First, master scientific parenting knowledge, guide and support family education, and gain the respect and trust of parents.
With the development of society and the improvement of people's material and cultural level, children are increasingly becoming the focus of the family, and parents' expectations for their children are getting higher and higher. Parents in rural areas, in particular, have many problems and misunderstandings in family education. They value wisdom over morality, knowledge over ability, and neglect all-round development. Spoil, protect, arrange and expect too much, which leads to illegal phenomena in education; Paying more attention to physiology than psychology, ignoring the cultivation of children's independent personality ... These problems and misunderstandings limit the play of family education advantages and are extremely unfavorable to the healthy development of children. Therefore, teachers should master scientific parenting knowledge, help parents establish correct educational concepts, guide and support family education, and keep pace with kindergarten education, so as to gain parents' respect and trust.
First of all, let parents form a correct view of children and understand the laws of their physical and mental development.
For example, a middle school parent complained to the teacher, "My child is too naughty. He only plays at home, but doesn't know how to study. His neighbor's children write pinyin at home all day ... "In this case, the teacher should patiently explain to the parents according to the age characteristics of middle school students and the law of physical and mental development, so that parents can know that the development of preschool children in various periods should follow certain development laws, artificially violate the law of children's development and let the children leave early. Through some guidance, parents will have a bottom in their hearts, and then they will not be in a hurry to watch their children have fun. At the same time, through such communication, the image of teachers in parents' minds has also become tall, parents respect and trust teachers more, and some problems in family education will often communicate with teachers, actively cooperate with teachers' work, so that early childhood education can achieve twice the result with half the effort.
Secondly, help parents establish a correct concept of education and success, let parents realize the importance of implementing all-round development education, and ensure the healthy and harmonious development of children's body and mind.
In today's society, many parents are eager to "expect their children to succeed" and spend thousands of dollars to enroll their children in extra-long classes. This trend has also blown to the countryside. Therefore, parents often hear the teacher say, "You don't have super-long classes in the central park here, but some parks in some places have English classes ..."
Teachers should not turn a blind eye to such parents who follow the trend, nor should they be sarcastic, for example, "If you are willing to take English classes, send your children to individual parks." Instead, we should use the concept of all-round development of children's education to communicate with parents patiently and let parents know that the development of young children should be all-round. It is incorrect to emphasize any aspect or weaken any aspect. However, different children may have some outstanding performances in one respect, that is, they have their own strengths, and they cannot look at their own children one-sidedly, compare their own shortcomings (strengths) with the strengths (weaknesses) of other children, or just want to cultivate prodigies. Through this kind of communication, parents often give up the idea of blindly comparing and following the trend, and will be grateful to the teacher, thus respecting and trusting the teacher more.
Second, master the skills and methods of communicating with parents, respect parents and strive for their understanding, support and cooperation.
1, respect parents and save face for parents.
When children make mistakes in kindergarten and need to communicate with their parents, they should generally avoid the peak of picking up and dropping off their children. Parents should talk alone where others can't hear them. The tone of the conversation should be as gentle and euphemistic as possible, without any subjective color and emotion. It is necessary to avoid the reality and naturally lead to the theme, so that parents can reduce their psychological worries, but also dilute their own shortcomings and mistakes and grasp the limits that parents can easily accept, instead of blindly accusing and criticizing.
For example, one day, Shuoshuo bit Pumbaa's arm, and the teacher called Shuoshuo's mother aside and tried to be calm: "Shuoshuo's mother is a sensible child and has been getting along well with children, but today he bit Pumbaa's arm. Don't worry, it's nothing serious. I have treated Pumbaa's wound. Of course, you can't just blame Shuo Shuo. Pumbaa took his crayons first, but the child just couldn't use them correctly, so he bit them in a hurry. Don't blame the child too much. We just want him to know how to deal with similar things in the future (or tell the teacher or let him use it), so that the child can make progress and improve through this matter. " Shuo Shuo's mother nodded, agreeing with the teacher's opinion, willing to cooperate with the teacher to take good care of the children, and apologized to Peng Peng and her mother to minimize major problems. The teacher respected his parents so much, left enough face for them, and made them feel guilty. If you feel that it is troublesome for the teacher, you will take the initiative to cooperate with the teacher to handle things well and educate the children well.
2. Touching people with love and getting parents' trust with sincerity.
As a kindergarten teacher, we must first have a love, love children and kindergartens, and sprinkle the showers of love to every corner of our hearts, especially those withdrawn and naughty children, who need the love of teachers more. A gentle touch, a warm hug, and even an approving smile ... convey our love all the time, and it is this love that lays the foundation for our communication with our parents. When children are scratched by others, because we have the foundation of loving children at ordinary times and being serious and responsible, we also sincerely apologize to our parents and don't shirk our responsibilities. For example, in the incident of Shuo Shuo biting Pumbaa, when Pumbaa's mother came, we looked apologetic and said bitterly, "Pumbaa's mother, it was because we failed to protect Pumbaa and handle their disputes in time. As a result, Pumbaa was injured and we were all very sad. We should blame you. " In the future, we will pay more attention to ensure that similar things will not happen again. "Coupled with the apology of Shuo Shuo's mother, Pumbaa's mother quickly said," Never mind, son, how could there be no stumbling? It is not easy for you to be teachers. We can understand. " In this way, a storm was resolved.
