After all, you are who you are today because of your mother's upbringing. You were such a cell at that time. If your mother hadn't conceived in October, would you still be alive? As a husband, especially a man in China, it can be said that it is a great shame for his wife to be wronged. What kind of man are you if you can't even protect and love your wife? Save the mother, then offend the wife, save the wife, and then offend the mother. Neither side can afford to offend, but it is not difficult for us to find that no matter who is saved, the hero who is a son and husband is not in danger. He is one of the two people who can survive! People who are saved are of course happy. People who are not saved are not so simple as sad, but sad. The so-called silence is greater than life and death ~ so can you save one without hurting the other? If so, what can be done? It is a very tragic and extreme way, that is, the mother and wife fall into the water at the same time. As a son and a hero of her husband, we should save the mother first, and then jump into the water and drown with her! The so-called filial piety comes first. When these two relatives are in danger at the same time, they must save their mother first. Without their mother, there would be no you! You are where you are because of your mother! Mom has worked hard to raise you just because she wants to have someone to rely on when she is old. She always hopes that you are more capable than herself, which is the only one in all interpersonal relationships! Even your good friend, even your brother, as an individual, always wants to be more capable than others! I can be more promising than others! ! And parents always want their children to be more capable than themselves! Therefore, by weighing, save your mother first; As a husband, you can't save your wife when her life is in danger. You don't deserve to be the husband of that man! In order to be with you, my wife resolutely left her parents who raised her, because she trusted you, and she believed that you could give her happiness and you could bear the ups and downs of life for her. You deserve her life's trust! It took a thousand years to get a pillow sleep ~ ~ Since you can't save her, you can go to hell with her. This problem is doomed to be a tragic ending, and only in this tragic extreme way can we have it both ways. First of all, I have done my filial piety as a child and saved my mother's life. Third, I didn't betray my wife's lifelong trust, because I attached my life to your lifelong trust! If you answer this question like this, I'm sure your mother and your wife won't care who you save first, but worry that if something similar happens, they will definitely lose you! So this answer will not only offend both sides, but also let both sides know that no matter who is saved first, you will die in the end! In other words, you must be injured in the contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law!