Whether you are an executive or just a grass-roots team leader, you are someone else's boss. However, your subordinates are not always "obedient" and it is impossible not to make mistakes or mistakes, especially those who refuse to turn over a new leaf and those who often oppose you, which often make you angry and uncomfortable. So you always want to find a chance to teach them a lesson and show them what you can do. If you put this idea into action, you will be relieved and avenged. However, if you leave a "thorny" subordinate, you may come back tomorrow with a subordinate wearing "protective armor". Therefore, you can't ask all your subordinates to satisfy you. Although they can't directly promote you like their superiors, they are people who work for you. Your work can only be enhanced if your subordinates do well.
Leave your subordinates alone and give them care and help when appropriate. Even if you can't change one person, even if you can't help all subordinates, at least let other subordinates think that you are not a bad boss.
Appreciate your boss
Everyone in the workplace knows that the boss is not for appreciation, but mostly for annoying you. What people in the workplace dislike most is not their colleagues, but their own bosses. Not all the boss's behaviors are approved and satisfied by you, or even despised and disgusted by you. However, the boss is your boss after all and cannot be changed. Escape, patience, and even confrontation often result in a mess.
Look at the boss from another angle and appreciate him. Your boss may have a better image and a better mood. For example, your boss is a "Chou Shi". If viewed from the side, the boss may look like a rockery; If your boss is a "paper tiger", then you should seriously think about it: if a "paper tiger" becomes a real tiger, your situation may be even worse, right?
Appreciating your boss will make you happy at work. Because there is no feeling of coming events cast their shadows before them, the work should be handy and the mood will be calm and comfortable!
Compliment your colleagues.
Colleagues are people who work together and have the closest contact with each other. In other words, look up and see no one who looks down. Therefore, it is a pleasant thing for colleagues to be happy together and have a home-like atmosphere. But colleagues and friends are different, and they can take on more responsibilities and many misunderstandings in their daily work. If the relationship between colleagues is not good, colleagues are more likely to become "enemies" than friends. Colleagues are most afraid of entanglement. Endless entanglement harms others and does not benefit others. This requires people in the workplace to grasp the "temperature" of this relationship. The best "temperature" is to praise your colleagues with your mouth and make them feel that you agree with him and appreciate him. Over time, this "temperature" will in turn give you warmth.
Praising colleagues will make your work unimpeded, and the office relationship is as smooth as lubricating oil and as sweet as cheese!
Do your job well
Doing your job well is the most important rule to survive in the office. Because all interpersonal relationships in the office are based on work. If the work is not done well, trouble will naturally come.
Knowing how to be a man and make friends is only an important means to survive in the office, not a decisive thing. Doing a good job is the driving force and capital for all relationships to serve you, because your boss will be satisfied only if you constantly improve your work; Only when you do a good job will your subordinates admire you; Your colleagues will support you only if your work is impeccable. Therefore, doing your job well is the basis of your promotion and salary increase, and the foundation of your happiness in the office!
How to make going to work interesting?
In the workplace, some people are sad, some people are happy, some people are like a duck to water, and some people run into a wall everywhere ... What kind of job you choose may sometimes be involuntary, but your mood cannot be affected by work. Instead of being depressed, it is better to find some ways to adjust your mentality. In this issue, Yang Dong, director of the Department of Applied Psychology, School of Psychology, Southwest University, is invited to interpret the interesting "laws" that make you happy at work.
Durian law
Newcomers in the workplace take the initiative.
If you ask a person who has never eaten durian "Do you like durian", he can't answer-he can't say he likes it, and he can't be sure that he doesn't like it without trying. This truth is called "durian law" in the workplace: many people want to find a suitable job right away, but they never take the initiative to understand and experience it, so a good job is likely to slip away when you are hesitant.
In fact, it is more appropriate to use "durian law" to describe newcomers in the workplace. Newcomers always judge the quality of a job by imagination, but without practice, they can't find the real value of a job. According to statistics, even under the premise of continuous practice, it takes about three years for a person to find an ideal job. Therefore, waiting is fruitless. Instead of obsessing about how to find a job that suits you, it is better to adjust your mentality and try more so that you can get the final answer in every experience. For people who have been in the workplace for many years, they should also take the initiative to find and solve problems and dare to try; When dealing with interpersonal relationships, we should take the initiative to get close to the team and be honest with others.
Experience can be divided into direct experience and indirect experience. Direct experience is to take the initiative to attack, and indirect experience is to obtain information through other people's suggestions and feelings. People who have never eaten durian can also feel the taste through the introduction of others, but the feeling is not the most direct and objective. The same is true of work. You have to try it yourself to know. Other people's suggestions are for reference only. Of course, workplace experience should not be too blind. Frequent job hopping is not conducive to career development. We should find a balance point and realize it.