3. The language of communication varies from person to person.
When communicating with parents, teachers should communicate with different parents in different languages. Technical terms can be used by some parents, who have higher professional requirements for teachers. When communicating with these parents, if we use ordinary daily language, it will cause parents to question our professional ability. For most parents, we should use common and easy-to-understand everyday language. Teachers can call a spade a spade for easy-going parents. Some parents have strong self-esteem, and it is easy to take talking about their children's shortcomings as criticism and feel pressure. At this time, we should pay special attention to the use of evaluation language, and never use words like "dull" and "naughty" to describe children. In addition, every child has his own characteristics. When teachers introduce their children's development to parents, they should praise them first and then restrain them, and evaluate them objectively, without any subjective color, not too general and targeted.
Third, establish a sense of service and truly serve parents and children.
1. Good service attitude and sincere service behavior are also the basis for establishing a good communication relationship with parents. Kindergarten children often pee their pants because of their young age and poor self-care ability. At this time, a competent kindergarten teacher should immediately play the role of mother, help children clean their hips, change clothes and trousers, exchange their fear of being dirty and tired for their cleanliness and comfort, and relieve their embarrassment, so as to gain the recognition and respect of their parents.
2. The Regulations on Kindergarten Work states: "Kindergartens also provide convenient conditions for parents to participate in the work."
Therefore, respecting, understanding, treating parents equally and serving parents can make parents feel at ease, at ease and comfortable, which can also be said to be another kind of nonverbal communication. Parents sometimes pick up their children late because of something. Even the last child, we should not give parents a look, let alone blame them. Instead, we should comfort them with understanding language, such as "Never mind, I can understand" or "Don't worry, your children are very happy here", or we can say "If you have something to do in the future, you can call in advance, so that you will be more at ease." Hearing this, parents will be filled with gratitude and will actively support and cooperate with kindergarten work in the future.
Teachers should try their best to meet parents' reasonable requirements for children's education and help children get rid of some bad habits.
Because in children's minds, the teacher is supreme, you can not listen to your parents, but the teacher will certainly listen. Therefore, when parents and children have nothing to do, they will ask the teacher for help. I often hear parents say, "One sentence from the teacher is more useful than ten sentences from us." Of course, there will be some parents who don't respect their teachers enough and even put forward some unreasonable demands that can't be met. In this regard, teachers should keep a cool head, take the initiative to communicate the situation, explain patiently, exchange views frankly, and obtain parents' understanding.
Finally, teachers should communicate with parents in various ways, such as adhering to the system of home visits, establishing parent committees, holding regular parent-teacher conferences, giving special lectures on parenting, and distributing home contact books and a letter to parents. In particular, teachers should make full use of parents' opportunities to pick up and drop off their children, communicate their children's performance at home in time, solve problems in time, and cooperate with each other to better realize family education.
Communication skills between kindergarten teachers and parents II.
Communication skills with parents-communication objects are different.
1, parents of different sexes communicate reasonably.
As we all know, there are differences between men and women in dealing with problems. Faced with the same problem, men are more rational, while women are often more emotional. The same phenomenon will appear when facing the education problems of young children. Therefore, when communicating with male parents, teachers should set the starting point as some rational and long-term views. For example, in the face of children crying and refusing to go to kindergarten, teachers can tell male parents to insist on sending their children to the park, which is the principle of cultivating children. As a male parent, he can understand this very well and will pay more attention to the overall grasp of children's education. Female parents tend to pay more attention to all aspects of their children's growth, such as some trivial things in life: eating, dressing and sleeping. Also care about children's learning and hobbies. Therefore, when they encounter the above problems, they tend to be more anxious. Under normal circumstances, they will take the initiative to consult their teachers. At this time, the teacher can go straight to the subject and tell them what to do and how to calm the children's emotions.
2. Communicate with parents of different ages.
Nowadays, children in kindergartens are often surrounded by six adults, and many families are "6+ 1 mode". Therefore, when teachers face their parents, there will be a collision of educational concepts at all ages. In the process of communicating with parents of young children, teachers should focus on their educational concepts. They generally pay more attention to the ability difference between children and others and don't want their children to lose at the starting line. Therefore, they should introduce more topics such as the improvement of children's ability and the development of interests to parents. However, because parents are mostly busy, teachers are more faced with the next generation of parents. This kind of parents, because they generally experienced difficulties when they were young, want to leave the best things to their grandchildren now that their living conditions have improved, and often only pay attention to their children's food, clothing, housing and physical condition. Obedience to children ignores the cultivation of children's good habits, and over time, children form bad behaviors such as being spoiled and dependent. Therefore, when communicating with such parents, parents should not only let them know about their children's daily life in kindergarten, but also reflect their psychological development trend and social behavior, so that parents can form some educational ideas about their children's all-round development.
