In fact, at the time of Ode to Joy 1, many people didn't understand why Dr. Zhao, who was gifted, knowledgeable, elegant in taste and came from an intellectual family, was not attracted by the customs with the same taste as him, but was attracted by Quyao Qin, which was uneducated, full of bad water and low in taste.
Let's take a look at Dr. Zhao's personality in combination with Xiaoqu's growth, working environment and personality.
So, what does Dr. Zhao love ditty? Nothing serious. In Dr. Zhao's words, the real life is the combination of serious and depressed work and interesting and relaxed life.
In Xiaoqu's words, you, a scholar, don't love everyone's noble family, but like me, a goblin who seduces men.
So, will Dr. Zhao have the idea of marrying Xiaoqu and going home? Maybe, but what he told his mother was interesting: too much attention to foresight limited development anyway. To put it bluntly, he only considers the near worries. As for marriage, he will wait and see. Anyway, he is not in a hurry, living in the present.
Because, in fact, in his mind, it is clear that a series of problems such as his concept, personality, environment and family with Xiaoqu will become increasingly prominent with his getting along, whether he chooses to escape recognition or not.
However, the confrontation and conflict of personality concepts will not find you unless you escape. It's there. It has to be faced.
How many times will you inadvertently touch Dr. Zhao's bottom line after such a ditty? She doesn't understand his world at all.
This is the second conflict of their personalities, thick-skinned and bottomless.
The third conflict stems from self-esteem, family background and income reality.
This night, have both of them thought it over? Are all smart people, can't you make it clear? Tired. Such a ditty is really tiring. Is this Dr. Zhao still Dr. Zhao
I read an article saying that when Xiaoqu broke up with Dr. Zhao, I mentioned a sentence from Xiaoqu's friend, "We can't go bankrupt to appease his self-esteem, can we?" The article seems to despise such a so-called self-respecting person. In fact, most men are afraid of being called a gigolo, which is normal. But Dr. Zhao's personality is particularly obvious. Compare Wang Baichuan. Think about it. If Wang Baichuan were Dr. Zhao, would he feel humiliated? No, relying on women is a pain for Dr. Zhao, but it is an advantage for me. Otherwise, he wouldn't rely on Fan Xiaomei's relationship to win over Xiaoqu and Bao Zong's personal connections to expand his business. What is different from Dr. Zhao is his occupation and personality.
But more is personality problem.
Then, let's go back to Xiaoqu's personality cooperation with Dr. Zhao.
In real life, people with similar personalities are rarely grouped together. When each of us is looking for the other half, we are actually looking for our own part. Therefore, everyone will be attracted to the person who is different from himself. However, differences will inevitably conflict.
After a long time, Xiaoqu tried her best to please her but often patted her ass and legs. Even if she becomes a dog, she can't understand Dr. Zhao's internal construction system. Dr. Zhao will be challenged to the inner bottom line and order again and again by Xiaoqu, everything will be broken and everything will become disorderly and controllable.
Everything, if Dr. Zhao faces the customs clearance, will be as calm as water, without waves, because they understand each other's inner construction system, self-esteem, bottom line and order, which are inherent in their character and do not need to learn and please.
However, if Dr. Zhao is given another chance, he will choose Xiaoqu.
Just like thousands of families and marriages in our reality, even if you know everything, you are irrationally attracted to someone whose positive and negative poles are different from yours. The person who knows you is the same as you, just like a magnet, which repels each other not far away and prefers to look at each other from a distance.