1. Listen to him first, then let him listen to himself.
In marriage, we can see many silent partners, which is usually because the silent partner is defeated in the language struggle, so he adopts the policy of not communicating with each other.
So, don't be too eager to communicate, lest your speech turn into a hurricane and ruin everything in front of you.
2. Love is not right or wrong.
Many couples, once they have a quarrel, will argue about right and wrong and win or lose. There is no winner in the process of falling in love and quarreling!
In the process of winning or losing, in fact, everyone loses, because they forget the original purpose of communication and fail to achieve the expected communication effect. And many things in life are unsolvable, and there is no right or wrong.
Therefore, when there are differences, it is much better to say a few sweet words to your partner and think of a win-win solution than to argue endlessly about right and wrong and win or lose. Family is not a court, and husband and wife are not lawyers and judges.
3. Try to avoid expressing negative emotions.
When you feel sad and depressed, please stop for a moment. If possible, wait for yourself to calm down. Let calm but not excited emotions dominate the situation, so that you will become the master of your inner world.
When you are calm, you can convey your true thoughts. In this way, even if you are still complaining, your partner can still feel that you are saying, "I really love you."
4. Learn to enjoy silence together
Husband and wife for many years, sometimes really lack of topics, this time will be silent. We can make silence a way of communication, not just a pause in conversation.
Learn to explore your partner's spiritual world with your sensitive heart. Love will sublimate in harmony.
5. Watch your tone
Anger tightens the vocal cords, while love relaxes them. All human emotions can be reflected in the change of voice. If you don't notice these subtle differences, you can pay attention to them the next time you talk to others.
By changing your tone of voice, you can easily correct a negative attitude. Remember, your tone is as important as what you say.
6. Learn to speak with your eyes
The eyes are the windows to the soul. Scientific research shows that families who look at 15 minutes a day have a 70% higher sense of happiness than families who don't make eye contact. Make eye contact a part of communication language.
7. Be realistic about your partner's expectations.
Don't expect your partner to be perfect. People are inherently imperfect. Accept your partner for who he is, and don't create another one in your imagination. Only by acknowledging and accepting the reality can we live an easy life.
8. Make politeness a natural attribute of expression.
People always regard politeness as a "way of communication" and think that people at the bedside are already familiar with it, so there is no need to be polite. This is by no means the case.
True politeness is a sign of understanding and a sign of respect. Respect is an important aspect of love, especially for the person you love the most.
9. Lose your temper slowly and forgive others quickly.
Everyone in our family has their own towel. One day, I found my towel missing, and I was very, very angry. I was furious and thunderous. Only after the storm did we know that it was mother who washed all our towels. I can't regret it If I could lose my temper slowly and find out the truth, it wouldn't be like this.
10, try to sympathize with your partner when he tries to make amends.
Waving anger as a stick or wrapping yourself in a cloak of hatred is tantamount to selling their feelings to anger, which will only burn them black and blue.
So when you want to get angry, slow down and forgive others quickly, so it is easier to feel the happiness and happiness of marriage.
If you have other emotional problems, please come up and find a professional emotional counselor to answer them for you ~