In our real life, we will always encounter many setbacks and difficulties of various factors, but people are all wise teachers who help us change the status quo and solve problems. Therefore, in our life and work, there are always more solutions than problems. For this reason, we have "negative emotions" in our lives, and we have ways to eliminate them.
(1) Everything in life has a causal relationship, and so does negative emotions. Be sure to find out the reason, suit the remedy to the case, and also find out the cause of the problem. At the same time, we should calm down and think carefully and use our brains.
(2) If negative emotions can't be avoided, you can also change the environment. For example, go out for a walk, visit relatives and so on.
(3) The appearance of negative emotions is closely related to our brain's way of thinking, so we must transform and adjust our way of thinking. Don't always think that some problems are innate and irresistible. You must have confidence in the problem and regard complexity as simplicity.
(4) When we have negative emotions, tell our friends or relatives about the problem and listen to their opinions when you are confused. This is also the best way to relieve stress.
(5) Make full use of these three ways: exercise, meditation and deep breathing to relieve negative emotions. Exercise can release people's nervousness, meditation can calm you down, and deep breathing can relax you and eliminate mental tension. (6) In life, people are influenced by environmental changes, and what kind of people you live with will lead a life. Therefore, in order to alleviate negative emotions, you should make friends with positive people, because positive people have many positive emotions that can affect your change and progress.
To this end, I have done the above problems, so I won't be paranoid when I have negative emotions.
There are too many negative emotions. What should I do if I always think about this? It will definitely help you find a suitable way to release negative emotions, learn to conform to the laws of nature and accept the natural changes of things.
How to deal with our negative emotions?
In fact, each of us will be upset, anxious and irritable because of certain things, and we will encounter negative emotions that make us unhappy. I remember that at the beginning of this year, a takeaway brother in Hangzhou rode a battery car retrograde at night and suddenly fainted when he was stopped by the traffic police. The pressure of life exists for each of us, and negative emotions are inevitable. For example, the takeaway brother himself was forced by the pressure of life and went out to run a takeaway order in the middle of the night. The customer who ordered the food urged him to be late and was complained. His girlfriend who didn't have the key urged him to go home and deliver the key. He was stopped by the traffic police in a hurry. The sudden pressure caused the negative emotions of the takeaway brother to collapse for a long time, so the intercepted brother burst into tears and impulsively jumped off the bridge.
Too many negative emotions in our hearts will have a negative impact on our lives, especially on young people who work hard in the face of life pressure. It can be said that it is of great significance to learn how to manage and alleviate their negative emotions, and it is also the only way to help us cope with stress and succeed.
On how to deal with our negative emotions and maintain mental health, my suggestion is to release the pressure in time, learn to manage, and how to improve our emotions:
What should I do if I keep thinking about this?
Judging whether thinking is anxiety, if it lasts for a very long time (6 months) and has obviously affected the fear, anxiety, fidgeting and thinking in daily life, it may be anxiety or anxiety.
I hope my sudden interruption can help you, release negative emotions, face a healthy life, let nature take its course and do whatever you want. It must be helpful for you who are paranoid!
Try to calm down and adjust first. If it is still difficult, you can do psychological counseling.
Too many negative emotions. Frankly speaking, it is not good for yourself, uncomfortable for yourself, and has an impact on interpersonal relationships. People around you are reluctant to associate with people with too many negative emotions.
More importantly, they don't know how to help, and inappropriate responses may hurt themselves, leading to a vicious circle, accumulating more negative emotions, or becoming emotional explosives, which will be ignited at any time, difficult to control and more dangerous.
Then the above cycle may bring your own ideas, be strengthened in another step, and cause interference to yourself.
I am always worried that there will also affect the effect of doing things, and it is difficult to be peaceful in leisure.
It would be great if emotions were properly vented, psychologically detoxified, cleared up and then adjusted. I often help my visitors to consult in this way. I remember a high school teacher who was angry with everyone and wanted to lose his temper. Later in the consultation, he tried to talk about his previous family changes and vent all his emotions. Now that he has basically recovered, he is no longer affected by that kind of emotion and worry.
Whether you are yourself or others, it is recommended to guide emotions with reason when facing emotions. This point has been studied in psychology, and many emotional theories support it, such as the cognitive theory of emotions (psychologist Arnold's evaluation-excitement theory, schacht-Singh's emotional theory).