3. Communicate according to parents' different expectations of their children.
Every child comes from a different family, and each family's parents have different education levels and often live in different social environments. Therefore, different parents have different expectations for each child. Some parents have high expectations for their children. Some parents, as long as their children grow up safely, learn more and learn less, have low expectations for their children, and even let themselves go. In the face of parents with high expectations, teachers should evaluate children from all aspects in communication and let parents know their advantages and disadvantages. Parents are advised to proceed from their children's strengths and not to ask them to cover everything, so as not to put too much pressure on their children and cause counterproductive consequences. It is even more impossible to impose the wishes of adults on children and force them to achieve goals that adults have not achieved. In the face of parents who are not demanding, when communicating, teachers can reflect the advantages of their children to parents more, and at the same time point out the shortcomings of parents with sincere attitude, so that parents can understand that it is very unfavorable for the healthy growth of their children in the long run, so that parents can have higher requirements for their children and promote their further development.
Communication content is different from parents' communication skills 2.
1, parents understand the communication of children's performance in kindergarten.
When parents ask the teacher about their children's situation in kindergarten, the teacher must pay attention to his words and talk about the children's performance in kindergarten. Don't generalize, so that parents feel that they don't care about their children at all and don't understand their situation. Don't just say that the child is all right, or that the child is all wrong, but tell the parents clearly what is good about his child, tell the parents some detailed things, and let the parents know the key points. When telling parents about their children's shortcomings, we should pay attention to the wording and tone, and communicate with parents in euphemistic sentences so that parents can understand their children's shortcomings. Don't be aggressive and hurt parents' self-esteem, and don't criticize children in front of other parents. While reflecting on children's shortcomings, we can also give parents some constructive suggestions, so that parents can feel that teachers really care about their children.
2. Communicate unexpectedly with the children in the kindergarten.
Kindergarten children are young and weak in self-protection, but naive, which is the age when they like to play crazy. Therefore, in the process of their play and games, it is inevitable that there will be some minor accidents. In this case, teachers inevitably have to communicate with their parents. At this time, the teacher should first calm down and understand the process of things clearly. At the same time, he should send the injured child to the hospital in time, contact the parents, sincerely express his apologies and take responsibility. Parents should be informed of the detailed facts of the incident to reduce their guesses and worries. At the same time, the teacher should also explain that the child will take special care during the injury. If the situation is serious, parents should take the initiative to appease their emotions, understand their complaints, and actively pay attention to the latest health status of their children in the follow-up process.
3. Communicate with parents when arranging cooperation tasks.
In the educational activities of kindergartens, parents' cooperation is often needed. Asking parents to cooperate with the teacher's education will inevitably affect their time and energy. Therefore, more efforts should be made in communication with parents. In addition to holding parent-teacher conferences, it is difficult for kindergartens to call parents together to arrange work, so teachers should pay attention to ways and means when arranging cooperation tasks for parents. You can choose to explain clearly that you need to cooperate with your parents' work through SMS, QQ group, etc. If you are facing the work of all parents, you need to post relevant notices at the door of the class. No matter which way you choose, teachers should pay attention to the conciseness and euphemism of language, so that parents can't feel that this is a task that teachers are forcing them to complete.
The communication environment with parents is different.
Different environments give people different moods, so we should also pay attention to the factors of communication environment in the process of communicating with parents.
1. Communication when picking up and dropping off kindergarten
Parents come to the kindergarten to pick up their children and have more contact with the teachers, but the time is short. Therefore, the communication with parents at this time is mainly to understand the situation of children at home and give parents a general introduction to the situation of children in kindergarten, so it is not appropriate to have a long talk with parents.
2. Communication when parents are invited to kindergarten
This kind of communication usually happens after some children have some bad situations, such as children making some small mistakes in kindergarten (hitting people, biting people, breaking other people's things, etc.). At this time, the teacher should choose a relatively hidden place (such as the office) to avoid other children. If two children are involved, it is best for both parents to communicate separately, and then discuss the solution after everyone is calm.
3. Communication during Children's Home's home visit
In this case, communication is relatively easy, the content of communication can be richer, the coverage can be wider, and the issues discussed with parents should have a certain depth. You can discuss his children with parents as well as some related parenting knowledge and experience.
abstract
In short, teachers should realize that if they want to have a good communication with parents, they must take into account various elements of communication, such as different communication objects, contents and places, so the ways and means of communication should be different. Moreover, in order to achieve better communication effect, teachers should constantly improve their own quality and be able to improvise. Communicate with parents with your own practical experience, and don't elaborate too much on their unclear views, so as not to lead them in the wrong direction.
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