Gambling law
It is better to practice internal skills than to climb relationships.
The so-called "betting method" means that many people in the workplace are trying their best to find shortcuts, hoping to find the fastest and most labor-saving method. Therefore, they often gamble on uncontrollable things, such as going through the back door and climbing relationships. However, in this way, if you win, you can fly to the branches and become a phoenix. If you lose, you will be defeated, and there is no chance to buffer.
Whether it is a way or a shortcut, it can't escape the law of normal development. The road to success is made by down-to-earth people step by step, and the valuable experience gained is beyond the reach of people who take shortcuts. Even if there is a good opportunity, you need to work hard to succeed. For example, does a person with superior intelligence need to "waste time" all the way from primary school to middle school to university? The answer is yes. People with high IQ can indeed skip some links, but life experience is not only a hard textbook, but also a comprehensive ability to deal with people and work as a team. Therefore, it is the best policy to cultivate internal strength well and slowly and steadily.
Law of collision
Achievements are earned.
People who like watching basketball games will find that the stars who score the most often make the most mistakes. The law of collision tells us that luck is a probability. The more you collide with your career life, the greater your chances of getting good luck. Therefore, instead of waiting for luck, it is better to create opportunities.
First of all, the most important thing is to do your job well. On this basis, doing more every day can attract more attention and create opportunities. Secondly, dare to accept new tasks, of course, the premise is to make good plans and preparations, such as what will happen after the work is completed and how to deal with it. Finally, always keep the best mental state in front of the leader, so that he can safely hand over important tasks to you.
When you get good luck, you may also encounter failure. People are afraid of failure, but they are often more afraid of being laughed at, so we always spend too much energy speculating on other people's opinions. If you think too much, you may just stay where you are forever. So, don't stop because of one failure. Enthusiasm and persistence can make you succeed in the end.
Monroe's law
Don't magnify your dissatisfaction.
The famous actress Marilyn Monroe once said, "If you can't accept my worst side, then you don't deserve my best side." The same is true of work.
If you were asked to grade your current job, I believe few people would give full marks. According to Monroe's Law, a job has both your satisfaction and your dissatisfaction. Salary, working environment, career development, interpersonal relationship and other factors. Will become the scoring standard of job satisfaction. The reason why people quit jobs is precisely because they have magnified their "dissatisfaction" with their work. Patrick Lansinho, an American career consultant, pointed out that in reality, there are far more people who are dissatisfied with their jobs than those who are satisfied. But in fact, job satisfaction has little to do with the job itself. A marketing manager with an annual salary of 250,000 may be dissatisfied with his job, and the waiters who serve him in the restaurant may have a sense of accomplishment.
So when you are dissatisfied with your job, you must first find out the root cause: it is difficult to handle the relationship with colleagues and bosses, or you feel that the company is unfair to you, not recognized, and has little development prospects. Next, we should find a way to ask ourselves whether we have achieved respect, weakness, communication and tolerance in interpersonal relationships; In terms of development, can your current job improve your ability? For managers, to eliminate employees' dissatisfaction, they must truly understand employees' needs, create a relaxed and comfortable environment for employees, ensure a stable, sound, fair and just system, and relieve employees' worries.
Oil tank method
Tired, set some small goals.
A Ferrari, no matter how good its performance is, will break down without refueling. For people in the workplace, "oil" refers to career goals and is the driving force for work. Many people who choose a career entirely according to their interests often ignore the value of a career, that is, "Why am I interested in it?" What do I want? "If you don't get the desired value for a long time, people will have job burnout. This is the "fuel tank method", which contains two problems.
1. Career goals. Looking for a job, which is more important, interest or development, is an unsolved problem. Of course, the best state is both, but the reality is often not perfect. When there is a contradiction between the two, we should first think about what our career goals are and what we want from our work, and then find out the measure, which is salary, stability or self-worth. Only by defining the standard of gain and loss can we judge whether the "engine" of the work itself is not good or whether our "oil" is not enough.
2. Job burnout. People stay in a post for a long time, and their enthusiasm gradually fades. They will inevitably be tired, bored, depressed, unmotivated and emotionally unstable, and they will muddle along at first. At this time, don't just resign, but try to "fill up" yourself. We can break down our work into small goals, and constantly achieving the goals is a process of self-improvement, which can bring you a sense of accomplishment and inspire new enthusiasm for work. Learn to praise and reward yourself, even if you have a little achievement, you must affirm yourself. When you are physically and mentally exhausted, you'd better rest in time, get enough sleep and chat with friends and family.