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The love of parents and the state of the original ecological family directly affect the emotional marriage of children after adulthood. Many people can't get out of the framework and mode of their parents' emotional marriage all their lives, while some people try their best to get out of the shadows in their hearts. These people, who benefit from their parents' love, are still full of love for life and look forward to the beauty of love, rain or shine.
What is a tutor? Tutoring refers to parents' words and deeds to their children within the family, and parents conduct etiquette education for their children through their own practical actions (Baidu Encyclopedia).
From this family education concept, it is not difficult to see that the four key words are "family, words and deeds, practical actions, etiquette". Simply put, it is the education of family internal relations and the influence of family members' behavior on children.
In modern society, there has always been a highly respected relationship-the relationship between husband and wife must dominate the family relationship (a family of three or four generations), otherwise the family will definitely be unstable or unhappy. If the mother-child relationship or other relationships override this relationship, then family conflicts will intensify. The better the relationship between husband and wife, that is, the more loving parents are, the better the education of children will be.
Dad loves mom, which is the most basic family education and family atmosphere.
1.？ Dear mother keeps the happy energy in the family flowing.
Xiao Q is my primary school classmate. When I was a child, I often went to her home to do my homework with my friends. Everyone likes to go to her home to do homework, because every time she finishes her homework, her mother comes home from work and then smiles and says hello. After washing her hands, she went to the kitchen to take out the cut fruit, greeted everyone to eat together, looked at us tenderly and explained the exercises to us.
Every time I see her mother, I feel how gentle and happy she is. I felt very happy when I saw her.
Later, when I met Xiao Q's father by chance, I realized that the happiest thing was not Xiao Q, but Xiao Q's mother! Her father is very kind to her mother. Even the owner of our famous local restaurant chain often cooks for his mother at home from time to time, talks kindly with her, helps her clean up, takes her and her to travel every year and buys her beautiful clothes.
Xiao Q said that her father has become a role model for the man in her heart.
My friends and I both think the atmosphere in her home is very warm. Aya, in particular, refused to go back many times when we finished our homework and reviewed it. She was left for dinner and she nodded happily.
I see longing in Aya's eyes. Aya told me that Xiao Q's home was filled with a warm breath, which attracted her like a magnetic field and made her really want to stay a little longer. And she, when it comes to her parents, lowers her head.
Aya's father is also the boss, but he is basically not at home. His mother often can't find him Once she got through the phone and heard her mother yelling at people on the phone and began to cry. Hanging up the phone, Aya's mother cried and told her that your father, a heartless man, raised a mistress outside and bought her a house without telling us. He didn't give us a penny, you heartless thing.
Her father never looked Xiaoya's mother in the eye. He used to treat her mother as a servant at home and always yelled at her.
Her mother was mentally ill for a while and kept hearing voices. She couldn't help crying and getting angry at her, which scared Aya to death.
Xiaoya said that her mother was not happy at all. She has never been so happy as Xiao Q's mother. She was depressed and miserable. She told herself that my mother was unhappy and I couldn't make myself happy. Even if I had a moment of happiness at home, I always felt that happiness was a sin, because my mother was unhappy.
2.？ Parents' love has become a template for children's feelings.
I saw Xiaoya again. Many years later, in her early twenties, she was cursing a man on the street corner with her hair hanging freely. The man was about forty years old, squatting on the ground, smoking a cigarette, and looking at her sideways, looking like a broken jar. She swore so hard that she slapped the man and he turned away. Xiaoya burst into tears.
I happened to be shopping with Xiao Q, and I was frightened by this scene. Xiaoya said, come on, let's take Xiaoya to the teahouse. Xiao Q put her arms around Xiaoya, and I helped Xiaoya to the teahouse next to her.
Before we ask questions, Xiaoya sobbed about her experiences over the years.
Xiaoya's parents divorced in the year of senior high school entrance examination, and his father said that he left home clean, wanted nothing, and went south to work alone. My mother cried about it all day. Xiaoya looks like her father. Whenever she sees Xiaoya, her mother will say that she saw the hateful man and scold Xiaoya.
After failing in the senior high school entrance examination, Xiaoya didn't go to a key high school like us. She felt that life was hopeless, so she also went to Guangzhou to work. In the factory, the boring work and life of the assembly line made her feel almost like a robot on the operation line.
After working for several years, she met a man twenty years older than her, and treated her like a lover and more like a daughter. She wants this feeling so badly. Just like a hungry child found sweet breast milk, she threw herself into a man's arms. Although this man has a wife and children, she still waits for him until he promises to take her back to her hometown and live with her in peace.
What just happened in the street was that she found out that this man was lying to her, and she didn't leave his wife at all. She has been having an affair at both ends. She found that there were other women outside, and she almost collapsed.
Xiaoya began to cry again. Both Xiao Q and I think she is going to collapse. When we broke up with her, I asked Xiao Q what we could do to help her.
Xiao Q said, you have to believe her. We have to trust her. She is sure to get better.
3.？ The love of parents can light up the road ahead of children's feelings.
When Xiao Q said this, I saw the firm light in her eyes. Yes, she is an extremely optimistic girl, just as she has always believed in the existence of love and that life will be better.
Little q has been growing up in a honeypot. She went to a key university with many suitors, but she chose the most talented senior Lu Ge who borrowed money to go to school.
Brother Lu goes to tutor every weekend and is in the library from Monday to Friday. Q always studies in the library when dating him.
As soon as Lu Ge graduated, he signed up for a permanent project in Venezuela with the goal of high salary. Xiao Q once fantasized about being with Brother Lu after graduation. As a result, Brother Lu found someone to give her a message, because the boss introduced him to the daughter of a resource client and promised him a promotion and a raise.
How Xiao Q survived the gloomy days at that time is unknown. Growing up together, I know that she looks weak, but in fact she is very strong, obviously smart and independent.
Xiao Q said that she once questioned love, doubted life and even struggled, but in the end reason overcame emotion, because what she saw was that there was still love, true emotion, parents' love and father's love for mother. After all these years, it's still beautiful.
It was a summer afternoon three years later when I received the invitation from Xiao Q. I congratulated her from a distance on the computer, thinking that in recent years, she came out of the emotional swamp like a phoenix, firmer and happier than before, waiting for the person she likes among many suitors.
Many years later, I still have many feelings when I think of Xiaoya and Xiao Q.
Xiaoya was taller, more beautiful and better than Xiao Q when he was a child. After many years, time has turned them into two completely different people.
Many people always can't believe in love and don't want to believe in love, which is largely influenced by the relationship between parents from their families.
Some time ago, a beauty goddess in the entertainment circle suffered emotional betrayal. She always thinks she is beautiful, but every time she worships her man on the show, she even expresses her passion blindly.
Is she carried away by love? I happened to see her father once said in a famous program that he hoped his daughter would take good care of her husband's family after marriage. It suddenly dawned on me that in the family where she came from, my father may not love me as much as my mother, at least women have a low status in their family.
Some time ago, a diplomat's father was deeply impressed in the China blind date program hosted by Venus. He won the object that his son liked for his son, and his natural love for his wife made the female guests envious and full of praise. Female guests feel that having such a good father and son in such a family atmosphere will definitely be a good husband in the future.
The best tutor for a child's future happiness is that his father loves his mother.
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