Companionship is first of all the soul, not the task. We are willing to let go of our own affairs for you, do what you like to do with you, meet your needs, say what you like to hear and talk about your favorite topics. My goal is to make it easy for you to be yourself. In this process, because of my existence, you become more yourself, and both sides can get pleasure and happiness in the company. If you regard companionship as a task, it loses its original meaning.
Couples in long-distance love often face the problem of lack of companionship, and being busy often becomes an excuse for not caring about each other. Because of my busy work, I can't speak 1 hour a day like I did in college. Because of busy work, I can only spare 10 minutes to call you ... have you found it? This kind of short-term communication regards companionship as a task, and uses short-term communication to reduce one's inner guilt and complete his emotional task. However, this kind of communication under the time limit can't achieve the effect at all, but makes the other party feel perfunctory.
You have to believe that if he loves you and cares about you, he will always find a way. For example, he will miss you on the way to work and commute, miss you at dinner, want to know if you have eaten, and ask if it rains in your city when he sees rain ... how can he be too busy to care?
Recently, I bid farewell to my boyfriend who has been in love for eight years, but started living in different places in the same city. Because the two companies are far apart, we both choose to live near the company, so we seldom see him. Occasionally, he will come to my place after work on weekdays, but it's already 10: 30 every time. Sometimes I stay up late and look at his mobile phone before washing. Basically, he doesn't feel any company. To me, he just sleeps in another place. Although he is still a little willing to come, the state of getting along with me makes me feel that he is not around. On the contrary, it makes me feel that he is coming, which affects my sleep. This kind of companionship is not "effective companionship".
Chipa said that there was a debate in the fifth season: "According to the new regulations of Chipa Planet, fathers who spend less than 12h a week with their children will be disqualified. Do you support it? "
Finally, Li Dan said, "Love can be cultivated, and so can hate. When my father is away, I can imagine that he probably misses me very much, but my father is sitting here, so I may be sure that he doesn't love me. "
Indeed, if companionship cannot create happiness, it will have a negative effect. It's better without company
For effective companionship, everyone has different definitions and needs. Interaction between the two sides is very important. Make sure that it is a happy thing for both sides, so as to bring about emotional sublimation.
Therefore, companionship takes time, requires more attention and pays more attention to quality, rather than being measured by the length of time.
What is companionship? Once and for all, being together is companionship. "However, China keeps our friendship, and heaven is still our neighbor" is also a companion. Personally, I think there are two kinds of companionship, one is life companionship, which can also be called material companionship. For example, some couples "live together"; The other is spiritual companionship, such as Xu Zhimo's "I will look for my only soul mate in the vast sea of people." I am lucky to get it; No, my life. That's all. "
The two kinds of companionship seem to be separated and interdependent. Here I will express my views on two kinds of partners:
As the name implies, we are together for real life. Many couples in their thirties and forties are material partners, whether it is the marriage ordered by their parents or the free love between you and me. Many marriages can't stand the grind of life. When each other feels tired and difficult, the children grow up and social relations have long been stable. Comfort each other, accept their fate, and that's it. Make do with it.
This is a typical material companion, because many of them live together day and night, but it's a strange strange bedfellows. Strange strange bedfellows, here, doesn't mean cheating or getting married. But apart from each other's lives, no one knows who, no one understands who, and each lives in his own world.
"Friends have a thousand glasses of wine, and lovers have more than half a sentence." A confidante and a confidante can both become spiritual confidantes. Xu Zhimo, a great poet, is brilliant and has been looking for a soul mate all his life. Because a person's spiritual world is very lonely, and this loneliness is terrible and long. So many people have been looking for their bosom friends all their lives.
Throughout the ages, there have been bosom friends in the mountains and rivers, "Liezi Mo Lifeng", "My parents gave birth to me, and the steamed stuffed bun knows me." In this world, this is called Bao Liang. "The ancients indifferent to fame and fortune, bosom friend is hard to find. Now materialistic, there is nowhere to find someone. However, in the face of the fast pace of the times, people under high pressure need the company of their partners, especially their spiritual partners. In fact, the range of spiritual partners is very wide, including people, animals, things and so on. Can be a person's partner.
