The psychological problems of the elderly are manifold. We should guide them from where they struggle and guide them to see the other side of things. The result is not what they think. Be patient and subtle. Since you are an old man with rich life experience, stubborn personality and deep-rooted old ideas, you should not force their thoughts to bow to your ideas. I still emphasize "guidance and respect".
Let me tell you about my father from my personal experience.
My father is a man with a long life. He is 88 years old. At the age of 40, I was born an "old girl" and a big family of six brothers and sisters. My father likes to talk about things with me.
Because I have been married thousands of miles away, I can't see my parents often, and I have many regrets in my heart.
Three years ago, one day I suddenly received a phone call from my mother, saying that my father had been particularly depressed recently and even fell in love in bed every day. I asked him what was wrong, but he didn't say anything. My brother took him to exercise a few days ago, and even his blood pressure was normal. This is very strange. On second thought, I think my father knows what he is doing.
I set off for home at once and saw that my father had lost a lot of weight. Obviously, he was in a bad state at that time. He tried to feel sad, talk about his father's family and try to understand where his father's "source of illness" came from.
During the conversation, my father said: the old comrades who worked with him, Xu's uncle left two in succession, and Dong's uncle left one. Jiang's neighbors tried their best to save all their savings at home, but they still failed to save them. These are the people who worked with him, all younger and better than him ... He talked a lot about his feelings and expressed his sadness in his later years.
I suddenly found that my father's heart disease was very scary. The reason why I was depressed was that I was old and people younger than me had gone so much. Did that terrible man wave to me? A strong sense of crisis made him feel that life was coming to an end, and he was afraid that his life was running out. ...
So, depressed, depressed, unhappy, numb to life, lying in bed, saying bad things is waiting for death.
After listening to my father's nagging, I prepared a small glass of wine for my father (usually my father likes to drink a little, but not much), and then I accompanied him to drink, let him talk, and let him find the feeling of getting it off his chest. When he can't think of anything left to say, I will tell him my views on life and what he said, give him examples around me, and "flatter" my father from time to time. This is the man I admire most. No one can match the obligation and responsibility to their children. At the age of 85, he was still a famous man. Actually, what I said is true. It's just that I said it from my heart and recited it to my father like a repeater. At least from the child's affirmation, he will be proud of being a son, husband and father. Now I think it may be to make him happy in the form of "flattering" first.
After that, I accompanied him for a few days, showing him the clouds in the sky, birds flying overhead, parasitic insects on plants, brilliant flowers, photos of his mother when she was young, helping him remember the story of his time as a soldier, helping him remember the contrast between his past life and his present life, helping him remember the difficulty of raising our children, and helping him criticize the happiness and happiness of his children now. ...
I said, since you think so many old colleagues are gone, every minute now is your happiness, and we still have a chance to be your children. We are happy all the time. How can you have time to be depressed and torture yourself?
Father's spirit, can live as normal as before, no longer sigh, no longer bedridden, and can compete with his mother.
In fact, I didn't honor my parents, but after this incident, I will go back almost every two months because I have to work and I am far from home. But even if I find time to spend one night with them, I will be their "listening messenger" and let them talk about their boredom or hard feelings. The elderly are psychologically fragile and mentally degraded like children. They need care, companionship and opportunities for nagging. Need attention.
The above is my answer to this question. My father has many things to do. I will write them down when I have the opportunity in the future, which will help solve the psychological problems of the elderly.
With the arrival of aging in China, the number of the elderly is increasing year by year, which is followed by the psychological problems of the elderly. The main reasons for the psychological problems of the elderly are: First, children are far away from work, lack of communication, and feel lonely inside. Second, there is no fixed work and things to do, and my mind is empty. Third, in the last stop of life, the mood changes greatly, especially when people around you die, there will be negative emotions such as hypochondriasis. When the elderly have serious psychological problems, we should first persuade our children to spend as much time with the elderly as possible and communicate with them more. Let the old people regain their hobbies when they are young or cultivate an interesting thing to do, and they will not be empty when they are old; Divert the old people's attention from negative things and take part in some outdoor activities as much as possible.
How old are you? When did it start? What are the symptoms? If the elderly are older, it is recommended to go to the hospital for treatment. It's not necessarily a psychological problem. Let's rule out Alzheimer's disease.
The elderly have serious psychological problems, how to carry out psychological counseling?
Psychological counseling, if divided by age, is more difficult for children and the elderly, but better for young people. Children's cognitive level and self-control ability are poor, cooperation is poor, and the effect is often not good. Moreover, some elderly people think that they are experienced and know a lot, and they are unwilling to receive psychological counseling.
But the problem is, if he has serious psychological problems, he is very painful, tangled, uneasy, depressed, unable to sleep well, has a bad diet and is unwilling to communicate with others. These problems are not his own, and he will want to get rid of them as soon as possible.
As a family member, the elderly can get rid of the painful psychology and guide him to receive psychological counseling. They can also find some reliable articles of psychological counselors for him to read and listen to audio. If he thinks what the counselor said is reasonable, he will receive psychological counseling.
The specific consultation process is the process of interaction between psychological counselors and the elderly. As long as they actively cooperate, they can get rid of the pain.
How many years have people lived in this life? Nobody knows. Watching everyone around me leave, maybe it will be me next time.
Even when people are old, they are most afraid of loneliness, fear, loss and death, and they are afraid to face it.
If you live alone and have no interest at all, you will have psychological problems. Now China has entered the aging stage. As a child, you should always go home and have a look, and the network is also developed. You can make the elderly feel lonely through video conversations.
In recent years, the state has increased its investment in mental health, and has also invested a lot in grassroots communities, including home-based care for the elderly and nursing homes, but it still cannot meet the needs of society. This requires a trinity pension model of family, society and volunteers, and I believe the future will be better.
Listen, accompany, support and listen to the old people telling their own stories, so that the old people feel that there are still people listening to me here. Finally, I wish the elderly in the world a happy life in their later years!
Let him feel needed, let him feel the value of his existence.
1. 1. What serious psychological problems do the elderly have?
For example, it is easy to get angry, angry, depressed, anxious, irritable or in a daze. Find out what kind of psychological problems are part of the treatment.
2. How serious is it?
Is this a serious start? For a while? A long time? wait for
3, the best psychological counseling is listening and companionship, if you can do something within your power, let the elderly feel valuable!
We should guide them positively, but don't rush headlong into it, everything is not absolute ~
I don't know much about it. I hope you can give me more advice if there are any shortcomings.
My suggestion is:
Don't let the old people feel that life is boring.
A monotonous and boring life will make people lose confidence in everything, easily fall into depression, lead to and aggravate psychological problems, and the nervous system cannot be coordinated. All kinds of hobbies play an important role in a person's mental health, coordinating emotions and balancing nerve activities, and are also conducive to making life colorful. Do not pay too much attention to your health.
With the growth of social experience, the growth of age and the deepening of understanding of death, the mentality of the elderly is also increasing day by day.
So, don't mess with the old lady.
As the saying goes, "if you look down on life and death, you will be persuaded by reason if you refuse to accept it."