Let me talk about my personal experience first.
I am an emotional writer. Of course, if you have any misunderstanding about "writer", then you can acquiesce that I am a code word and just write an ordinary person related to emotions.
In the past two years, I have been misunderstood as an "emotional expert". Although I'm not, and I don't like this name, I still can't resist three or four thousand people asking me emotional questions.
Because many people don't know me very well, they may only know me through an article, and then guess that I know emotions very well, so I am added, hoping that I can help him solve the problem and unblock the emotional jam.
As soon as they come up, they will not directly tell me about their emotional troubles, but first find out my identity.
"What do you do?" "How old are you?" "Are you a man or a woman?" And "Have you ever been married?" These four problems are almost inevitable.
I didn't think it mattered at first, but I was really tired after many times. It seems impolite.
Just like when you add people, you don't even introduce yourself at first, and you don't even say who you are or what you do. From the beginning, ask directly, "Who are you, how old are you and what are you doing?" This is reflected in real life, that is, in the middle of the night, you wear a mask and hold a person on the road, asking questions, I believe most people will be very unhappy.
These people will have emotional troubles because they are rude to ask questions. First, I don't know the basic politeness problems; Second, I feel that I am the center of the world.
Of course, that's not the point. The point is: I really studied many emotional cases and learned a lot about emotion, psychology and marriage. Theoretically and intellectually, I really understand "emotion" better than the average person.
But-that doesn't mean I don't have problems. Just like a doctor, he cured many patients, which doesn't mean that he is not sick, nor does it mean that he can cure himself.
Having said that, I want to talk about my relationship with my ex-girlfriend.
I had a relationship in college. Vigorous and dying. We talked for two years and broke up. The reason for breaking up is because she said that I can't see the future, I have no progress and no hope.
When we broke up, I couldn't figure it out at first I made great efforts to save it, and I confessed in front of a building downstairs in the school, but I was declined.
Later, I became suspicious that she insisted on breaking up with me because she liked others. So I began to hate her and burned a lot of things she gave me.
After a while, I felt-even if she liked someone else, I would get her back.
Slowly, I don't think I can catch up. I just want her to stay single. When I become a climate and have a future, she can be with me again.
But I still think about her all the time I think I can't live without her, so I send her messages, breakfast and umbrellas every day. . . I did everything I could think of just to change her mind.
Later, she was really upset and cut off all contact with me. In this way, we embarked on a completely strange direction, and soon we will graduate from college, which may never be seen again in this life.
After graduation, I came to Beijing and started my work.
After working for half a year, I began to get the salary of nearly 2 1000 months (for a student who just graduated from college, this salary is actually not low). I still haven't forgotten her. I still miss her day and night.
I think, before, you said I was worthless and couldn't see the future in me. Now I should be able to show you the future.
At this time, something happened, which made us reconnect.