Because I don't know what happened to the landlord recently, I still want to advise you to adjust your mentality and live an optimistic life for your family and yourself. After all, to live is to enjoy life. Come on!
I did it. I was very young then. Because of my parents' work, I have lived in different homes every semester since primary school. Can you imagine how good it would be to live in someone else's house since childhood? No matter being bullied or praised at school, I am not happy. After all, no one shared it. But it took me a long time to know that I don't blame my parents. After all, this is the nature of their work. I can't change it, but I can change my mind. No matter what happens, you must rely on yourself, no matter what happens, you must be strong. People are either optimistic or negative! So I chose optimism, which is good for my parents and a better life for myself!
I still feel this inferiority complex occasionally now. I will think about what the problem is, and I will learn relevant knowledge. That's it. I slowly found my confidence.
Seeing this problem today, looking back, it has a lot to do with the influence of family background. When I was a child, my mother liked to compare my three children. I am the second child, a brother and a sister, and I do all the housework at home. My mother would always say, "A half-head that hurts a little and is neither painful nor charming". You won't get praise for doing anything, and you will be suppressed. It was not until my mother did the most housework in recent years and my mother relied on me that I began to abandon my inferiority complex.
This does not seem to be the case. I think others are rich in gold, silver, jewels and jade, and I am wearing a blue shirt, which is the purpose of dressing. Other people's delicacies are delicious, and my mouth is full of pickles. Eating is the purpose. Others have fun, I read and write, and leisure and happiness are the purpose. You have a romantic life, I have evening breeze and cool summer, you can have peach blossoms and running water, and I am Qiu Feng Blue Mountain. Each has its own taste!
Yes, in front of love.
I still remember that once I felt inferior enough to post on Baidu, and I wanted to ask the netizens what to do if they felt that they were not worthy of him.
I still remember the answer at that time. That person was very warm-hearted and she told me that I was fine, too. If I feel that I have shortcomings, I will try my best to improve myself and make myself better.
Later, we broke up, but we got better and left no regrets.
I promised a reader a topic of inferiority. Since there is this doubt, I won't write an article. Answer it.
Inferiority is a feeling of lack of qualification. In fact, I am not bad, but I always feel that I am not good enough. This feeling has nothing to do with whether the parties are excellent or not. A person may look very, very level, beautiful and excellent, but she still feels that she is not good enough.
For a big reason, this feeling comes from being born in a family. If a child lives in a critical and accusatory environment, constantly receives negative and negative information, and is constantly evaluated as poor, poor and inferior to others, he will really believe it slowly. No matter whether he does well or not, he will be accused, and gradually he will become timid and dare not do anything.
Nothing is right, so why do it?
Habit is pattern, and pattern becomes fate. When he grew up, no one criticized him so much, but his character was also formed.
I always feel that I am not good enough, I always shrink back, I dare not fight for what I should fight for, and others will feel guilty when criticizing myself, even if I have done nothing wrong. Being scolded will scare you to death. When I was a child, I was very good. When I grow up, I am careful in my work for fear of making mistakes-inferiority is usually associated with timidity.
Even though he did well, got good grades and was praised by everyone, he still couldn't believe that he was excellent. I feel that I don't have anything good, and I don't even have the courage to try when I see beautiful clothes.
How to adjust? Use psychology.
Constantly face the child who is not good enough in your heart, see how wronged and wronged you were at the beginning, shed tears that you were afraid to shed at that time, hug yourself and say to yourself: When you grow up, you can live for yourself.
Over and over again, over and over again. If you can't face it, ask a professional teacher for help. It's like taking off layers of shells. It's not easy, but it's getting better. Maybe childhood trauma needs a lifetime to heal, but it's better than doing nothing. After all, everyone has the right to pursue a better life.
Let yourself not compare with others, just compare with yourself, constantly challenge your ability and make yourself stronger and stronger.
Slowly, settle your heart and you will be confident.
It's not easy, but there is a way. Just stick to it and slowly begin to accept and love yourself.
Psychology is not used to store energy, but to solve puzzles and improve people's quality of life. -Sister Tianlan, psychological counselor
Psychology is really a good knowledge, and there is family. Perhaps there is still some energy in the family that has not been dredged, and that is the knowledge of philosophy. It's good to repair the trauma of being born in a family. Everyone has homework in this life, and it is also fate to be born in what kind of family. Now that we have met, we will adapt.
I wish you confidence.
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There have been such cases. My body used to feel inferior because of the appearance and development of diseases, and even thought of death. I was world-weary, because there was a lot of pressure at that time and my sick parents. The two old people were sick in those years. They treated the elderly and went to the hospital all day. In order to achieve better results in treating their parents, they had to deal with the relationship between brothers and sisters.
