1. Visitors (case owners) feel safe during the consultation. As we all know, the key to psychological counseling for a period of time is to handle the relationship between counseling and visiting. What is a good relationship between psychological counseling and visiting? I think it is safe. First of all, there is a safe consulting environment where visitors can express themselves without reservation, laugh loudly and cry loudly, without fear of being heard by outsiders and losing face. Then there is the psychological counselor who makes visitors feel safe. Many psychological problems stem from excessive depression. The result of long-term repression is to distort the original beautiful self. Why depression? Because it is not allowed, and the counselor sitting opposite you is allowed, allowed, you can do whatever you want, you are safe.
2. Counselors can accept visitors completely, and visitors have the feeling of being seen by counselors. Everyone wants to be seen. What is complete acceptance? What do you mean by being seen? I wonder how many people have owned dogs. Whether you are rich or poor, beautiful or ugly, good or evil, your dog will look at you with love and complete acceptance. Concentration and concentration are the most basic requirements for the consultant in the consultation process. The higher requirement is that you can accept whatever the visitor says to you (except, of course, illegal), even if you are no longer ashamed, only "yes, I" means that the consultant still has a hurdle in this respect, so he needs to have self-knowledge and find his own supervisor to do his homework in this respect.
There is an energy flow between the visitor and the consultant, just like a duet. I often feel the feeling of * * * with visitors in the process of consultation, that is, I feel the feeling of visitors, just like two different individuals, suddenly using the same soul, which is wonderful. You suddenly understand completely, and you have goose bumps all over. I believe that visitors will feel the same way at this time, and psychological counselors may also feel the same way.
4. The consultation process is full of emotions, emotions, mixed feelings, and even thrilling, rather than harmony. In order to keep the hard-won consulting opportunities, some consultants who have just started consulting visitors will subconsciously identify with and even please visitors without boundaries. In fact, the more so, the easier it is for visitors to have doubts and distrust. Why? Because it's not true! We should believe that everyone is a smart person, and everyone has a strong sensibility (even if not consciously, subconsciously), especially some depressed visitors. They are particularly sensitive. They know that the counselor is just acting, so you really lost the visitor. What is real consultation? Flesh and blood, those who go up to the sword and go down to the fire, are like life.
In the process of consultation, not only the visitors have grown up, but also the consultants have grown up. Personally, I think this is the most wonderful and magical place of psychological counseling. Many people tend to think that psychological counselors are purely to help visitors deal with psychological problems, but the really good counseling is the growth of visitors' personality. Many visitors are adults in their tens of years when filling in personal information, but in fact their psychological age is still children, and some stay in their teens. Some are in a rebellious period, and some are even in their mother's womb. After a long consultation process, they have grown up, especially in character. This is a great process. Even better, the consultant also gained his own growth in this process. This kind of harvest and joy is particularly different from other jobs.
6. Psychological counseling may take a very long time, maybe several years or even more than ten years, but in the end, visitors can learn and have the strength to face their life without a psychological counselor. Finally, I want to talk about the ultimate goal of psychological counseling. I often tell my younger brothers and sisters that good psychological counseling is not an overnight thing, not a piecemeal thing, but a process that can make visitors become independent individuals. They can love themselves, they can no longer feel uneasy because others love me or not, and they can live in this world warmly and lovingly one day without a psychological counselor. This is perfection.
The above is my understanding of good consultation, I hope I can help you, thank you!
Some friends also said: "When I went to psychological counseling for the second time, I felt that the counselor seemed to forget what I said the week before and reminded her of what she said last week, but she didn't seem to respond. Is it not professional enough? "
A: Professional and attentive psychological counseling is a good psychological counseling.
Professional consultants can remember most of what they said during the visit, especially what they talked about before the visit.
I will take consultation notes for about 20 minutes after the consultation, recalling what I talked about during the interview, when my feedback was better, and when my feedback was faster, which didn't keep up with the pace of my visit.
The conversation during the visit is coherent, and the scene may be changing. Sometimes, I don't have time to put myself in a certain scene to experience that feeling. I will stay here until the consultation is over.
Sometimes, the experience of visiting is far from my life experience, so I can't finish the "alternative introspection" for a while, and I will finish it after consulting.
I remember a ground consultation six months ago, and his mother told him, "With this skill, you will be a gigolo for a rich woman sooner or later!" "(the words and language have changed), and the tourists are very angry when they speak. I couldn't find that feeling at that time. On the way home for an hour and a half, I let myself go and imagined myself as a boy. How did my mother feel when she said such things contemptuously to herself? I suddenly found that feeling: ability and dignity, I hope my ability will be trusted, and I hope I will be blessed with dignity. A sentence came to mind-"You are fully capable of living a dignified life on your own." (Alternative introspection: stand on the subject of the visit, feel his experience, his needs and give him feedback)
What are the advantages of doing so? 1 I know what needs similar angry visits have expressed, and I can respond to him next time.
With such a successful exploration, I will have a sense of competence as a consultant, that is, I can continue to be confident and steady before visiting.
You said, "I reminded her of what I said last week, and she didn't seem to respond." Professional psychological counselors will repair the relationship in time when they find that visitors are disappointed or dissatisfied with themselves. If my interview says to me, "Teacher, have you forgotten what I said?" I will first answer whether I remember what I said in the interview, and then explore the psychological motivation behind it. "I forgot the details of what you said. Does it make you feel that I don't value you? " Visiting will express disappointment or anger, and may also talk about when this feeling of neglect still exists. You see, the empathy between the visitor and the counselor, how the visitor's face develops, is brought out.
I wish you happiness!
What kind of psychological counseling is good psychological counseling?
Many people have a wrong understanding of mental illness. They keep going to the hospital, but they can't find anything wrong, and they are still very painful every day. Are they really suffering? Many people think that psychological counseling is just chatting, and it's really not worth spending so much money on chatting, so not many people do counseling.
Mental illness is really painful, and drugs can only relieve anxiety, so heart disease needs psychotherapy. The root of mental illness is cognition and emotion, which can reduce anxiety by changing unreasonable cognition, and the symptoms disappear when the subconscious operates correctly. People with mental illness don't know the pathogenesis, and they don't know which of their cognitive concepts are wrong. This requires outside help, that is, psychological counseling.
What kind of consultation is a good consultation? What is the purpose of consultation? What should a counselor do? What do visitors and family members do? It should be clear. Generally speaking, patients will not consult without pain. The purpose of psychological counseling is to help visitors get rid of symptoms, get rid of pain, optimize and perfect their personality, make people calmly face the problems in life, work and study, objectively evaluate themselves, change their perspectives and enhance their self-confidence. Counseling that can solve these problems of visitors in a short time is good psychological counseling and efficient counseling.
To do this, we need a scientific and efficient theoretical system to support it. It is also necessary for psychological counselors to deeply understand the pathogenesis of mental illness, master the principles of mental illness and patients' pain, skillfully use some practical methods to get rid of pain, and guide visitors to understand and use these principles and methods to quickly eliminate symptoms and get out of confusion. Being able to do this can be called efficient psychological counseling.
One: the consultant is objective, peaceful and inclusive.
Two: real-time and appropriate use of psychological counseling technology, not far-fetched and rude.
Third, evaluate the consulting effect regularly and adjust the consulting scheme according to the effect.