The wisdom of China's Putonghua is better than that of western psychological theory, which can be seen from the Book of Changes, the Tao Te Ching and The Analects of Confucius. When we look at Taiji Bagua and Sixty-four hexagrams, we are all talking about adjustment: one yin and one yang call out that life is to adjust to a reasonable position in stages. That kind of negative emotion can also be adjusted.
We are full of wisdom. We use reason to guide emotions, but we can guide emotions, but we can't control them. It's no use controlling them. If it is controlled for a while, it will be painful and will rebound if it cannot be controlled for a long time.
Have hope in yourself, death is greater than silence. This is a very good motivation and start to adjust yourself, work hard or ask for help! Everyone has a chance to bloom! Brilliant future!
Hemingway said: Being superior to others is not noble, but being superior to yourself in the past is truly noble.
I hope I can adjust myself and not be disturbed by that kind of emotion. I wish you all a happy work and life.
If you realize that self-regulation still doesn't work, you can consult me and find another consultant.
Live a good life of 20 19, let us remember every day.
Authors: Psychotherapist, psychological counselor, focusing on love and marriage emotional counseling, intimate relationship, family therapy, interpersonal relationship, and student learning psychological counseling. Wechat official account: Lin Rong Psychology.
You are worried, anxious and have a lot of negative emotions, which shows that you are an emotional person.
If this continues for a long time, it will have a great impact on work and life. In this case, there is a simple and easy method.
Yuji Akayu, the founder of McKinsey Korea Branch, put forward the method of "A4 paper notes" in "Thinking in Zero Seconds".
As long as you have a pen and a few sheets of A4 paper, you can instantly help yourself clear your mind, become calm and improve your ability to solve problems.
The specific method is:
① When you are in the mood or have problems to solve, take out an A4 piece of paper and put it horizontally;
Horizontal, not vertical. People's thinking mode is more suitable for horizontal writing mode.
② Write a title (question) in the upper left corner; Write the date in the upper right corner (20190605);
Draw a horizontal line under the title as a separation, and write down your current thoughts and feelings under the horizontal line. It is best to divide it into 4 to 6 points, each line is about 10-20 words;
④ Take another piece of A4 paper for each idea and continue to write ideas;
⑤ Dig into every problem or difficulty until there is no clue;
⑥ Arrange your notes in chronological order and review them regularly within 3 months and 6 months.
The human brain can only remember four pieces of information at the same time. Writing ideas quickly can store a lot of content outside, which can reduce the pressure of chaotic thinking in the brain and improve thinking ability and efficiency.
Moreover, a quick analysis of our emotions and problems can help us get to the essence of the problem and form the ability of intuitive thinking. Next time you encounter similar problems, you can subconsciously generate solutions.
Some people think A4 paper is too wasteful. Actually, it can be written on discarded A4 paper. When you are away from home, you can also take simple notes with your mobile phone.
Learn this method with specific cases.
Below, we will use "A4 paper note method" to help "Yang Er" solve emotional problems.
She described her recent state as "inferiority, fatigue, depression, sulking, inability to express, and crying in the middle of the night", all of which are the negative effects brought by emotional backlog.
Now, take out a piece of A4 paper and set the phone to 1 minute countdown or stopwatch mode.
Then, write down your inner thoughts without reservation. Never mind other people's opinions, write down your repressed emotions.
Topic: How can we stop being emotional and become happy and peaceful? (question)
1. Why am I in a bad mood recently?
I feel useless and mediocre.
I hate the supervisor, and I hate her to death. (If you write in a company, you can use letters like dsb instead. )
4. I am always sulking alone, and no one tells me.
There is no motivation in work and life is not satisfactory.
6. What will happen if I keep being so emotional?
When the first piece of paper is full, the thinking becomes organized. Now, take out another piece of paper and write "1, why am I in a bad mood recently?" If so, continue to write and time for one minute.
Topic: Why am I in a bad mood recently?
1, it feels very general and can't compare with others.
2. The work is not active, and the unit does not evaluate it. I think people will look down on me for this.
I hate the supervisor of the unit. She treats me badly and doesn't respect me.
I don't know how to adjust my mood and cheer up again.
I think hard and often lose sleep, but I still haven't improved.
