To tell a story, Lao Zhao, an old employee of the State-owned Enterprise Department, said that Lao Zhao is actually not old, only in his thirties, and he relies on the old to sell his old age when he goes to work; He readily accepted the work assigned to him by the leader. Turn around and throw it there and think about it later.
When the leader asked, Lao Zhao complained bitterly about how difficult it was to find information and how much work was involved. Occasionally, when Lao Zhao finishes a job on time, he asks the leader for credit. A lot of work in the department is stuck in the link of Lao Zhao and cannot be completed. Colleagues complained about him.
Lao Zhao is also a person who has an explanation, a landing and an echo. Is it reliable? Do you have to answer everything casually? Everything is in place, is it just sloppy? Everything has an echo, just a sound? I'm afraid it's more than that. Is there anything to judge whether the other party is reliable? A person's mentality and way of doing things are the real reasons for judging that he is unreliable.
When Confucius introduced telepathy to Zeng Shen, he said: I am in harmony with Tao. After Zeng Shen came out, his classmates asked him around him, hey, what did the master just tell you? Zeng Shen said: nothing, master said, be loyal and forgive.
Although loyalty and forgiveness are simple words, their connotations are very profound, including psychological and behavioral aspects. Loyalty, taken apart, is the word "upper, middle and lower heart". Loyalty can be understood as grasping the center.
What is the human center? Might as well ask yourself, what are the values of being a man? What kind of person do you want to be? This can be called the center of a person. A man must make up his mind that everything he thinks and does revolves around this center. A person has established his own values, and everything he does has been tested by his own thinking system to judge whether he can do it and how to do it, so he will no longer deceive himself. This is inner loyalty.
Tell a story about a man. Call him Lao Jia. Lao Jia has depression. After the doctor prescribed him antidepressants, he was advised to consult a psychologist and let him adjust from both physical and mental aspects.
When the psychologist first met him, he was wearing big sunglasses, a mask and a hat, and the brim of the hat was still low on a hot day. Wearing a pair of trousers, a long coat and a pair of leather shoes, the whole body is wrapped tightly, and his hands are still in his pockets. As soon as he entered the door, Lao Jia looked up at the clinic, as if looking for an emergency exit, in case he felt like running for his life later. After reading it, Lao Jia turned and closed the door, leaving the lock.
At the first consultation, Lao Jia and the doctor ignored him before they established a sense of trust. After half a year, Lao Jia gradually trusted the doctor. He told the doctor the truth. He said, doctor, in fact, my illness is heart disease.
Lao Jia said he was a taxi driver. One night, while driving, he saw that the road ahead was a bit crowded, but if he could get through, he stepped on the gas pedal and got through. Unexpectedly, when the car passed by a pregnant woman, her pajamas were caught by mistake and she fell down.
Lao Jia was stunned at that time. Lao Jia said that at that time, I thought, if this woman is disabled, I can't afford anything. Then he was black-hearted and dragged the woman far forward. When a person dies, the insurance company pays most of it, and Lao Jia has no personal influence.
The good times didn't last long. Before long, Lao Jia began to have nightmares every day. Because of fear and lack of energy, Lao Jia dared not drive a taxi. Later, he became more and more depressed and wanted to commit suicide. At the beginning, Lao Jia changed from a car accident to intentional homicide, and now he is tortured by his conscience, so that his body and spirit, and even his life, are seriously affected.
Later, after more than a year of negotiation, Lao Jia decided to turn himself in, even if he was in prison, he would take responsibility and just seek peace of mind. He said that he finally understood one thing. It is true that the heart is heaven and the mind is hell. This tragic car accident allowed Lao Jia to establish his own three views.
Indian Mahatma Gandhi said that man is the product of thought, and what he thinks in his heart will make him what he is.
Therefore, a reliable person must first make clear what kind of person he wants to be and rise to the point of belief. With faith, people have the ability to think independently, so that they can calm down in an emergency and not do things that they regret for life.
There is a saying that "those who have love come back are blessed", which is also the law of causality. Therefore, only by establishing honesty can people reap good returns.
So, what about loyalty? Zeng Shen said in The Doctrine of the Mean that loyalty and forgiveness are not far from violating the Tao. Don't do to others what you don't want them to do to you. In this sentence, there is a standard of "loyalty".
Dedicated to people and things, this is called loyalty. Specifically, don't add what you don't want to feel to others. Take other people's business as your own business, think carefully and do it with your heart.
Tell a story, a catering company competes for the chain canteen of the school, and the boss chooses dishes among two young people. As everyone knows, this dish is a fat job. A bad choice will make you fat and hurt the company. The boss decided to try them and let them investigate the price of potatoes in the market separately.
When the two young people came back, they both reported their information collection to the boss. One of them, he made a table of the size, price and origin of potatoes in the market, which made it clear. The boss thought he was very organized after reading it.
Another young man also listed the size, price and place of origin of potatoes, and explained that the starch content of potatoes in different places of origin is different, as well as the names and contact numbers of various suppliers. Not only that, he also wrote a suggestion that every time he buys food, he should leave a list signed by the supplier to facilitate the audit, and he can be held accountable in case of problems.
In his report, he suggested that in school, students have a short meal time, and it is recommended to buy some medium-sized potatoes with high starch content, which are affordable and high in starch content, can supplement students' physique, taste soft and glutinous, and are easy to digest.
The question is, if you are the boss, which report do you want to read and why? Anyway, I want to see the reports and suggestions written by people who do their best.
Well, to sum up, "loyalty" should be viewed from two aspects. One is to form personal beliefs from the heart and not deceive others. The second is to proceed from behavior and do things with heart.
What do you mean by forgiveness? Please see the next article "What is the real connotation of reliable work" (2)