The first one: treat you as a spare tire.
Solution: What is missing, what is missing?
He didn't contact you. He must be dissatisfied with you in some ways after getting along. You must know what he has against you. You can look through your previous chat records, for example, he said "I don't like you …" "You said … you never changed" and so on. You can also ask your friend about his dissatisfaction with you. You can also look at his circle of friends and see his preferences.
You find out what he is dissatisfied with you, and after you find it, you must formulate targeted strategies to meet your interests.
How do you get what you want?
Use the rule of far before near.
Yuan Xian:
It is to run your WeChat circle of friends and let him feel and see from a distance. He likes sports, so you should send more sports-related content. He likes literature and art. You can punch in the library and dry new books. He likes girls who can cook, so you can cook in the sun and so on.
Back closer:
Is to meet, let him feel shine at the moment. He likes confident girls, so you should make yourself confident. He likes interesting girls, so you should find more interesting topics. Talk to him in the way he likes. Let him see your changes and make him feel that you are the goddess in his mind.
The second type: cold war with you.
Solution: Change the quarrel mode.
There is a cold war because men are afraid of quarreling and take evasive measures. You know, quarreling is torture and harm to a man. He hates this feeling of irritability. If he hates it, let him run away. He didn't contact you just to avoid quarreling with you again.
So at this time, you need to think calmly, whether there are more quarrels at ordinary times, whether he thinks you are "creative", whether he has said "he hates quarreling" many times, if so, you should take the initiative to find him and tell him, "There is something wrong with the way I handled problems in the past, and I won't quarrel with you again. Let's make up."
You should talk to him calmly and rationally, resolve conflicts, tell him what you think and tell him that you will solve problems in this peaceful way in the future.
The third kind: he doesn't understand women.
Solution: teach him.
Some men are really simple-minded. There is no romance in their ideas, and they can't manage feelings. You think you are making a mountain out of a molehill, but in his view, you are wasting your life and money. He doesn't know how to fall in love with you. If you often express his bad ideas in your usual love, he will feel that he can't do it, so he will leave you.
But you should know that straight men are also eager to be loved and passionate.
So you need to guide him, teach him how to make you happy, give him patience and encouragement, and tell him clearly what he can do. You have to believe that there is a romantic part in everyone's heart, but many people are suppressed or not stimulated.
You can try to take him to experience some interesting life, such as playing a script and choosing what kind of emotional book; Play role-playing games and experience love and killing at home; Tell him exactly what holiday to buy you and what gift. In short, you have to let the straight man experience passion, teach him to express love and let him know how to love.
You have to remember: don't let straight men guess what you are thinking, guessing will make him tired and run when he is tired!
I'm Zhou Xiaopeng, a marriage counselor. If you have marital emotional confusion, please leave a message in private ~