Lai Peixia, a psychological consultant, once gave a speech on the stage of "I am an orator":
She mentioned that she was always scolded by her mother when she was a child, and she was very unhappy. When she grew up, she kept hitting a wall emotionally.
She regrets way:
"When your mother lives in sorrow and pain all her life, do you dare to be happy?"
"The answer is, it is very difficult."
Imagine that if the mother is in a negative mood for a long time and always shouts at her husband and children, the family will only be filled with a depressed and unhappy atmosphere.
On such days, no one dares to be happy, and it is impossible to be happy.
I have seen such a survey:
83.2% introverted, only Nuo Nuo, a boy with no opinion.
87.4% girls are irritable, pessimistic and sensitive,
Behind them is a strict, rigid and grumpy mother.
Some research results also show that children will imitate their mothers' emotions and behaviors and learn how to control their emotions from their mothers.
If the mother's mood is always depressed, anxious, angry, uneasy or even out of control, then the child's mood will not be stable.
And this effect is even lifelong.
Many mothers say:
"I also want to be a good-tempered mother, but I feel dizzy every day. The husband ignores his family, and the son is still noisy. I really can't control my temper and I can't be happy. "
In fact, for the sake of children and families, it is unreasonable and unrealistic to force mothers not to have any negative emotions.
After all, life is never easy, and sadness, anger and despair are inevitable.
Therefore, only by putting your emotions first, being kind to yourself, loving yourself and being happy can you give happiness to your children and your family.