The child knocked over water, milk, etc. It's all over the table
Wrong way: Train children: "Why are you so stupid? I can't even hold the cup. " What's more, give the child a slap.
Results: Adults and children were very angry, things were chaotic, and children learned to lose their temper and hit people to solve problems.
The correct way: comfort the child: "Son, it's okay. I know you didn't mean it. Pay attention next time. " Can you clean the table? "
Results: The child was forgiven, immediately apologized to the adults and happily wiped the table. Children learn tolerance.
Second, the child failed the exam.
Wrong way: Train children: "Look at you, aren't you ashamed of such a small score?" Who do you think it is? How can people get a hundred exams? You are so stupid! I am very angry. "What's more, kick the child hard.
Results: The child was in a bad mood and thought, "I'm finished. I am too stupid to learn well. No matter how hard I study, I can't learn well. "
The correct way: comfort the child: "Son, I know that you are also uncomfortable. Failing an exam once doesn't mean anything. The key is to find out the reason for not doing well in the exam, and then solve it, okay? Let me analyze it with you. I believe you will make progress next time. "
Results: the child looked for the reason seriously and thought, "I will work hard and live up to my parents' expectations." I will do it. "
Third, children do homework, it's time to go to bed, and the homework is not finished. Children have a lot of homework, but it doesn't count if they don't grind it. )
Wrong way: train children: "You piss me off, why haven't you finished writing?" Not if you don't watch it for a while Write quickly! " I look at you. "
Results: the child was not in a hurry, but also very leisurely, thinking, "I can't finish writing with my mother."
The correct way: seriously and calmly say to the child: "Son, doing homework is your business. You should be responsible for your own affairs. You are not allowed to write it until you have finished it. It's time for bed. Go to school tomorrow and explain to the teacher yourself. "
Results: The child realized his mistake and regretted it. He thought to himself, "This is over. How should I tell the teacher? It seems that I have to do my homework quickly tomorrow, or I will be criticized. "
Fourth, children's homework is sloppy.
Wrong way: get angry: "What a mess! Can't you write better?" A man with a big temper will tear up a child's homework with three hands and two hands.
Results: The child was at a loss and at a loss.
The correct way: seriously and calmly say to the child: "Son, I have already said that if the writing is not neat, it will be rewritten. Because it is not neat, the teacher can't see clearly. You see, this is an unbreakable rule, so you must rewrite it. You see, you can write it like this (about writing norms, horizontal and vertical, the same size. Son, as long as you write better than your words just now (compare with yourself), you will be confident? "
Results: The child understood the importance of the regulations and thought, "It's easier than what I just said." Have confidence.
5. It is impolite for children not to greet people.
Wrong way: teach the child in public: "why are you so rude?" I can't even say hello. Teaching you at ordinary times is worthless. "
Results: Children's self-esteem was greatly hurt, and they felt ashamed and inferior.
The correct way: give the child a step: "My child is a little embarrassed, relax, he is also very polite at ordinary times." Give a polite example.
Results: The child knew that he was wrong and thought, "I didn't do it well this time. I will do it well next time. I can't disappoint my parents. "
Six, the child's socks are dirty.
Wrong way: Parents: "Take off your socks and I'll wash them for you."
Results: The child accepted it with a clear conscience and thought that it was normal for his parents to serve him, but he was not tired anyway.
The correct way: discuss with your child: "Son, can you wash socks?" Mom is very tired today. Can you wash her socks, too Thank you, son. "
Results: The child was respected and went to wash socks, thinking, "Pay more attention to parents in the future. I am also a member of this family. They are getting older and older. "
Seven, children ask a question, adults will not.
Wrong way: unhappy: "don't ask blindly, just study hard, I don't know what I'm thinking every day."
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Results: The child thought, "Hey, it's boring. Talking about study is boring. Don't ask if you don't ask. " Since then, all the problems encountered have been skipped without seeking solutions.
The correct way: be happy: "it's good that you can ask such a difficult question, son, which proves that you have used your head." But I won't. Let's study it together, ok? "
Results: The child is very happy, and he must persevere when he encounters problems in the future, and he must study and understand.
Eight, the child does not get up in the morning.
Wrong way: get angry: "Why can't you afford it?" I'm gonna be late! "Clap your hands and hurry to find clothes for your children.
Result: It will be the same next time.
The correct way: say calmly, "son, I'll call you once." If you can't afford it, you will be late and criticized. This is your own business. You should handle it yourself. " The child didn't get up in time, didn't have breakfast and was late.
Result: Get up next time you wake up.
Nine, always watching TV, not sleeping, not doing homework.
Wrong way: turn off the TV angrily, yell at the children to do their homework or go to bed.
Results: The child went unhappy, hated you in his heart and called you a tyrant.
The correct way: calmly say to the child: "Son, it's time for you to do your homework. If you don't achieve it, you will be criticized. " How long do you want to see it? "Child:" Can I watch 10 minutes? "Parents:" OK, keep your word and turn off the TV when the time comes. "Both sides take a step back.
Result: It's time for the children to turn off the TV and go to bed or do their homework.
The child is doing his homework.
Wrong way: while watching TV, supervise the children and keep saying, "Write quickly." "Stop dawdling." "Stop watching TV and study hard."
Results: The child was unhappy: "Why can you watch TV and I can't?"? It's really unfair. "
The correct way: adults also read books, do not disturb children, and have a strong learning atmosphere at home.
Results: The children were calm and absorbed in their studies.