Mom: Three weeks ago, the school called and said that the child was going to climb over the wall to buy something for other students, but it didn't turn out, and then called the parents. ? After the child's father went, he directly pulled the child's luggage and bedding back. I want my children to reflect at home. After more than a week, the child went to school again. It was when the child was at home that his father dropped the child's mobile phone. Now children don't want to stay at home even if they come back on Sunday, so they are unhappy and keep a straight face. ? Yesterday, he called me again, saying that his father had dropped his cell phone and he felt sick. ? Let me buy him another mobile phone. I just want to ask, can I buy him this mobile phone? ?
Dean: I don't think it's a big deal for students to climb over the wall and steal something to eat at school. Why did his father drop his cell phone?
Mom: Well, he thinks it's a big deal. In fact, the teacher didn't say that you must bring the children back at that time, which means that you take them home for education, or the school handles education? Then my dad said, I'll take him away, and then I'll take him away. He also brought back his bedding and luggage. ?
I knew he was trying to scare the child to see if he would get into trouble in the future, and then he dropped his mobile phone. I think it's also to scare children.
Dean: This is not to scare children, but to show the immaturity of parents. ? You will find that instead of scaring the children, they didn't go to class for a week. Instead, I dropped my phone. If I drop my mobile phone, I will sign up for two practical classes. Why did you drop your cell phone? I dropped my phone. Is the problem solved?
Mom: Well, he said he was so angry that he dropped his cell phone. I said you can hit him twice if you are angry. My children also said that they would rather be beaten than break their mobile phones. ?
Dean: So, this is a typical parent's immaturity. Parents' methods are simple, direct and rude. In the end, you see, it's really troublesome. It's normal for children to make mistakes, can you understand? Who didn't make mistakes when he was a child? ? So what we are doing now is a bit troublesome. Will you find out whether children are passive or adults are passive now?
Mom: Adults are passive.
Dean: What are the reasons why adults are passive? ? Because adults are too headstrong. ? You see, in yesterday's experience class, I just said that when we adults have a set of scientific methods in our minds, every mistake a child makes is an opportunity to improve him. ? When there is no such method in this brain, every mistake a child makes is an opportunity for him to clean up. ?
You see, after you clean up the children, you will eventually find that adults are more passive than children. Either come out to study or cry at home, you have to choose one.
Mom: I see.
Dean: What grade is the child?
Mom: Grade one.
Dean: The first day, it was 13. ?
Mom: She is almost 13 years old.
Dean: What's wrong with climbing over the wall? ? What's wrong with making mistakes? Parents must know that it is normal for children to make mistakes. This school has been cleaned up, and then I will clean up the children when I get home. ? You are very passive now. Do you want to buy a mobile phone now? ?
This is what I always say, parents either come out to study or get angry at home and break their mobile phones. I just said it yesterday. ? Write it down, will you?
First of all: Talk to children according to the first and second articles of the double circle theory. Do you know what the double circle theory is?
Mom: Double circle theory? ?
Dean: Of course I don't know. I can hear your tone. You don't know. I can't tell you here either. ?
Mom: I've only heard of that experience class, the 99-meter one.
Dean: Sign up for the practice class and study hard. When the child is in the first grade, it's not too late. You have to take a practical class, like this kind of problem, he is nothing. It belongs to my parents because they haven't studied it, so how can I tell you the first one? ?
First, you have a formal communication with your child first. ? Is to let the children talk about their views on this matter. For example, what do you think of climbing over the wall? ? I'm not criticizing you. What do you think of this? Dad was so angry that he dropped your mobile phone. What do you think of this? It is to have a formal communication with children and their views on this matter. ? Can you understand its meaning? ?
Mom: I can understand.
Dean: Then let the children express their views on this matter. ? Just like Russia and Ukraine are at war now. Shall we ask the child to talk about his views on this matter? This is the first step. ?
Second, no matter what the child says, you will say something after you say it. Then how to solve this problem? ? Let the children talk about the possibility of solving the problem. For example, apologize to the teacher, for example, promise not to climb over the wall in the future, for example, not to make parents angry, for example, apologize to dad, in order to explore more possibilities. Just ask the child how to solve this problem. Let him say a few more words, and you listen. ?
Third, I think this mobile phone must be bought. ? But since neither you nor the father have studied it, you two can discuss how to solve this problem. This is the third rule. That is, the first two you tell your children. The third rule is that you must meet your father. ?
You see, every day we contact our parents who haven't studied. ? This communication is more troublesome. Do you think if you communicate with the child's father and ask him to buy him a mobile phone, will the child's father be willing or unwilling?
Mom: Yes.
Dean: Yes, then buy a mobile phone for your child. You can drop it and sign up for two practical classes. ? You said that if I didn't talk in class, I would either go home and smash my mobile phone or come out to study with the money from smashing my mobile phone. Learning can solve many problems. ?
So you discuss with the father of the child. If he is willing to buy it, what should we pay attention to? Look at the message in the live broadcast room. There are many old classmates, and I'll talk about this core right away. Even if you buy this mobile phone, you should pay attention to improving your child's management ability. You write this sentence down. ?
Mom: OK. ?
Dean: The emphasis is on improving children's ability to manage mobile phones, rather than preventing children from playing mobile phones. ?
Mom: I wrote this sentence down. ?
Dean: Write it down. How can we improve our children's ability to manage mobile phones? Divided into three aspects, you can remember it again. ?
1 is to let children communicate with their parents. How to use this mobile phone? At the same time, parents take their children to buy this mobile phone. ? This is the first one. You wrote it down. ?
