Occasionally, I find that happiness always carries troubles and worries.
And this kind of emotion is usually divided into two situations:
One is that there are induced events. For example, I have had such an experience myself. A bad thing suddenly happened at work, which was very uncomfortable. I lie in bed at night and think a lot.
There is a more common one. We don't seem to have any problems. We go to work, eat and sleep normally every day, but we just feel stressed and unhappy.
After reading the book Mindfulness Through Depression, I learned many positive energy methods.
The author talks about how to understand emotions correctly and comprehensively from four aspects, and how to replace the original wrong behavior of resisting emotions with mindfulness through learning and practicing mindfulness.
Mindfulness through Depression has four authors, including Dr. mark williams and Dr. Joka Bajin, all of whom are top experts in mindfulness therapy.
This book is a classic masterpiece of mindfulness. Daniel Gorman, the "father of EQ" and Li Mengchao, a famous psychological counselor, also strongly recommend it.
How to deal with emotions correctly
When we have emotions, we should not treat our emotions with excessive meditation, nor use critical thinking to solve emotional problems, but treat them with awareness.
Mindfulness practice
Because our vision is narrow when we are emotional and we pay too much attention to the problems that need to be solved, everything around us will fade from our vision.
There is a movement mentioned in the book, which is called the raisin eating movement.
When you eat a raisin seriously, pick it up and feel it; Smell, smell; Look at it, vision; Eat, taste. This is the process of interacting with raisins and really experiencing the feeling of eating a raisin.
In daily life, we usually pick up food and stuff it directly into our mouths, with little interaction with food.
This exercise tells us that mindfulness is not about paying more attention, but about what you are doing with your body and senses and all your resources in different ways.
Live in the present
Learn to experience the present and focus on the perception of the present. Be aware of what you are doing, so that you can always feel completely together with life, which will give you an open feeling. We should treat those destructive thoughts as instantaneous things.
direct experience
Many of us, when we want to do something, always want to wait until I am free. The author tells us to experience directly, don't wait for the future, and don't always think that there will be a better life elsewhere. For example, take action immediately if you want to travel, and don't wait until you retire.
Exceed the usual target
Mindfulness requires us to go beyond our usual goals and not concentrate all our thoughts on these goals.
For example, we often judge our present situation in order to realize our ideals and goals, and often think about how to do better. Am I doing right or wrong now?
When we stop focusing on the gap between our feelings and our ideal feelings, we won't experience a series of unpleasant emotions because of this evaluation, and we can open our hearts to feel the bigger world, ourselves and that kind of harmony.
Don't shy away
Avoidance is a kind of behavior that we are used to treating emotions.