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* * Freedom from parents * *
Return it with all your love.
The night before I went home on holiday years ago, I packed my bags and chatted with my best friend on WeChat. In the process of packing, I found that I had nothing to take back. WeChat told my girlfriend, and then she looked disgusted.
I don't pay much attention to anything and I don't dress up very much. According to the practice of more than 30 years, we will go shopping with our parents and buy new clothes after the Spring Festival. So, I don't need to bring anything home.
In the end, I only carried two bags with two computers in them. One is a Mac for study and the other is a Lenovo notebook for work. Besides the computer bag, there are four mobile phones, various chargers, a wallet, headphones and two books.
How time flies! The 12 day holiday officially ended today. Of course, my heart has never given itself a holiday.
12 days holiday, except for an old friend who was invited out to chat yesterday afternoon, the rest of the time was spent at home. Either study at home or go out with your parents to visit relatives and friends.
Apart from studying at home, what I can do is very limited. I can only accompany my parents, eat every meal they cook and listen to them.
Perhaps, some people always think that their parents nag. And I suddenly found that I haven't heard my mother chanting for a long time. One day, I will finally understand that these nagging will become an out-of-print and luxury.
Just like this year, I have been chatting with my mother on WeChat voice almost every day in Beijing, but she will feel uncomfortable if she doesn't call me for a day. You said people were strange. You used to hate them, but now you want to. It's really a mind, a world, a flower and a heaven.
The deepest topic I talked to my mother was that I asked her what kind of girl you want me to find in the future. Actually, I have a good idea, but I still want to hear it from her.
Eat well, speak well. It should be a very simple thing to say, but it seems that there are very few things that can really be done. Even listening, many of us really won't, won't.
Looking back now, did you play with your mobile phone while chatting with them? Did you chat on WeChat when having dinner with them?
When I realize that affection and companionship are important enough, I will never bring my mobile phone to the dinner table or hold it in my hand every time I have dinner and chat with them. Love them, starting with putting down the phone.
When you read this article, I will be on my way to the airport. I don't know why I booked such an early flight. At the moment, my mother is cooking breakfast for me in the kitchen, and I am distressed that my father has to get up early to see me off.
I vaguely remember that many years ago, my mother insisted on sending me to the station every time, and every time I was about to check out of the station, my mother burst into tears. The more she is like this, the more uneasy I am when I leave.
I am a person who doesn't know what tears are all the year round. I just don't cry anyway. The most impressive time was many years ago, on my train going north to return to school.
At that time, the situation at home was not particularly good, and parents always quarreled. At that moment, I felt powerless, even incompetent. Tears are like faucets at this time. Once the water valve is opened, it cannot be closed again.
On the train that night, I didn't care about other people's eyes. I only remember tears rolling down my cheeks like a disobedient child. I cried so brazenly that no one around me knew what had happened.
This is not a wail, but a silent cry. Looking back on all this now, I haven't shed tears for so many years, perhaps because I cried all my tears at that time.
Later, my family bought a car, and my father basically took me to the airport, just like today. Fortunately, thank God, I have my own career and my own little world in Beijing.
It is said that going out is to come back better, even if I live in Beijing recently. But home is always home, a harbor worth staying in, no matter how stormy it is outside.
02
What is hometown and what is far away?
A few days ago, I saw an article written by Tian Ruxue, a book friend, entitled "There will be no dusk at home". In her article, she mentioned her hometown, one of the top ten poverty-stricken counties in China. After reading the following passage, my heart was moved and my eyes shed tears. She said:
The word "hometown" has a unique meaning for everyone. Hometown represents the return, so no matter how far you go, it is for a better return!
All this is brought to me by my hometown, and I will never forget it. I always say don't forget your initiative, and my initial intention is to urge me to leave my hometown, simple and simple, follow my heart and yearn for freedom!
So, I will always remember where I came from and where I am going. No matter what identity I have and what I have done in the future, there is only one identity that will not change, that is, I will always be a girl in our village, and I love the land where I was born and raised, and its position in my heart will never be irreplaceable! "
Yohji yamamoto once said that "ego" is invisible. Only when you hit something else and bounce back, will you know "yourself"!
My interpretation of this sentence is: people should go out to see the world. When you are young, don't always know the world from other people's mouths or eyes. You must go by yourself, meet more interesting people and see a wider world. Only by going out will it make "coming back" more meaningful. Only by going home after vicissitudes of life will you know what the real "self" is!
In order to find yourself, you can only go out again and again, go home again and again, and start again and again. In this process, I worked hard and grew up, so I didn't waste this round trip home!
I always feel that not every time I go home, it is valuable, so I have my own set of judgment criteria on how to distinguish whether every time I go home is valuable.
When I got on the train home, my heart was full of satisfaction and expectation, and I clearly knew the direction after this journey.
Home is just a post where we put our souls, and it is also a symbol and ritual feeling of starting over in our hearts!
Why does home have such magic? Because the atmosphere at home is simple and simple, the smell of fireworks will dilute your inner anxiety and depression.
Friends sit together chatting aimlessly, talking and laughing, family members are frolicking, and the round smiling faces make people feel that there is a powerful force in their hearts.
Without great pain, there will be no humble happiness. Only through busy work can we appreciate the happiness of family reunion at this moment, and we can also recognize this "humble" happiness and cherish the hard-won family happiness at this moment!
And as long as we know how to cherish happiness, we will know how to get happiness … I hope that every time I go home, I will bring a stronger heart, strong enough to protect my favorite family, so that they will no longer worry about me and worry about me!
Let the stars float and sink … and home is always the lamp in our hearts, let us ignore the noisy world of mortals outside! "
This is Tian Ruxue's hometown and a distant place in her heart. Thank you for her kind words. Finally, you are welcome to leave me a message in the comment area and tell me your hometown and far away.