Then affection is undoubtedly a clear spring, which can soothe and meditate.
Everyone feels that home is their safe haven when they are very young.
No matter what happens, parents will hold up a sky for us and give us a paradise.
If there is only one only child in the family, it will be loved by thousands, but if there are many children, even if parents are careful, they may not be able to treat love fairly.
Especially in some patriarchal families, long-term differential treatment will definitely cause unfairness in children's hearts.
When these situations occur, if parents can wake up in time, the result will be happy. If parents can't reflect on their actions and hurt their children, then a family may be fragmented.
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Xiao Juan was born in such a patriarchal family. She was born five years before her brother.
At first, her mother hoped that her first child would be a boy, but after ten months of hard work, when she found out it was a baby girl, her expectations plummeted.
Xiao Juan's parents haven't hugged her much since she was born. Luckily, Xiao Juan has grandparents who love her.
It is no exaggeration to say that Xiao Juan's parents don't care about this child at all, only care about her birth.
It was not until five years later that Xiao Juan's younger brother was born that her parents took her back, just because they wanted their son to have a companion.
In Xiao Juan's memory, she spent her whole childhood in the laughter of her parents and younger brother, as if she were a nobody.
And every time my brother quarrels with himself, it must be her who is scolded by her parents. Only when Xiao Juan goes to his grandparents' home for a holiday can he feel the warmth of his family.
Because he didn't get the love from his family, Xiao Juan developed an independent personality. On the other hand, his younger brother became ignorant because of his parents' unrestrained love.
Xiao Juan was admitted to a good university because of his excellent academic performance.
During his college years, Xiao Juan took part-time jobs in his spare time in exchange for remuneration.
Even in his previous study career, Xiao Juan's tuition and living expenses were paid by his grandparents.
Xiao Juan's parents think that girls don't need to spend so much money. They think that girls must get married, so they can't make useless investments.
So they spent all their money on training Xiao Juan's younger brother.
Fortunately, Xiao Juan has grown up and can stand on his own feet now, otherwise it is hard to imagine that a child's future will be destroyed by his biological parents.
Time flies. Shortly after graduating from Xiao Juan University, Xiao Juan did not return to his hometown, but stayed in the big city to find his own opportunities.
She wants to make money hard and then take her grandparents to the city to live a better life.
When men get married, so do women. When she was old, Xiao Juan also found a suitable boy for her. She is a gentle and polite boy.
The other party doesn't dislike Xiao Juan's family, but has more love for such a sensible girl.
Xiao Juan decided to take her boyfriend home to show her grandparents, because it will soon be the age to talk about marriage.
Xiao Juan thought: Anyway, mom and dad didn't take care of themselves since childhood, and I believe they won't interfere with their boyfriends too much.
But some things are not as simple as Xiao Juan thought.
02、
When Xiao Juan brought her boyfriend home, her parents quickly gathered around and finished the dish.
When my boyfriend's ass is not hot, I ask where the young man's home is, how many people there are, and how it is at home.
Although Xiao Juan was a little embarrassed, seeing her parents' attitude of asking questions, she indirectly thought that their parents didn't fully care about themselves.
They also want a better life, so they will ask.
But the next question, is to let Xiao Juan head poured a pot of cold water in my heart.
After so many words, Xiao Juan's parents asked the most crucial question: "How much bride price did you give when Xiao Juan got married?"
Xiao Juan's boyfriend didn't answer, and they immediately said that the dowry must be no less, at least 200,000.
It's not easy to raise Xiao Juan. You can't get married for nothing.
Xiao Juan couldn't sit still at once, and asked with a little temper, "We don't have the custom of giving two hundred thousand dowry in our hometown, do we? At most, it's 123 thousand. Why don't I want so much? "
Xiao Juan heard that his parents' attitude was like buying and selling business, and then he said these things in a rage.
But who knows her mother regardless of Xiao Juan's boyfriend is present, directly roared:
"People say that my daughter's elbow turns outward when she grows up. I didn't believe it at that time. After hearing what you said, I really believe them! Daughter, it's not easy for me to raise you so much. What happened to the dowry? Besides, you didn't pay. Why are you so angry? "
Xiao Juan felt ashamed when he heard his mother's words. How can his mother say these words in public? Xiao Juan is not stupid to do this alone. His parents' little plan is not clear to him.
So, Xiao Juan pretended to be calm and asked, "Well, if he can give you 200 thousand dowry, how much are you willing to pay to marry him?"
Hearing this, Xiao Juan's mother immediately said, "He gave a lot of dowry, and we will naturally give more dowry. Daughter, don't worry about this. "
Words here, or Xiao Juan's boyfriend out dozen circle field, just safely ate this meal.
But Xiao Juan knew exactly what his mother was like.
Don't say that if you give more dowry, you will give more dowry. She even thinks it's good to have a dowry.
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Afterwards, Xiao Juan told her boyfriend all her thoughts.
Fortunately, Xiao Juan's boyfriend not only doesn't hate his girlfriend, but also feels distressed that Xiao Juan has such parents.
So Xiao Juan's boyfriend set the wedding date at a dowry of 200,000 without saying anything, just to let his girlfriend have a warm home of her own as soon as possible.
After the wedding date is fixed, the wedding will naturally be put on the agenda.
However, on their wedding day, Xiao Juan's parents still said nothing about him.
Although Xiao Juan wants money, she just wants to prove that she is still important to her parents.
But on the wedding day, Xiao Juan proposed to his parents.
Xiao Juan's mother, but prevaricated said:
"You see your husband's family is also good, and he is not short of money, right? You didn't ask me for it the other day, so I took your dowry and went to your brother to buy a house. You see, the house price is so expensive now, and if you don't buy it now, you will have to pay hundreds of thousands more! "
Xiao Juan listened to her mother. I didn't expect her to be so shameless for her younger brother. She was very cold and her eyes were full of tears. She stubbornly asked:
"No matter how rich my husband is, it is also his own home and his parents'. Now you have spent all my dowry and dowry. What do you think of me after you let their families know? What should I do if I am married and my life is not smooth? Don't I need a sum of money to accompany me? As a mother, have you really thought about your daughter? "
Xiao Juan these words say that finish, thought that mother will reflect on yourself, but I didn't think mother angry way:
"You are married, what's the use of this money? You don't understand now. Compared with your brother, he needs the money more than you in the future. Now that all the money has been spent, he won't come back! So, don't come back to us even if you are wronged in the future. We didn't bring you up to drag us down! "
Hearing this, Xiao Juan's feelings for his parents were like dying embers.
Xiao Juan finally condemned his parents with hatred: "I don't want anything as a dowry. Since you think your son is important, don't tell the world that you have my daughter, and I don't want to have parents like you. "
With these words, Xiao Juan talked with her boyfriend, friends and relatives alone, regardless of her parents' gloomy faces, until she successfully completed the last step of the wedding with her boyfriend.
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After marriage, Xiao Juan fulfilled his promise and never visited his parents again.
Fortunately, however, Xiao Juan's mother-in-law and her husband especially forgave her and treated her like family.
Later, after a while, Xiao Juan took his grandparents to the city where he lived and let them enjoy retirement.
From then on, no matter how Xiao Juan's parents asked her for money or scolded her, Xiao Juan ignored her.
People often say: "Some people, you think they are important, but for them, you are not important."
Do you think Xiao Juan's parents will regret their decision?