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According to the latest data, the national marriage rate in 20 18 was 7.2‰, the lowest since 20 13.
Moreover, the more developed the economy, the lower the marriage rate. The marriage rates in Shanghai, Zhejiang, Guangdong, Beijing and Tianjin are generally lower than the national average.
Even in some remote small and medium-sized cities, young people's concept of marriage and childbearing is moving closer to big cities. Many school-age men and women are not in a hurry to get married, but enjoy the single life freely.
Faced with the urging of parents and relatives, young people are becoming more and more calm and know that they can live well. Why do they accept another person invading their lives and breaking the original comfort?
Marriage seems to be an unknown world for young people, but those who urge marriage describe the world very beautifully. As if you are married, you will become a winner in life, no longer lonely, enjoy the wealth and achievements of TA with your spouse, and support your children for the elderly. From then on, life depends on you.
The marriage described by them is like a wonderful fairy tale, but it is constantly broken by the cruel reality. The great contrast between ideal and reality forces young people to be more and more afraid to get involved in marriage easily.
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I recently read a story about a daughter-in-law who wanted a divorce and was blacklisted by her mother-in-law.
The two parties got married on 20 15 and bought a wedding room worth about 4 million yuan. The down payment of 2 million yuan was paid by her mother-in-law, and the names of both men and women were written on the real estate license.
After marriage, the two repaid the loan together, with a monthly mortgage of more than 9,000 yuan, of which the woman also paid more than 5,000 yuan.
After one year of marriage, the two sides had a fierce contradiction due to personality and other reasons. Finally, the woman went to court to sue for divorce.
Marriage is a divorce, but the two sides can't reach an agreement on how to deal with this house.
The woman advocated selling the house and said that she had no intention of getting half of it. She just wanted to get her money back, but the man disagreed.
After the divorce, the woman did not want to continue to repay the loan with the man, and wanted to transfer the property to the man to continue to repay the loan. The bank disagreed. The bank requires that it must repay the loan in advance before it can be renamed, but no one can come up with that more than two million.
The only way was to auction the house, so the woman sued the man for dividing the property.
Unexpectedly, at the beginning of this lawsuit, another lawsuit came unexpectedly.
The former mother-in-law took her son and daughter-in-law to court and asked them to repay the down payment of 2 million yuan while preserving the house being divided. Daughter-in-law's housing division lawsuit can only be suspended and can only continue until the mother-in-law's lawsuit comes out first.
Of course, my mother-in-law's lawsuit undoubtedly won. The court ruled that both men and women should pay their mother-in-law a down payment of 2 million, which means that the woman has to pay her mother-in-law10 million before she can auction the house.
Moreover,1100,000 is not a small amount, and the woman can't take it out. So the mother-in-law applied for compulsory execution of her ex-daughter-in-law for the first time, and the woman was blacklisted.
Because the woman has no money, she can only execute the house, but it will take at least one or two years to go through the procedures and wait for the evaluation auction.
During this period, the mother-in-law and son still lived in that house, but the woman had no house to live in and no money to share. The loan has to be repaid, and people are blacklisted.
The woman thought that adding her name to the house was enough to protect herself, but she didn't expect her former mother-in-law's "coquettish operation" to make her unable to get back the money she had paid, which put her in a dilemma.
Don't want money, you can only eat dumb losses and run away from home. If you want money, you will be dragged into the lawsuit of property division for a long time and even blacklisted.
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See another news from time to time.
Before the only daughter Xiao Yang got married, her mother prepared 500,000 yuan for her and deposited it in her account as a dowry. Shortly after the marriage, her husband Xiao Li asked Xiao Yang for this 500,000 yuan for business turnover.
Xiao Yang doesn't want to think that this is his parents' personal property and self-defense money. However, Xiao Li believes that this 500,000 dowry should be the property of husband and wife, and he has the right to use it.
The two sides had a dispute over this.
Xiao Yang and his parents consulted relevant legal persons and learned that the property given to their children by one parent was personal property before marriage registration, which made them relieved. They immediately went to the notary office for notarization, and made it clear that 500,000 dowry was personal property for their daughter before marriage.
Later, in order to maintain the harmony between husband and wife's feelings and family, Xiao Yang took out this 500,000 yuan to do business for her husband.
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This true story about marriage has become a fable of the new era, satirizing the beautiful fantasy of modern people about marriage.
In modern marriage, there is no longer the romance and tacit understanding of holding hands with your son and growing old together, only some extremely utilitarian and practical purposes remain.
In marriage, everyone wants to take, not give. How many young people will look forward to the embrace of marriage after hearing so many stories of mutual concern and calculation?
Nowadays, young people have become more and more independent and can get along with themselves. Even if there is no one to accompany you, you can have fun eating, traveling and watching movies alone.
When we are financially independent, independent in character, interested in independence and full of curiosity about the world, we are willing to give up our leisurely life and join in a marriage only when we happen to meet someone who shares our three views and has the same enthusiasm for life.
Perhaps the significance of marriage to modern people is that I could have lived a good and interesting life alone, but two people can live a happier and more unforgettable life together. Once doubled happiness, now doubled, everyone is doubled happiness.
Therefore, it is not necessarily a bad thing for every young individual that the marriage rate continues to fall. This may just show that their thoughts have become more mature and cautious.
For things that you have not experienced, you no longer listen to hearsay and other people's experiences, but pay more attention to your own feelings.
They are also more cautious about marriage, and are unwilling to waste their great youth in endless house fights and internal friction in order to gain the approval of others.
Instead of constantly looking for it, it is better to take back your attention, pay close attention to yourself and improve yourself.
We don't have to reject marriage, and of course we don't have to pursue it deliberately.
When we look forward to the future, we will become better ourselves, and then marriage may come naturally.