Recently, the selected live broadcast room of New Oriental Oriental, which has been popular all over the Internet, finally lies in the faithful wife.
Why did Lao Yu stick to New Oriental firmly after the double drop and the end of teaching and training in New Oriental?
Looking through the short video before Lao Yu, I saw an article like this:
Know yourself and face up to your shortcomings, and you can make continuous progress!
Although we can't be like Lao Yu, as mothers, we can also be a brighter individual while recognizing ourselves.
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You can forget everything except yourself.
If you ask a child, what is your favorite fruit? He will answer without thinking.
If you ask an adult the same question, he may not answer it quickly. Why?
Adults seem to have forgotten this question.
Because no one has asked for a long time, I haven't thought about what I like and what kind of person I want to be.
After leaving campus, I began to accept the first job that I couldn't rebel for independence. Then, in order to form a happy family, I learned to be cautious and win a job that can support my family. Later, I had children, took care of my parents, devoted myself to a tired social life, and continued to support them.
When you grow up from infancy, learn how to integrate into society.
You may gradually forget yourself and what you should have as an independent individual.
Some people may say: Why do we have to pursue a more thorough understanding of ourselves?
Can't I just stop thinking about these problems and live a good life?
In fact, if you don't know yourself well enough, it is often difficult to develop yourself, and it is even more sad and happy.
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What is the true self.
Knowing yourself is called "self-knowledge" in psychology, which means having a clear cognition, thorough understanding and reasonable evaluation of yourself, which is what we call "self-knowledge" in our daily life.
Tasha Orich put forward seven viewpoints of self-consciousness, namely, values, enthusiasm, ambition, environment, behavior patterns, reaction and influence.
Knowing yourself is a search and induction of the above contents.
We can also summarize from two dimensions, namely:
1) Who am I?
This is the judgment of "I am now". Mainly includes:
Ability:
What am I good at? What kind of things are you not good at?
Environment:
What kind of environment and atmosphere do I feel comfortable working in?
Reaction:
When I encounter external stimuli, such as opportunities, risks, threats and emergencies, what are my emotions and subconscious reactions? What strategies do I usually adopt to solve problems?
2) Where am I from?
This is the judgment of the "basic self", which mainly includes:
Faith:
What deep-rooted ideas do I have? What do I believe are the laws and regulations of the outside world? Don't believe what?
Values:
What are my principles and what can't I do? What is good and what is bad? How to judge whether a thing is good or bad?
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How to know yourself?
The idea I have always advocated is to use sensibility and rationality flexibly in life.
Namely: provide materials with sensibility and analyze with rationality.
Give a simple example: like the last question "What are you good at?" What is a better way?
Not to recall and think, but to accumulate consciously in peacetime.
In other words, when you are exposed to different scenes and do different things at work, you can immerse yourself in them and feel:
When I do this, will I feel happy or bored?
Am I curious to explore further, or am I just not interested in doing business?
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When I do this task, do I feel very smooth and comfortable, or do I feel very difficult and need to stop and think often?
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Can I naturally enter the flow state, or am I particularly easily distracted?
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What do others think of my grades? Is it satisfied, or not satisfied enough to barely work?
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Answering these questions depends not on rationality, but on sensibility.
Don't bind your emotions and feelings, but record the fluctuations of your heart and state truthfully and ask yourself:
What is the emotion I feel now? What details and links make me feel this way?
In this process, you don't need to think too much, just focus on your feelings and thoughts and record them truthfully.
Believe that your heart will not deceive yourself.
Of course, because people always have state fluctuations, one or two records can't explain anything.
It is best to turn this practice into a habit. You can do it once every day when you finish your daily work or check the project regularly, and ask yourself your actual feelings.
You can do more logging and copying, actually referring to such logging.
What are you going to do next? Is to use their own rationality, the perceptual collection of processing these materials, to think:
These collected materials are * * *?
What kind of things and tasks will arouse my curiosity/pleasure/sense of accomplishment/boredom/difficulty/irritability ...?
Can I summarize some simple rules to clarify my inclination?
In other words, sensibility collects raw materials about things and emotions, and rationality summarizes and refines these raw materials to abstract the laws.
When summing up with reason, we should pay special attention to: don't be too immersed in the mindset of "did I do something wrong again?" Instead, we should jump out, raise our horizons, try to "pull out" from "ourselves at that moment" and look down at ourselves calmly from a higher angle.
What we have to do is immerse ourselves in the outside and pull away from the inside.
Only by combining sensibility and rationality well and coordinating the relationship between them can we have a clearer understanding of ourselves.
What is another important point?
It's a collision between self and the outside world.
Yohji yamamoto once said a classic sentence: "The self is invisible. Only when you hit something and bounce back will you know "self".
Therefore, it is self to collide with something very strong, terrible and high standard, and then know what you are. 」
What are many people's cognitive blind spots? It is to pay too much attention to oneself, thus ignoring what "oneself" is like in the eyes of others.
But in fact, our understanding of ourselves is often inconsistent with others' understanding of you.
Therefore, I often say, how to better discover your own advantages?
An effective way is: when chatting with others, ask what you think of others and find out what others think of you-this is often more important and useful than your own opinion of yourself.
For example:
If you used three words to describe me, which three words would you use? Why?
This can intuitively reflect your first impression in the minds of others, which is often the most intuitive and subconscious trait you show in the process of interacting with others.
If you want to spend my time, what do you want me to do for you?
This can intuitively reflect others' evaluation of you and help you understand others' cognition and judgment of your abilities, strengths and advantages.
Is there anything about me that makes you think I'm not doing well enough? Are there any details you want me to change?
This can help you understand your influence on others, help you break your cognitive blind spots, and understand the blind spots that you cannot perceive and discover.
Of course, you don't have to be so direct, but you should ask "appropriately" according to the occasion and atmosphere, which needs to test your communication skills.
In short: only by combining our interaction and contact with the outside world can our understanding of "self" become more complete.
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How to make your own strategic plan?
In fact, it is: where am I going?
This is the judgment of "ideal me", which mainly includes:
Goal:
What kind of person do I want to be? What kind of life do I want?
When I do something, I feel very happy, very satisfied, and especially easy to enter the flow? What achievements do I hope to make to prove myself?
How do I want others to evaluate me and address me? What identity do I want to use to know and communicate with others?
You may not have an answer to these questions now, or you may not have a definite, clear and correct answer, but it doesn't matter. Take your time, after all, as mentioned above:
Knowing yourself is a lesson that needs to be practiced for a lifetime.
Once you have a goal, you can make a plan.
Although sometimes, your goal is uncertain and biased, it doesn't matter. The plan was originally to be revised.
Just like reading an article, some people have completed their goals one by one according to a node in five years.
Every five years, he defines an adult's life, what kind of person he wants to be in this life, and he will finish it in these five years, and then live another life in another five years.
Of course, your five-year plan can be a goal, and you don't have to experience a different life as mentioned above. You can follow a goal and finish it one by one in five years.
Just like the five-year plan we often hear, the five-year plan implemented by the state has now reached fourteen five-year plans.
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In fact, the process of knowing yourself is like the process of an enterprise. It analyzes its advantages and disadvantages through competition, finds its own position, and then makes strategic planning.
Enterprises are called brands, and self-awareness can be called personal brands. Only by knowing yourself and establishing a personal brand can we be discovered by more potential opportunities and develop better.
No matter how society cuts you, please don't forget your heart, where there is a seed full of hope.
Re-recognize yourself, re-cultivate yourself, and let him bloom again.