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In 2020, it is generally felt that life will not be too easy and economic pressure will be greater.
Colleague awei has been complaining that his wife doesn't care about him at all, telling him not to say anything and not to give a dime to his family.
For this matter, this is just awei's unilateral complaint, because it happens that awei's wife Feifei is also our former colleague and we are familiar with her.
From awei's point of view, Feifei is a little unkind, knowing that her husband is under great economic pressure and doesn't give money to her family. But from Feifei's point of view, she left herself room and protection.
Awei and Feifei are typical couples who come together because of work. Later, under the pressure of the company, Feifei resigned.
At that time, Feifei had just got a marriage certificate with awei. Because the company stipulates that colleagues are not allowed to develop relationships or get married, so only one can be left.
Awei said to Feifei, "Feifei, you know, it's not easy for me to find a job in the same position alone, and we have to pay the mortgage. You are a girl, just find a job casually, I support you. "
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At that time, Feifei's consideration was that, anyway, both of them had already received marriage certificates, and they were all family members. Why do you care?
So Feifei resigned decisively. Who knows it's easier to resign than to find a job again?
Feifei used to be a technician, but there are few similar positions in the recruitment market. Not if you are tall. If it is low, it will not work.
Later, I managed to find a job similar to a clerk, with low salary, and was often used as a servant by the boss's wife-in-law.
One weekend, at 9 o'clock in the evening, the boss suddenly called Feifei and asked Feifei to go back to the company to work overtime. Feifei refused and was fired on Monday.
Feifei who lost her job was not sad at all, but felt relieved. She is going to take good care of herself and get pregnant.
For Feifei's decision, awei didn't interfere at all, just didn't agree.
When Feifei just resigned, first, she still had some pre-marital savings in her hand, and second, she was embarrassed to ask awei for money, so they didn't have a conflict over money, and they had a quiet and good life these years.
After a while, Feifei became pregnant, which strengthened her determination not to look for a job. For awei, it's good that his wife is pregnant, but she doesn't show much emotion.
But gradually, Feifei saved less and less money before marriage, until only a few tens of dollars were left in her hand, and awei's promise of "I will support you" was not fulfilled.
Feifei can't help asking awei for money, but when Feifei talks to awei, awei's attitude is very firm. He didn't give a penny.
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Awei said, "Feifei, after we got married, I paid the mortgage, and I usually pay the utilities at home. How dare you ask me for money? "
Feifei was immediately confused, and she also spent money. She spent all her money on vegetables, fruits and snacks at home. She hasn't been to work for almost a year, and she has never asked awei for money. This is the first time to ask for money. What's more, she is pregnant with awei's baby.
Finally, awei didn't give Feifei a penny.
Feifei had no choice but to borrow some money from her parents and then find her former colleagues to do private work. Although there is less money, it is better than nothing.
When she gave birth, Feifei knew that she couldn't rely on awei. She begged her parents early and advanced a maternity grant to solve her urgent needs.
After giving birth to the child, but only more than two months later, Feifei weaned the child, threw the child to her mother-in-law and went to find a job herself.
People who don't know the situation around them say that Feifei is ruthless and the child is weaned at such a young age. But anyone who knows about Feifei knows that Feifei really has a very convincing reason, because awei still won't give her a penny.
Sometimes Feifei is really fed up because she has to quarrel with Feifei and buy some diapers and clothes for her children.
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Fortunately, many things happen. After three months of searching, interviewing and trial work, Feifei finally found a relatively good job.
Because Feifei is more serious and responsible, and very practical and capable, she soon passed the probation period and her salary increased a lot. After Feifei went back to work, she no longer spent money on small families, but paid nothing for her children and herself.
It doesn't matter at ordinary times, but the industry was depressed last year, and awei's income was greatly reduced. This year, it is likely to be laid off.
It is also very difficult for awei to repay the mortgage and other expenses. So he said to Feifei, "Why don't you give the family a dime? Now I am more difficult, you have to share. "
It's okay not to mention money. I get angry at the mention of money Feifei and ask awei, "You didn't give me any money when you were pregnant, and you never gave birth to a child, no matter how hard it is. I don't care if you can live this life, or divorce if you can't. "
Awei at feifei incredibly want to divorce, there would be no say anything.
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In fact, Feifei has admitted that she doesn't feel that she and awei have too deep feelings, but just make do with it.
To be exact, since awei asked him for money for the first time when Feifei was pregnant and gave birth to a baby, Feifei's heart died.
For the sake of family, a woman is willing to give up her good job, go home to take care of a man, and take risks to have children for a man. What a brave decision!
Unfortunately, everything was ruined by this man's ignorance and selfishness.
Feifei realized that women can only rely on themselves, and only by themselves can they live. So Feifei will be indifferent to awei's difficult mortgage repayment, so Feifei is determined to wean her children and find a job.
Feifei once said firmly that since then, she has never asked awei for a penny, but she also decided not to spend a dime for her family.
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If a couple hurts their feelings for money, there is a high probability that it will affect their feelings more or less, and it is very likely that they will never return.
Maybe Feifei should be glad that she can find a job again. This meager income can support herself and her children.
Feifei said that she was not afraid of divorce, but she would never cut her back again because a man lost his job.
Actually, that's what women should do. No matter what a beautiful marriage, no matter how much this man promises you, in the end, you can only rely on yourself.
It's hard for a woman. After marriage, she will keep her job, do housework, have children, nurse and even take care of children. However, any marriage can't rely on the woman alone, and it needs the joint efforts of two people in the marriage to get happiness.
Women have their own income, work, and family chores naturally need to be shared by two people. The child belongs to two people, and there should be two people to bear the responsibility of raising it.
In the final analysis, no matter when and under what circumstances, women need to think more about their small families and husbands, but they also need to think more about themselves and leave a guarantee for themselves.