Family of origin refers to the family where he was born and raised. This concept was first put forward by Satya.
Satya believes that a person is inextricably linked with his family of origin, which may affect his life.
Simply put, the atmosphere of family background, traditional habits, family interaction, and children's learning objects in the family all affect children's future performance in society and new families.
There is a vivid metaphor that says that when we were young, we were like a video camera, shooting all kinds of information about adults we came into contact with. When we grow up, we are like a projector. Stimulated by some external environment, we will release the information recorded in the past. ?
How much influence does family background have on us?
As soon as we are born, we will be influenced by family members. These influences may not be felt in our daily life, but our external words and deeds all show the influence of family background on us. This influence may come from our biological parents, adoptive parents or other relatives who grew up with us.
A mental health survey shows that children who often quarrel with their parents account for 87%, 90.5% and 73.9% of personality defects, social adaptation obstacles and special obstacles respectively.
Frequent conflicts in front of children will cause children's psychological problems such as anxiety, retreat, rebellion, aggression, anti-social behavior and personality disorder. Betrayal, infidelity and domestic violence occur between husband and wife, and children are more likely to be tired of learning, autistic and even commit suicide.
Xiao Hong, a talented woman in the Republic of China, experienced violence and indifference from a family. Mother died early, and father had a bad temper. He always scolds people with trembling limbs because of trivial things, and his stepmother is like a stranger. The shadow of childhood made her lonely, sensitive and inferior, so that she met love rat many times in love and finally left the world alone in a foreign hospital.
Being born in a family can bring us negative aspects such as inferiority, conceit, arrogance, paranoia and profligacy, as well as positive aspects such as optimism, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-love and frugality.
Jiang Yang, a famous writer, was born in 19 1 1. In that patriarchal era, Jiang Yang's parents did not ignore her because she was a daughter, but treated all children equally. Academically, Jiang Yang's father Yang Yinhang didn't make arrangements for his children, but educated them. Learn what you like best. . Not only that, Yang Yinhang also educated her. Stick to the principle and dare to say no? . His requirement for children's life is to be able to stand on his own feet. Yang Yinhang himself said:? My children have no inheritance. I only educate them to stand on their own feet. ? Because of this, Jiang Yang's life has a direction instead of drifting with the tide.