On the topic of son preference, perhaps only those who have been treated differently can understand the bitterness and depression.
Every child's love for his parents is selfless, but the love parents give their children is unequal, different and divided, so that children will have antipathy to their parents in the future growth process.
Just like An Xin, in everyone's eyes, she is the happiest girl, because her parents have good family conditions, and she also went to college. But only she knows that she was treated differently in the process of her brother's growth, because his gender is different from hers, and only she understands her own bitterness and pain.
Before junior high school, An Xin was the apple of her parents' eye. She has all the fun and delicious things in her family, which was one of the happiest times in her past. Everything changed when my mother gave birth to my brother in junior high school.
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After her brother was born, her parents stopped circling her, and she started a day when she went to school alone, left school alone, did her homework alone, and went to class alone.
Although An Xin sometimes feels particularly uncomfortable, it is right for parents to value and pay attention to his younger brother at such a young age when he thinks that he has enjoyed the unique love of his parents for 10 years.
After her younger brother was born, Anxinji had no weekends and no winter and summer vacations, because all the holidays were required by her mother to take care of her younger brother.
If the younger brother doesn't take good care of him, stumbles, gets sick and cries old, mother will blame Anxin, and father will help mother blame Anxin's carelessness.
From that moment on, An Xin found that her position at home had undergone earth-shaking changes.
Sometimes my classmates ask An Xin to go out to play, but after the reunion, my mother won't agree and won't let An Xin go out. Mom always said: you are so old, you should take your brother.
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Later, the younger brother grew up, the more demanding he was on his parents. Sometimes he needs to buy toys. My brother likes cars very much. If he has nothing to see in the supermarket, his mother will take the initiative to buy it for his brother at the first time.
An Xin wants to buy a set of school equipment and a skirt that she likes. Mom always said: You are the elder sister, so you should let your younger brother go. It's not easy for your father to make money at home now, so we should all save some flowers.
Later, Lessing no longer had pocket money and rarely ate snacks. Her parents will take the initiative to buy toys for her brother, but never ask her what she likes.
An Xin never dared to make any distinction when his parents treated his younger brother so differently from himself. She has no other choice but to accept it, so she wants to get into a good university and leave here.
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An Xin was admitted to the university, and she was still a key undergraduate. But when her mother heard the news, she didn't laugh, but said anxiously, Dad is the only one making money at home now. You are going to college and your brother is going to kindergarten, so I think you must learn to save money when you go to college. Don't forget, you have to earn the money your brother spends in the future.
An Xin went to college alone, and her family's economic situation went from bad to worse. My father failed to start a business, my mother became a full-time mother, with no income, and my brother was still in kindergarten. Only An Xin, who worked part-time outside the university, had a small amount of stable income.
After graduating from Anxin University, I worked in real estate sales, and my monthly commission was quite good.
Although her parents didn't treat her fairly after her brother was born, An Xin sent 5,000 yuan to her parents and brother every month.
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On that day, An Xin told her mother on the phone that she wanted to buy a house of her own in the city. Hearing this, mom hung up the phone directly. The next day, Tian Anxin went to work, and mom and dad came directly to the company to find her.
Mom and dad advised peace of mind: don't buy a house by yourself. After all, buying a house is a good preparation for a man's family. What should girls do for fun?
Mother eased up and said, why don't you do this first? You don't want to buy yourself a house. You help your brother buy a house. Children grow fast. When my brother gets married, I wonder how expensive the house will be. Now take advantage of the cheap, buy a set for your brother and leave it for him to get married.
An Xin said with a wry smile, why is it my task to buy a house for my brother? Do you want my sister to buy my brother's house? Can't he make his own money and buy it himself? You have treated me differently since my brother was born. I won't say anything, but now I'll never pay for my brother's house again.
Dad got angry when he heard it: now there is no money at home, so we have sent you to college. You still blame us for preferring sons to daughters. Isn't it natural for a sister to buy a house for her brother?
The matter broke up in discord, but Anxin did not compromise with her parents.
Later, An Xin bought herself a house. Knowing that the conditions at home are not good, she still sends her parents living expenses every month. She will also sponsor some of her younger brothers to go to school, but she will never let her brother kidnap her life, because her brother's life is his own, not hers. Even if her parents prefer boys to girls, she should live a good life instead of being kidnapped by them.
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There may be some people in life who will encounter the same problems as Anxin, but as Anxin, they can't make such a decision.
Just like Fan in Ode to Joy, she doesn't really want to take care of the family affairs, but her brother still keeps the family in a mess. After Fan helped her brother buy a house and adopted her son, she thought her parents would put aside their partiality. She thought that her efforts would be respected by her parents, but in return, they were pushing their luck more and more.
Therefore, in the face of parents' attitude of favoring boys over girls and treating them differently, girls must stop, otherwise they will be disturbed.
Resentment is useless, because you can't change their thinking concept, so treat them with the most common heart. Living your own life is really the most important thing, just like Anxin.
Do what you can, and you can't tolerate them without principles and boundaries. Because your tolerance is to indulge them, that is, to let them know that you are a person with no bottom line, and anyone can praise you.