Let the children tell themselves how to use it, and then take them to buy a mobile phone. Is that mobile phone card still usable? ?
Mom: Well, that works.
Dean: Generally, the result of dropping a mobile phone is that the card can still be used. However, it still costs money to buy a mobile phone. Put the card in the business hall, that is, after you buy the mobile phone, you can put the card in the mobile phone in front of the staff in the business hall. ? This process needs to be completed in the business hall where the mobile phone is bought, remember? ?
Mom: Well, let him pretend?
Dean: You'd better let him pretend. If he didn't want to, he wouldn't come out with a needle. ? Another is to see if it can be realized and take a photo with the children in the business hall. ?
Mom: OK, give it a try.
Dean: Do your best to achieve it. This is why parents who don't study worry about giving their children mobile phones every day. My three children, mobile phone and ipad, all took a group photo in the business hall. ? Mobile phones are not the most terrible, but people who use mobile phones have problems, and mobile phones also have problems; What's a scalpel for? Doctors use it for surgery to save lives, and bad people take it away, and he can still kill people. ? Therefore, scalpels are not terrible, but those who use scalpels are terrible. So the mobile phone is not terrible, who is using it is terrible. Have the parents of this child who uses a mobile phone studied? This determines the child's future. ?
Mom: The child didn't mean to play with his mobile phone all the time.
Dean: In this case, your connection today proves one thing. Do you know what this is? Proved dad's stubbornness and willfulness. ? By smashing his mobile phone, he made a big fuss and didn't educate him as a child.
Mom: Yes. ?
Dean: Why don't I stop talking? This is that parents who don't study are doomed to spend more money and trouble. Your child has no education either. You dropped your cell phone. Tell me why, will you? ?
Well, there are three elements to buying a mobile phone. (Let the children talk about how to use the mobile phone first? Second, go to the business hall and buy him a mobile phone. Third, take photos in the business hall. )?
This is the first one. Did you write it down? ?
Mom: OK, let's get started.
The second rule is to let children talk about the use of mobile phones under any circumstances. ? It is to improve the possibility of children using mobile phones. ? For example, if you often cook at home and don't know how to do it, just hold your mobile phone and search for how to do it. ? Then, do you want to post a nutrition recipe in the kitchen? Practical classes all talk about these things, that is, we must post nutrition recipes in restaurants. ? Brush Tik Tok with your mobile phone and learn to cook. ? That is, you should let your children know that the mobile phone is a tool with more possibilities, that is, more possibilities. ? What's the matter? Baidu searched for something. ? Then we should get into the habit of asking what we don't know, and then you should say to the children, Come on, search quickly, and you should write down the word "search". ? Is to let children know that mobile phones are a tool.
Third, turn the mobile phone into a way to enhance feelings. Do you have a WeChat group at home? ?
Mom: Well, the family group, right? There is one.
Dean: Who is in the group?
Mom: No one in the group is active, and basically no one talks. ?
Dean: I said who is in the group?
Mom: Well, parents, then relatives and friends.
Dean: I asked about your family group.
Mom: The family group is the children's grandparents. ?
Dean: You mean all grandparents, relatives and friends live in your home? ?
Mom, I thought you said WeChat group.
Dean: This is the group I was talking about. ? You see, what did this expose? Parents are not close. You mean family groups, okay? Grandparents, relatives and friends, that's called family group. I asked your family group. Who are the members of your family? Mom and dad have children. How many children do you have? ?
Mom: Two, a boy and a girl.
Dean: Then there are four people in your group, father, mother and two children. Can you understand? ?
Mom: Oh, I see.
Dean: That is to say, if you don't have a family group, you won't feel intimate. Our family is a group, and there are only parents and children in this group. ? You just said it's called the family area, and your family group is still not active, which proves that no one in your family can support family affairs. Understand?
Mom: Hmm.
Dean: So your husband should take the responsibility. Why do you want your husband to bear it? Because he is a man, he must be mature. He often sends out red envelopes in family groups, and also sends out delicious food at home in family groups. ? Just not so active, at least it's a way of communication. ? So this is my third suggestion. You and your husband should start a family. ?
Then according to the requirements of practical classes, rearrange the physical environment at home. ? I will talk about this ground course from the perspective of traditional Chinese medicine and geomantic omen. ? Arrange this family well. ?
Then we should exchange some things in the group, such as asking the children what they want to eat, and whether this can be found on Tik Tok.
Just remember, it is enough to turn your mobile phone into a way to enhance your feelings. I just talked about three aspects, and you put these three. Write it down and implement it one by one. ?
This can be done from telling children how to use and manage mobile phones. ? At the same time, tell the child's father not to break the phone in the future. ? Don't break your phone and bowl when you are angry, okay? Dishes are worthless. ?
So try to solve the problem in the right scientific way as much as possible, instead of venting emotions. So it's best not to fall. It's really unbearable and cheap. ?
So you and your father must study. You can smash bowls. Bowls are cheap. ? You just have to remember what I told you, and you just have to carry it out these two days, okay? ?
Mom: Well, ok, thank you, Dean.
Dean: Well, all right, that's it. Ok, bye!
The name of the WeChat connecting my mother is, on the way to study. After hanging up the phone, the dean gave suggestions around this name:
You see this mother is still "on the way to learn from the scriptures." Don't write your signature like that. On the way to learn the scriptures, what does this mean? ? Represents hardship, represents pain. ? It is this person's name that will affect his fortune. ? The mother who just connected suggested that you change the name of WeChat. This name is hard to remember, and it is doomed to go through many hardships. ? Even with a name, you should be positive and be a good person. It can give you a sense of strength, that is, your name will affect your fortune. ?