Now, Yang Er finally knows that there are complex reasons behind his bad mood, including the inferiority complex developed since childhood, the recent frustration at work, and dissatisfaction with the leader.
Now, continue to take out the third piece of paper and dig deep in the same way.
Topic: I feel useless and mediocre.
1. I am thirty years old, and I don't have much money and I don't work hard enough.
2. Is it useful to change the status quo by being so anxious, painful and thinking? This year's experience has proved useless.
I have read an article about self-acceptance before, so I'd better change my mind.
Instead of cursing yourself, let's take a look at how to adjust emotions and reduce pain. Only when the pain is reduced can we have the motivation to improve.
I want to try to accept my ordinary self and not compare with others. If I have a child, I will give her such unconditional love instead of forcing her to be better than others.
"You just want to be happy." I want to say this to myself every day.
Continue to write the fourth picture:
Topic: I hate the supervisor. I hate her to death.
1, wrote a lot of abusive words, and used up your vocabulary. (Try to use letters instead, such as qkb, ngdsb ...)
The reason why he makes things difficult for me everywhere is that ......
He does the same to others, so I know it's not just my fault.
Faced with this situation, I can do it next time. ......
After writing a few articles, my mood is smooth and my mood is stable.
Just try it.
The mood is always good and bad for a while. When you realize that you are in a negative mood, don't be overwhelmed by it. You must find ways to overcome it and solve it.
Here are some methods I often use to resist negative emotions:
1. You must talk to your good friend. Don't think it will affect them, because speaking out is the best way to release the current pressure and emotions, far better than hiding it in your heart and digesting it silently.
2. Empty yourself, spend some time watching some relaxing and funny variety shows, TV dramas, movies ... immerse yourself in a relaxed environment, and the whole person will relax and feel relaxed.
Don't stay at home, because staying at home is more likely to entertain foolish ideas and affect your mood, especially when you are alone.
4. Go outdoors to participate in some exciting entertainment projects, challenge your own impossibility, let yourself better discover your excellent self, and feel better when you see your versatility.
5. Take a short trip, play in the province, or go to a closer place. Of course, if you have enough money and time, you can also go further abroad and visit the frontier areas. Different scenery will definitely make you feel relaxed.
If you are a boy, you can invite others to play basketball, or play games, etc.
7. If you are a girl, you can go shopping or eat some sweets. Eating sweets will make you feel better. ...
8. One of the ways I learned to keep a positive and optimistic attitude in this workplace-the "three positive" summary method is to record the positive things I have done in my life or happened around me every day. If we persist in this method for a long time, we can still play a positive role in ourselves. Think more about positive things at ordinary times, and negative energy will definitely stay away from you! 、
The above are some methods that I think can relieve stress, and I hope they can help you.
Emotion is actually a psychological process and a signal light of our internal system.
Your negative emotions may just remind you that it's time to find your inner needs.
Events that induce negative emotions are often not caused by others, but by themselves.
For example, a mother loses her temper because her child didn't finish her homework on time. In fact, the underlying reason is that the mother demands perfection, so the child's fault becomes her fault, which makes her anxious and irritable.
For another example, because of the conflict of couples' travel plans, it may be that both of them have absolute requirements and feel that their plans are reasonable, and the other half must listen to me, otherwise they will make mistakes.
When you are keenly aware of your negative emotions, don't run away with them, but try to accept them and don't fall into some stubborn obsession.
Next time, when you are fidgeting and thinking, you can ask yourself-
Why do I have so many pessimistic or angry thoughts?
Am I too strict with myself?
Is my expectation of others too perfect?
Only by calming down can we calmly think about our inner needs.
You know, there is no good or bad mood.
If you are aware of your dissatisfaction, you will be able to better identify and control the next mood.
In addition, emotion is like a valve on a pressure cooker, and the pressure brought by dissatisfaction with demand is vented through this emotional valve. If we block the pressure valve, the pressure in the pot will be even greater.
Therefore, we can't suppress emotions blindly, which may lead to new outbreaks.
It's better to cry or sweat than to feel sorry for yourself for a week.
I wish you find the sunshine in your life as soon as possible and be positive and happy.