"What I know makes me worry, and what I don't know makes me want." You are in a bad mood, have conflicts with people, have a bad career, have a bumpy road to love, are full of complaints, and are eager for the company of your spiritual partner, no matter at present or in a different place, you just know.
Summary: Material companionship and spiritual companionship, collectively referred to as companionship, seem to be separated, but in fact complement each other and can be transformed into each other. Material partners are more patient, understanding and tolerant, and companionship will be more human. Over time, they will become spiritual partners. The same is true of spiritual companionship, which is a bit secular and compromised. Of course, under the premise of not violating the law and morality.
Xu zhimo said, for my partner, it is my luck to get it; No, this is my life. As we all know, friends are easy to find, but partners are hard to find. Find a partner and hope to cherish each other. If you don't find a partner, you will be stronger. In the world, relying on yourself is king!
My views on this issue are as follows:
Companionship means that two people enjoy a period of memories together. The greatest happiness in life is that someone is with you, whether you turn around or not. Even if you are a person with a grudge, you are far away from this world. With company and intention, your heart will never be lonely. ...
Friendship is like a bright lamp. Whether you need it or not, it exists for you. Companionship is also a real need buried in each other's hearts and a kind of life. There is nothing but peace!
There is also a kind of company. The other person has never really entered your world, but he has never left your field of vision. This special silent companionship is a kind of mutual love and happiness!
When the breeze quietly blows warmth into your heart, in the beautiful morning, the other party says a sweet good morning, so that you will not be lonely. A quiet night, a good night, will take you into a wonderful dream and welcome a tired day. Now is another kind of company, and my heart is warm. This kind of happiness is beyond words. ...
This is my understanding. Don't spray those who disagree. ...
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The so-called companionship is how much time you spend in your life with the people you love.
Companionship is not bound by distance, because telephone calls, videos, letters, etc. Can connect the emotions between people;
Accompanying is not limited to getting along, because giving gifts, traveling and earning money to support the family are all contributing to family happiness;
Accompanying depends on how important your family is to you in your mind.
Some people think that career comes first, of course, when they are with their families, the time for communication is correspondingly less; Some people think that love is precious, so they choose to give up for love; Some people think that children's happiness is their greatest happiness, so they would rather earn less and spend more time with their children.
It is ultimately determined by people's values.
I hope it helps.
In my opinion, the word "companionship" has two main meanings. One is to express the equal status between people. If it is not an equal relationship, it is more a professional relationship of education, treatment and other services. The other is to show the true and sincere interpersonal relationship between individuals in companionship.
In the early psychotherapy under Freud's rule, without equality, the analyst is the authority. The patient came to the analyst and invited the analyst to know the secrets of his subconscious and help him eliminate the symptoms. The patient was lying on the couch, and there was no analyst sitting watching him. The analyst is required to act as a whiteboard in the analysis without revealing any personal information and emotions. In the early practice of psychoanalysis, the relationship between patients and analysts is an unequal relationship of strict analysis, Shu Ren and authority. What happened to analysts and patients is by no means real. When analysts have strong emotions because of the patient's speech, they will think that this is something they should face alone and has nothing to do with the patient.
With the whirlwind of humanistic existentialism in psychotherapy, generations of therapists such as Luo Luomei, Rogers and Owen Yalong are committed to making the therapeutic relationship equal and more real and sincere. They believe that it is not the subtle insight and explanation of the therapist that changes the patient, but the true and equal relationship with the therapist. Therapists do more self-exposure and emotional expression. Such a relationship is the so-called companionship relationship.
In clinical practice, peer-to-peer humanistic relationship and authoritative doctor-patient relationship actually have their own advantages and disadvantages, and they have different uses in the face of different clinical situations.
My understanding of companionship does not mean that you can be with him (or her). Even if you spend less time with him, high-quality company will often get twice the result with half the effort.
First, parent-child companionship
Now many of our parents are holding mobile phones in their hands, sliding their fingers, brushing the world while coping with their children's "importunate". If you want your child to trust you, you must do it yourself and play and interact with her like a small partner. Just like playing hide-and-seek, dad knows where the little guy is hiding, but he has to pretend not to see it and look for her everywhere. The child gloated over his mouth in the "darkness", but also covered his mouth with his hand and whispered in his mother's ear, "Ha ha ha, I said that Dad can't find us!"
