It is difficult for single old people to remarry.
In Fuyiyuan Community, Chaoyang District, Beijing, the reporter interviewed an old man who did not want to be named and only said that his surname was Jin.
Uncle Jin is 80 years old and his wife died seven years ago.
"I have two sons, 1 daughter. Are very filial. Some time ago, we spent the Dragon Boat Festival together and ate zongzi together! " Uncle Jin always has a happy smile on his face when he tells reporters about his children.
Uncle Jin was a teacher in a private school in Beijing when he was young. After retirement, he lived separately from his children.
Today, Uncle Jin is very proud of his children. "They are all very promising. They buy this and that every year and bring them back for the New Year. The eldest son worked in Tianjin, bought a house there and became a grandfather last year. The second son is in Shanghai and married a daughter-in-law in Shanghai; The youngest daughter is in Beijing and has found a good family. "
With a retirement salary, I give my children a regular pension every month. Uncle Jin said, "I don't worry about eating and drinking every day, and I don't need my children to accompany me every day. I just want to find a wife. A person is really troublesome. "
Uncle Jin said that he had the idea of finding the other half. "I have looked for it before, and my neighbors have helped me find it. Everything else is fine, except that my three children disagree. It can be said that it is resolutely opposed. I have severe rheumatism myself, and a little mild Alzheimer's disease. I went to see a doctor. Now, I want to find someone to accompany me and take care of each other. "
The reporter asked Uncle Jin, "Why don't you live with your children? They have all settled down. "
"I have my own house and retirement salary. Why should I go to' chew young people'? Besides, I am too old to go out of Beijing. My children are going to be grandparents, and they also live with them. If I go, won't it increase their burden? It's not easy for children. If you can solve it yourself, don't bother them. " Uncle Jin replied.
The reporter then asked Uncle Jin, "How about looking for a nanny or a housekeeping company to take care of it? Have you ever thought about it? "
"No, it is not convenient. Many domestic companies are afraid to take care of the business of our elderly people, especially those in their seventies and eighties. In case one day we can't stand to leave, they are afraid of causing unnecessary trouble and can't explain or explain to their families. I am alone at home, even if the nanny of the housekeeping company takes anything valuable from my house, I don't know. Isn't that inviting the wolf into the room? " Uncle Jin said.
"Why don't you choose to go to a nursing home? It's not bad to live with other old people. " The reporter asked.
"I don't really want to go to a nursing home, where the environment is not good and I have to spend a lot of money every month. I still hope to live independently. Every day is reading newspapers, cooking and writing, and life is very monotonous. " Uncle Jin said.
When the reporter asked the child why he didn't agree to find a wife, Uncle Jin was silent.
After a while, Uncle Jin shook his head and said, "It's not just about money. All three children said that they were afraid that the other half I was looking for would miss my property and leave with the money. I know they are right to worry, but in the end, they are still thinking about me. If I leave, the house can sell for millions, and there is a lot of money in the bank card. I said before that I can find a wife without a marriage certificate, but they still disagree. "
"Now that you are doing proof of premarital property, will the child agree?" The reporter finally asked Uncle Jin.
"I don't know if I agree, but I think as long as the property problem is solved, they won't have any obstacles." Uncle Jin said.
Children are worried that their parents will be cheated.
How do children view the "yellow love" of the elderly?
During the visit, Ms. Yan, who lives in Beijing Green Island Garden Community, confided her heart to the reporter.
Ms. Yan is 33 years old and comes from Gansu. She works in Beijing. She is a real estate agent. Her child is 4 years old.
"I have long heard of' yellow romance'. I think' yellow romance' means that old people find a partner who can talk to each other and chat. " Ms. Yan said, "I think it is understandable for children to interfere with' yellow love'. After all, this involves a large part of property issues. "
"I have an aunt who suffers from heart disease. Her wife left long ago, and the children were not around, leaving her alone. Neighbors helped her find a wife, who seemed nice, and my aunt agreed. Unexpectedly, less than two months later, menstruation had a heart attack and was admitted to the hospital. The wife left without saying anything. At that time, my brothers and sisters (aunt's children-reporter's note) were frightened. Finally, my brother and sister had no choice but to live with the old man. Actually, my aunt doesn't want to live with the children either. First, she is afraid of adding burden to her children. Second, she feels that she is bound and not free. " Ms. Yan said.
"So if this happens to your parents, can you accept it?" The reporter asked Ms. Yan.
"I can accept it, but I don't necessarily agree. Mainly worried about parents being cheated, especially for menstruation. If there is nothing wrong with parents' health,' yellow love' is still quite good. However, if parents need a' nanny-type' cohabitant, then they really have to think about it. " Ms. Yan said, "There shouldn't be many proofs of' yellow love', right? I don't think I'll get a license. Who will do this and that when I get old? As long as you don't get a license, there is no property problem. It must be for children. "
What should I do if I really get the certificate?
"It is very troublesome to get a license, and property inheritance is a big problem. I guess this may be the most fundamental reason why children don't agree with' yellow love'. " Ms. Yan said. The reporter also asked Ms. Yan's opinion on "Yunnan's proposed new regulations require' yellow love' as proof of premarital property".
"I don't watch much news, but because I am engaged in real estate agency work, I still know a lot about premarital property certificates. If this is the case, then the child's worries should be much reduced. At least for me, I'm not worried. With the protection of the legal system, there is nothing to say about whose property regulations are, and there will be many fewer disputes. " Ms. Yan said, "I always feel that the key to' yellow love' is not the word' love', but taking care of each other. Old people are more realistic than us young people. The man needs to find a nanny-type cohabitant to take care of his daily life. The woman hopes to find an economic dependent and leave the money to the children. " Ms. Yan said.
Among the dozens of old people interviewed randomly by reporters, the vast majority said they would be wary of the other half of "yellow love". The old people interviewed all said that property issues would be resolved through consultation with their children.