Also invented a moxibustion instrument, which can be hung on the wall and used for moxibustion on the back, spine and waist, and can also be done at home.
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Inferiority can be a kind of motivation or a kind of resistance. People with low self-esteem often feel that they are not good enough, strive to do better and gain more in society.
Sometimes, however, inferiority complex can also lead a person to limit his ability, because he is afraid of not doing well, which hinders the road to success, not only affecting work, but also affecting interpersonal relationships, marriage and love, and even some people will fall into depression and powerlessness for a long time.
"I am a very introverted and shy boy, with a height of 180. I am not handsome, and I am also a poor boy. I have a low self-esteem and am not very gregarious. I seldom talk to my friends and elders. My parents often tell me to talk more. Why don't I? I wish I could talk in Kan Kan, but I don't know what to say and how to show myself. Up to now, I don't have a sincere friend, which is particularly distressing.
I feel very withdrawn, I am not confident in doing anything, and I always give up halfway. Do this for a while, do that for a while, have no perseverance, and can't stick to the end. I love face, I can't do things well, I am afraid of being laughed at by others, and I am always cautious, so many hobbies have not been realized and I am very passive at work.
I like clubbing, and I like the life of indulging in money. To be exact, I don't like it. I should say I'm running away. I also hate this kind of myself and often deny myself. I always feel that I can't do it, I can't see my own advantages, but I have many shortcomings.
In my family, my father is uncompromising. He always thinks he is right and doesn't listen to other people's opinions at all. I remember when I was a child, he asked me questions about my study. When I couldn't answer them, he was angry with me, saying that I didn't know such a simple question and that I was stupid and useless. I've been avoiding him since I was a child. My mother also likes to swear. Growing up, she often praises other people's children, but I am not as good as others. "
Interpretation of personal growth psychological consultation;
Children who grow up in such a family will inevitably feel inferior and dare not show themselves in front of others, so it is difficult to have good interpersonal skills. Dad is too autocratic and often denies and attacks children. It is naturally difficult for children to build self-confidence. They are always afraid that their behavior is not what their parents expect, and they are timid, shrinking and self-enclosed. To put it mildly, it is "introverted and shy."
Moreover, mothers will also scold their children, often saying that their children are not as good as other children, hurting their hearts and making them feel that they are really not as good as others.
Therefore, people with low self-esteem usually compare their own shortcomings with the advantages of others, and always feel that they are inferior to others everywhere and can't see their own value. In the long run, they will be pessimistic. Because they can't find their own value, they are easy to lose hope in life, and people with serious inferiority even have suicidal thoughts.
Children see themselves from their parents' comments. If parents' evaluation is a distorted mirror, children will think that they are really like that and will develop like that. Parents are the mentors of children's life, and their comments on children will have a great impact, especially derogatory comments, such as "too stupid", "stupid", "useless" and "stupid donkey", which may seriously dampen children's self-esteem and make them feel inferior.
When the inferiority complex gradually spreads, resulting in a wrong psychological set, children will feel that they are really poor and have nothing to like. If they think that they can't catch up with others, they will have interpersonal communication obstacles and many behavioral problems, which will hinder the normal conduct of these activities in study, life and interpersonal communication. If this morbid psychology cannot be treated in time and correctly, it may be harmful for life.
In psychological counseling, many visitors evaluate themselves as a person with inner inferiority. When they come to consult for the first time, most of them will ask, "Teacher, do you think my personality can get better?" In fact, this kind of worry is understandable. Because in their past growth, they themselves are trying to become better, especially those who enter the society. They find it difficult to deal with interpersonal relationships because of their inner inferiority, often feel lonely and depressed, and even feel that life is meaningless and there is no hope to live. They also try to change themselves, understand the ways to improve their interpersonal skills and try hard. However, their inner inferiority has not diminished, and even many times they clearly know what to do, but they just can't let go, leading to repeated setbacks and more disappointment with themselves.
Some people really give up on themselves after many failed attempts. However, some people still have the desire to redeem themselves, are willing to try again and choose personal growth psychological counseling to help themselves. Past experiences have made us who we are now. The past experience is not our fault, nor is it our choice. But what we can choose is whether you are willing to be influenced by the past all the time, or whether you are willing to choose to redeem yourself, bravely leave the past behind and start a new life. This requires us to make firm choices.
Everyone. Everyone has such a transition. Age is a container for accepting inferiority complex. Compare it with an example: in the prime of life, try to overcome difficulties and strive for a better realm. You can't adjust it, but you can only endure it. When you are young, old people are different-only Lacrimosa. Or sigh. Never pass it on to others, let others take the responsibility for you. While others are unwilling or unacceptable. Everyone is using the prescribed formula of taking responsibility for themselves.