The noble people who pursue success are those who explore their own potential and provide us with a space to show our personal abilities. Noble people are the key to the start and development of our career and the accelerator of our success. Noble people have no obligation to take care of our nanny, nor will they sit at the crossroads of life and wait for us. We should have a proactive attitude to seek noble people, instead of waiting hard, choosing and changing in time. The help of noble people can make you stand out quickly, shorten the time of success and provide you with some shelter-just like an insurance. Where are the nobles? Among your friends. When making friends, Fiona Fang should be good at grasping the available powerful people.
William Billy Fitzgerald Si Tong is an excellent professional salesman who is good at public relations. For more than twenty years, he has been a friend of Dr. Stanley, a master of success.
Once, the senior vice president of a large multinational joint-stock company and the American sales manager asked Dr. Stanley to hold a professional seminar for 100 senior professionals in Dallas on a Saturday morning. As the seminar included role demonstration and scenario analysis, Dr. Stanley invited Billy to attend. At that time, Billy was selling women's sportswear including blue jeans to J G Penny, a Dallas-based company. Billy got the name and contact information of the domestic sales manager from Stanley Bo Tu, and then called the secretary of the domestic sales manager to find out the specific location and schedule of the seminar, and learned from the secretary that the wife of Mr. Herman, the sales manager, likes to wear blue jeans. After determining the size of Mrs Herman's jeans, she appointed an experienced seamstress to specially process a dozen jeans and gave them to Mrs Herman. It was this Billy who aroused Mr. Herman's great enthusiasm and the whole seminar was very successful. Mr Herman once again asked Dr Stanley to hold another seminar, perhaps because of Billy's blue jeans, because Billy never told Mr Herman that they were from him. He just put a note in the box that said "from Tom Stanley". Therefore, Mr. Herman's company bought many books, tapes and other materials about Dr. Stanley's seminar. Friends are nobles, and nobles are among friends.
Let's reflect on our life experience carefully. Who played a key and decisive role when a major turning point occurred? Are these people family friends you inherited from your family, or friends you gradually made as an adult? At least half of them are friends created by ourselves. Society is changing and the world is changing. We and our friends went from strangers to familiarity, and then to deep friendship. Only by being good at turning strangeness into familiarity can we have more and more friends.
As the saying goes, "everything is difficult at the beginning." It's really difficult to start a conversation with a complete stranger. Here are some suggestions that I hope you can use to get close to strangers.
Don't try to talk about profound or profound issues, just talk about simple or even trivial issues, or comment on what is happening around you. You can talk about the price of vegetables in the market, not about the international situation and economic trends. Speak to the point, don't be trivial, and don't express yourself. This will make people lose interest in talking with you, avoid speaking for too long, so as not to leave the impression of nagging and procrastination to others. Talk less about yourself and talk more about others during the conversation to arouse the interest of the other party. If the two sides of the conversation have different views, they can have a little argument, but they should avoid dissatisfaction or choose to avoid talking.
Dr Leonard Youni believes that whether people can become friends depends on the first five minutes of their contact with each other. In daily life, there is indeed such an experience. For example, if the person sitting opposite you starts talking as soon as they meet, this conversation is likely to run through the whole journey. If there is no interest in further contact from the beginning, they will often remain silent until after separation. So, if you want to get close to someone, don't give up the "first five minutes". During these five minutes, remember to be friendly, confident, compassionate and considerate. Because most people like people who like themselves. Our life is always full of drama. It is really appropriate to describe people's opportunities. Life always meets someone unexpectedly. In a word, a class can change our lives.
There are many such people, meet by chance, know someone, and then find a new road to success. Of course, you can't rely on speculative psychology, you need to have a prepared heart. Some people will take care of accidental encounters, while others will not. People who don't believe in this chance of meeting will not care. People who know how to seize opportunities are usually ready to accept accidental encounters. When the opportunity arises, he will try his best to seize this opportunity, seize the "noble people" in life and change his destiny.
Once, harvey mckay met the president's daughter at a fund-raising event. Seeing the young girl in the reception team for about 5 seconds, he was not sure whose daughter she was. Because Truman, Roosevelt, Kennedy, Johnson, Reagan, Bush and Clinton all had at least one daughter. If you ask abruptly, "Which president's daughter are you?" This is the biggest fool in the world. How embarrassing that would be. MacKay needs the help of the president's daughter in her career, so he can't miss this opportunity. He simply said that he helped him in her father's election and finally voted for his father. People know the president, but they don't necessarily remember many of their children. Voters who can be recognized as their fathers are much closer psychologically. What happened to McKay worked. The president's daughter helped him, but the other party's efforts were the return of McKay's life.
If there is a balloon in the world that can't fly, it is because it is not inflated; If a person is unlucky all his life, it is because he doesn't have enough popularity funds! If there is no noble person in life, there is no gain from hard work. Take good care of the noble people in life.