Second, parents accompany.
The post-80s generation should be the happiest. Our childhood has passed the age of not having enough to eat. Our youth ushered in an era of rapid social and technological changes; When we were young, we even left our parents on the beach ... Take smart phones as an example, young people can get started in minutes, and even 2-3 babies can brush them away. But our parents didn't know how to start at first. When I first started working, the first thing I did when I went back every month, my father would ask me to help him save the numbers written with a pen, and my mother would ask me to teach her to type every time. Now my father can save his number and my mother can type. I feel that every time I go home, it is what they expect, and it is also our peace of mind. This is companionship!
Companionship is physical proximity and mental soundness. For children's parents, you need to be around and warm them with time and love; For your lover, you need more spiritual understanding and consideration, and you can give each other encouragement and confidence even if you are not around; The constant companionship of friends is another kind of life, the chic of drinking and the unruly between mountains and rivers. There are many ways of companionship. As long as it is based on love and warmth, it is true companionship. I wish you happiness!
What is companionship? I want to answer this question from three aspects: family, friendship and love.
First of all, family companionship.
Family companionship is defined as family companionship for the time being.
From the day we were born, in addition to the care of our parents, there were grandparents, brothers and sisters, uncles and aunts, aunts and uncles and so on. The care of these relatives is also the companionship of family members.
Family ties have been with us since our life was just conceived.
With the company of our family, our life will not be too cold, and there will still be warmth after going through hardships.
Second, the companionship of friendship.
From the time we started babbling and toddlering, until we were able to walk independently and walk as fast as flying, we had friends to play with.
Isn't it from this time that the bud of friendship began? Then, there are classmates, alumni and confidants. After entering the society and taking part in the work, I met many people of all kinds and made more friends.
Friendship has been closely followed since childhood.
With the companionship of friendship, our life will not be so lonely. Even though life is full of holes, there is still a warmth in our hearts.
Third, the companionship of love
The company of love is a bit extravagant, everyone wants it, but it seems that everyone is a little unhappy.
The company of love, the most wonderful company in life, may also be the shortest company. Sometimes it is the source of happiness, and sometimes it may be painful torture.
With the company of love, we won't regret it so much in this life. Even if we can't be bald, we will still have unforgettable feelings.
The above is purely a personal opinion. I hope that family, friendship and love will accompany you forever!
The most lasting expression of my love, is choosing to stay by your side.
Under the same roof
While you were cooking, I was following the play.
Eat the remaining tomatoes you cut.
When you see interesting clips.
The happiness shared with you
I stole the paper when you went to the toilet. It was naughty.
It was you who squeezed the toothpaste for me, and it was also the box that leaked milk.
It's also the entanglement of my hair sticking to your clothes
But after I left, my shadow filled the whole house.
It's also a video when I can't see you.
Is the last person to contact, but also the first person to contact when taking off and landing.
It was only after the separation that I saw your shadow on me.
Besides, you still have hair in your room that I can't wash clean.
People often say: "The longest confession is companionship", and companionship is a cup of warm milk tea, which will give you warmth in the coldest time. Companionship is a wonderful music that encourages you when you are helpless. Companionship is blazing sunshine, which illuminates your journey and makes you no longer lonely.
What is companionship? It is to accompany you through all the joys and sorrows, not to accompany you. I know that the road ahead will be more and more tiring, and I can't change the road ahead. Whenever I am tired, sad and lonely, it is warm to think that you are still around. Time goes by, no matter how headstrong I am, you are still there. This is companionship.
Companionship means that no matter how hard it is, there will be a wonderful night every night. Even if there is only the word good night, it will make people feel particularly practical.
Companionship is an encouragement, a comfort and a hug you gave me when I was helpless, which made me feel that you were always by my side when I needed you.
Companionship means that I can't always be by your side, but I will never leave you. True companionship is the blending of heart and heart. When I think of you, I am full of strength. This is companionship.
Companionship means that I am willing to share all the bits and pieces of my life with you, and you are willing to tell me the trivial things at work. My two hearts snuggled together tightly, and I felt the company of my heart.
I am willing to accompany you to bear the ups and downs of life, walk through the ups and downs of life with you, and taste the happiness brought by company with you!