Although there are many different types of psychological counseling, the implementation steps can be roughly divided into four stages: First, the initial stage is in the initial stage, which mainly solves the following problems: 1. For an unfamiliar interviewer, the counselor introduces himself and tells the interviewer what psychological obstacles he is good at consulting. If the interviewer is introduced by others, the consultant will tell the interviewer what he has learned about the interviewer from others. 2. Further understand and verify the psychological obstacles of the interviewer, especially the psychological and social background of the interviewer, find out the cause and effect of the problem, and evaluate the degree of obstacles. 3. Set out to establish a consultant-interviewer relationship of mutual trust. The consultant told the interviewer with enthusiasm, sympathy and understanding that he was ready to help him and had the ability to help him relieve his confusion and pain. In order to promote a good cooperative relationship, the consultant should encourage the interviewer to speak freely. On the one hand, because of the venting of bad emotions, obstacles can often be quickly alleviated to a certain extent; On the other hand, through the counselor's careful listening, the interviewer feels that his problems have been valued and understood by the counselor, so he is supported and encouraged mentally. The consultant is very sensitive to the words and deeds of the interviewer. In addition to reassuring the interviewer, he also assured the interviewer that he would abide by the confidentiality of the conversation. This is because many interviewers may have some conflicts or misunderstandings when they begin to enter psychological counseling, and they are unwilling to talk about psychological trauma that hurts their self-esteem. They are afraid of exposing their weaknesses or disgraceful places in their personality during the conversation. Some interviewers may have some doubts about the consultant's ability, and so on. Therefore, it is very important to dispel doubts and keep secrets. 5. Help the interviewer to build the motivation to seek help and the confidence to overcome obstacles. Counseling practice has proved that the effect of psychological counseling is good for interviewers who are eager for psychological counseling help and have strong expectations for the success of psychological counseling. However, the motivation for asking for help is not strong for every interviewer, nor is it suddenly generated by the interviewer. Counselors should spend enough time explaining to the interviewer why they need psychological counseling, and explain the purpose, significance, methods and effects of psychological counseling appropriately. Use successful examples to inspire the confidence of the interviewer and give appropriate answers to the interviewer's questions. 6, * * and consultation, forming a contract that consultants and interviewers abide by together. This is helpful for psychological consultation from beginning to end, and also helps to give full play to the interviewer's cooperative spirit, so as to actively listen to the consultant's advice and complete the homework or self-training project assigned by the consultant. Generally speaking, it takes about 1~2 meetings in the initial stage, and some interviewers need 3 meetings. Second, in the stage of analyzing and understanding problems, any psychological counseling needs to determine the counseling objectives, formulate counseling plans, and choose counseling strategies to achieve the counseling objectives. To do this, we must possess reliable materials in detail, find out key problems through analysis and comparison, such as psychoanalysis requiring to expose unconscious contradictions and conflicts, and paying attention to the influence of childhood experience on psychological obstacles, in order to promote the interviewer's comprehension and introspection; Behaviorism consultation requires analyzing the interviewer's behavior, studying how his behavior is obtained, finding out the irregular "target behavior" and correcting the bad target behavior by strengthening or diluting it as the main consulting goal; Cognitive counseling requires finding out cognitive distortions or errors and the relationship between them and emotional and behavioral disorders, helping interviewers find cognitive errors and taking changing bad cognition as the main consulting goal; Self-development counseling requires finding out the conflict between individual experience and self-experience, and the relationship between this conflict and emotional and behavioral obstacles, guiding the interviewer to know whether it is individual experience or self-experience that needs to be adjusted, and taking the interviewer's consistent behavior between individual experience and self-experience as the main counseling goal. Although the goals of various psychological counseling are different, it is still necessary to make a detailed analysis of the interviewer's psychology or behavior and establish the counseling goals on this basis. In order to help the interviewer analyze and understand the problem, common methods include asking and asking the interviewer to explain himself, repeating the interviewer's story accurately and emphatically, and reminding the interviewer to pay attention to the components that may be relevant but ignored. Through these methods, we can find out the crux of the problem, and then make consulting plans and choose consulting strategies. At this stage, the interviewer's obstacles may fluctuate or appear repeatedly, which may be because the resistance to consultation has not been overcome. So be sure to discuss the reasons repeatedly with the interviewer, paying special attention to the interviewer's empathy. Third, no matter what kind of psychological counseling is in the stage of suggestion or reconstruction, only when the cognition, emotion and behavior of the client change can the counseling effect be obtained. And this change must be made by the interviewer himself, and no one else can replace it. Therefore, this stage is the decisive stage of psychological counseling, and its importance is self-evident. Because the main task of this stage is to correct bad behavior and change bad cognition on the basis of clarifying the crux of the problem, making consultation plans, choosing consultation strategies and conducting practical consultation, it is necessary to guide the interviewer to understand the real source of his emotions, attitudes and cognition through concise, timely and specific consultation explanations and suggestions, and to understand some methods to overcome obstacles, so as to rebuild a healthy psychology. Various psychological counseling methods vary widely, but they can all cause some changes in the interviewer. For example, behavior shaping, reinforcement, demonstration and information feedback have been proved to be helpful to behavior change; Repeated examination, refutation or cross-examination of maladjusted cognition, new explanation and vivid and powerful explanation of a certain problem have been proved to be helpful to cognitive change; The methods of catharsis, assurance, suggestion, association or explanation are helpful to alleviate emotional barriers and mediate the conflict between consciousness and unconsciousness. Four, the end and consolidation stage suggestions and reconstruction stage, the effect should continue to consolidate. In addition to setting the goal of continuing training for the interviewer, appropriate tasks or assignments can be arranged when necessary to encourage the interviewer to put the acquired experience or coping skills into practice. If the psychological barrier of the visitor has indeed eased, the health component has been significantly enhanced, and both the consultant and the visitor think that the consultation can come to an end, then the consultation can be terminated. At the same time, it is also necessary to properly evaluate the effect of consultation and give appropriate guidance to the interviewer in his future life, study and work. If after many consultations, the psychological disorder has not improved and the health components have not appeared, the original consultation plan should be abandoned and the consultation plan should be re-formulated. In addition, before the end of each consultation, it is necessary to describe some important information that the interviewer said, and supplement some consultants' conclusions, and then let the interviewer express some reactions to this conclusion and quickly feedback his own reactions. Finally, tell him that "today's conversation is over", appoint a time for the next conversation, and show concern for the interviewer's progress between the two consultations.