—— Wang Jiqiong
Tik Tok, a junior girl, is called "Thousand Donkeys and Lucky Qiong": I heard my classmates talking about her behind her back: pretending to be good or something, and even swearing, feeling that she was insulting herself. Psychologically unhappy, I don't know what to do. Ask the dean for help.
Dean: You should understand a profound truth: Because you are awesome! Do you think someone slandered me?
Girl: No.
Dean: Yes, some people say that I am bluffing and that I am not good at this and that. You said I would talk to them. number
Girl: No.
Dean: I have time to talk to them and say they are weak behind their backs, you know.
Uncle teaches you three tricks, you take a piece of paper:
The first trick, the classmate said you: she is pretending, and she can pretend very well. Hearing this, you generously told them: Let's discuss it together. How did I pretend to be a good girl?
I'm not pretending. If I pretend to be quiet, but I'm really fine, I'll throw water in your faces. I didn't say it because I was educated, you know? Speak out if you have any opinions, can you understand me?
This is called face to face, face to face once, at most three times, and he won't dare to do this to you. People only bully the weak.
Girl: She refuses to talk about me behind my back. What should I do?
Dean: Then you said, I'm sorry, I was wrong. Go ahead.
Let me tell you a story. I once went to Chengdu to give a lecture. At least one teacher in our level has a big bed room, but there were many meetings in Chengdu that time and the hotel was very nervous. I live with another expert. His name is Kevin and he is in charge of investment promotion. I'm talking about psychological capital. We are related by blood and know each other, but we don't know each other very well. So I chatted in the room for a while, then I watched my mobile phone and he watched TV. After a while, I heard a very discordant voice. He said there: Wang Jiqiong turtle, Wang Jiqiong turtle, Wang Jiqiong turtle. You said, if others say you, are you angry?
Girl: I am angry.
Dean: I get angry, too. But the difference is that you are angry, it's true qi, I'm angry, and I'm looking for a wise way to fix it. Can you understand?
This is the difference between people, and this is our difference. You are really angry when people call you little turtle, and I am angry when people call me little turtle, but I want to find a wise way to get rid of him. Do you understand the difference between us?
What my uncle wants to tell you is that in this life, some people are destined to like you, some people don't like you, some people praise you, and some people attack you. The world is not made for us. It's the third grade now, so I have to go to senior one, senior two and senior three, freshman two and junior three, and have a job and a life. Can you guarantee that you are all people who like you in the future?
Not necessarily!
Girl: Yes.
Dean: When you meet someone you like, be nice to others. If someone we don't like speaks ill of us, we should use our brains and wisdom to clean him up. We can't always be angry with them. So what should we do? I said to him, Kevin, you said, Wang Jiqiong, tortoise, what you said is wrong. He was very surprised. I went on to say that you should say that Wang Jiqiong is a tortoise of 180 thousand. If I really want to live to this state, I am still alive when you die. Gnome male-",gnome male-",do you understand what this means? I scolded him politely.
Finally, he said, don't be angry, I didn't mean that. I said, do you think I'm angry? I'm still pointing out your mistakes. You call me little turtle, which is too low. You have to call me old turtle. You got it?
We must improve our skills, not everyone says we are good. We must say calmly: discuss it! This is the first step.
The second trick is not to discuss it. For example, people say, look at her pretending to be quiet and giving you nicknames, pig head and pig head, all of which are faking.
Louder, louder, you should speak louder so that the whole class can hear my nickname is pig head. Speak louder so that the whole school can hear you. People call you a pig's head, and if you don't get angry, they become pig's heads, gnome male-".
When people call you a pig head, you are really angry. You are really a pig head.
When they are like this, if you are not angry, they will find someone else when they are bored, understand?
Just like playing a game. It's been three days and a week, and it hasn't passed yet. Do you think anyone else is playing?
Girl: No.
Dean: So you should learn to improve yourself and protect yourself. Have you learned?
Girl: I learned.
The third measure is higher. You don't even have to pretend. Are you a girl who loves to laugh?
Girl: Something like that.
Dean: People who love to laugh are not bad luck. They became people who love to laugh, and I love to laugh. Daughter-in-law said I laughed silly, and I said it was safer to be silly.
So, we enter another scene, for example, we are doing our homework, and our classmates say we are pretending. You just have to give them your charming smile and scare them to death. He wants to say, pig head, pig head, you um [Guo 1]~~, go on with your homework. So if you hurt them with internal strength, you can put an ambassador to scare them to death.
If you are in senior three and someone is talking about you behind your back, you can say:
There are people talking about me behind my back in grade three, that is, grade three. I'm not afraid. Come on, speak up. If this situation doesn't happen to you now, but some people say that you still affect the college entrance examination in the third grade, it is better to talk about you now and improve your skills in advance, don't you think?
Now, if people don't speak ill of you, will you remember to contact me?
So I have to thank the classmates who bullied you. They asked you to contact me.
Girl: Do you want me to tell them calmly?
Dean: Just pretend to be calm. Slowly, you will really learn to be calm. Show your teeth and you lose. Look!
So you have to make yourself strong. Learn spiritually and emotionally.
Girl: Well, I see. Become stronger. Maybe I dare not say.
Dean: I have thought about it. I'll teach you the third trick, keep smiling, love someone, and improve the realm. If others don't like it, you will succeed and help you.
I have a colleague in Zhengzhou who is envious and jealous of me. He often speaks ill of me, and he also speaks ill of me when he lectures in other places. What should I do?