There are too many negative emotions. To find the source of the disease, we should go to extremes to recognize it. It is not a comprehensive view of a problem. It's like standing in the sun, you only see the dark side and don't look at the sunny side. So we should look at the problem from two aspects. There are more negative emotions than people and things we have come into contact with, and environmental factors have caused self-harm, self-distrust and self-abandonment. At the beginning of life, human nature is good, human nature is similar, and knowledge is far apart. Negative emotions come from the heart, and heart disease needs to be cured, so open your heart. Get rid of demons, face yourself positively, find your strengths, show your sunny side and believe in yourself. You are still an ambitious, burdened and idealistic person! Read more books in the afternoon to get up the morale. Watch more positive energy inspirational movies and TV! Find friends and relatives to tell their grievances, dissatisfaction, grievances, grievances. Vent it, you will get inner comfort, open your heart, and people will be sunny! Return to the embrace of nature!
thank you
There are too many negative emotions in our hearts, and we are always worried about this and that. This is an obvious manifestation of insecurity, which has a lot to do with our childhood growth experience.
Always worried about this and that, insecure. The way to solve problems from the outside is to come up with practical ways to solve problems of concern.
Last year, my father was always on a business trip. He often took the bus. Every time I see the news that the bus has an accident on the high speed, I am particularly worried. So I choose to buy insurance for my father, which can solve some worries.
Take me as an example, I want the subject to draw inferences from others and come up with practical solutions according to the problems I am worried about. Although it can't completely relieve my worries, it can at least play a role.
How to solve it from itself?
1 Keep yourself busy. Whether it's work or study, let yourself have a hobby and go out to make friends more. In short, don't stay at home alone. I remember that in the first three years, I basically took care of my baby at home, even if I went out, I wandered around the community. When I am free, when the baby is asleep, I often think about it, but then I find a pleasure. After enjoying it, I hardly have time to think about it.
2 adjust your mentality. There is a book called the Law of Attraction, which contains a classic story: A man stepped on shit in the morning, if he thinks: Why am I so unlucky today? Such a disgusting thing happened as soon as I went out. As a result, he had a bad day; But if he changes his mind: Wow, I'm so lucky. I must be very lucky today. Then his day will be particularly smooth, and nothing bad will happen again. This is the law of attraction, and your thoughts will attract you to the corresponding fortune.
3 Find the outlet of negative emotions. Nowadays, social pressure is great, and it is normal for many people to have negative emotions. Emotion is like Dayu's water control, which can't be blocked or suppressed, but can only be dredged and vented in a suitable way. Of course, the premise of this way of venting is that it can't hurt others. For example, some women are in a bad mood, and crying is a way to vent; Or go shopping with your girlfriends and have a chat; Some men are under great pressure to play a real CS, or go to the gym to practice sweating. Boxing in the gym is a good way to vent.
May each of us laugh at the difficulties and face the sunshine.
There are too many negative emotions in my heart, and I always think about it. Always worrying about this and that is actually a manifestation of anxiety.
What should we do in the face of this situation? Let's share a short story first.
I got off work one day at the weekend and suddenly needed a report, which was urgent. I don't have any information in my hand. My colleagues with relevant statistics are on vacation and I can't contact anyone. I was really worried at that time, and my anxiety came up at once. I don't know what to do.
I immediately calmed down and thought about what I need to do now, how to solve it, and what information I can use. Soon I remembered that I had made a similar report two days ago, and some data in it were just right.
I found that when I thought about how to solve this problem and implement it immediately, I put myself into action, so I didn't have time to think.
0 1. Do what you have to do.
For what we can control, we should do what we should and not think about it. We can concentrate on doing it. When you do something with your heart, your eyes, mind and heart are full of it, so you won't have time to think and have any negative emotions.
02. Let it run its course.
For things that we can't control, we might as well let nature take its course, and there is no need to think too much. The more you think about it, the more you worry, and the more negative emotions you have, and it is difficult to get out.
That's it. Eat when you are hungry and sleep when you are sleepy. You refuse to eat when you should eat, and you refuse to sleep when you should sleep. How can you not be negative?
So, forget it. Why bother? You must believe that tomorrow will be better!
Negative emotions are always thinking, which are lazy symptoms caused by external interference or doing nothing all day. To get back on your feet, you should set out from reality and love to do some housework. Only by loving the trivial things in life can we enrich ourselves and understand life and make life more meaningful. Full of strength, beautiful thoughts and feelings will be full, and the spirit of work will be full. Why not?