What is the child's "disgust"?
This is very important. Because children's "weariness" is often the result, and the reason to solve the problem of weariness refers to the root of children's "weariness". The first thing that makes children tired of learning, the first thing that children "hate". When parents think about how children are tired of learning, the first thing to be clear is not what to do, but why children are tired of learning.
To sum up, the root causes of "disgust" are mainly divided into the following four categories. (Common main types)
First, I am "tired" of certain personnel environment. This situation accounts for a large part of reality. The reason why children are tired of learning at first is a teacher who criticizes him but doesn't recognize him, a teacher who doesn't perform well in class, and a teacher who conflicts with him. The friction between some classmates and him, some things make him feel very ashamed, can't pass, and his efforts can't be rewarded; He doesn't like the school environment, the class atmosphere is not as good as before, there are no good friends around him, and so on. In short, children can't accept certain things, and these things have a more or less relationship with their study life, and then "learning" is implicated, and children are tired of learning.
Second, the "boredom" of a certain subject or several subjects. This situation is very common, that is, children can't learn a certain subject or several subjects at all, and their poor grades lead to constant acceptance of various negative emotions and negative influences, resulting in negative States such as anxiety, depression, laissez-faire, self-abandonment, and even weariness of learning.
Third, "tired" of things that make you unhappy. This often happens when you are afraid of difficulties and lose interest in learning. People are born with the "ability" to avoid difficulties, and they often enjoy it. When children can't enjoy the fun of learning, patience, resistance and tenacity are not enough, it is easy to succumb to the inner "little devil who pursues short-term happiness desire." Learning is so difficult and painful, how can playing games be so easy, isn't it?
Fourth, "tired" of everything. This kind of situation is not common, the performance is that nothing can be mentioned, nothing can be done, and nothing is interesting. This can no longer be measured simply by "weariness of learning", but it can be said to be "weariness of the world" seriously.
After analyzing the reasons, we can further discuss how to deal with them.
For the first point, "tired" of certain personnel environment, this is the best coping type. Seemingly complicated, in fact, as long as we find the reason, we can have a targeted solution. By identifying specific things that children can't figure out, they can simplify complex problems and use solutions based on these root causes. What needs to be noted here is that what children "hate" is not necessarily a single source, and many of them can be intertwined with multiple problems. When dealing with them, we should be relatively careful not to miss the hidden dangers.
As for the second point, we should deal with it from two levels. First of all, it is necessary to clarify the root causes of unfavorable subjects and screen them from the perspective of learning ability and learning methods to help children understand the reasons for poor grades. Improving the learning ability by changing the way of thinking and learning methods, coupled with timely support and encouragement, can effectively enhance children's confidence and reverse their weariness of learning. The second level is called: learn to give up. This is my personal opinion. Not everyone can really learn a subject well. Some ways of thinking and depth of thinking are hard to shake, and you really can't learn well at this time. Then, learning to let go is more important than painful entanglement. Let children know that they have only encountered things that they are not good at, but there are still many areas in the world that they are good at discovering. At this time, let the children know that they should not be tired of learning because of things they are not good at. They should find something they are interested in, good at and willing to work hard for, and then continue to study and still achieve something.
For the third point, the hardest thing is to "hate" things that make you unhappy. After all, this is to fight against human beings! The reason for this kind of weariness is often the lack of interest in learning and the lack of ability to resist pressure and setbacks, and the root cause can often be traced back to family education. No rules, indulgence, intergenerational upbringing, harshness, etc. May lead to this result. Therefore, the concept of family education must be correct, which is the premise of reversing, and then it is to guide children's awareness of rules and interest in learning. Among them, as children grow older, it is more difficult to change. Fortunately, children still have the opportunity to carry out some corresponding educational activities when they have to rely on their families to provide financial resources.
For the fourth point, "learning weariness" has gone beyond the level of learning weariness. When you are tired of everything, it is no longer a question of "learning". If you have no interest in life, how can you have interest in learning? In this case, it is generally necessary to discuss whether there is "depressed mood" or "depressed state", and its solution is also biased towards the category of "depression", so I will not elaborate here.
To sum up, when parents feel anxious and confused about their children's "weariness of learning", it is often because they can't start with such problems. Therefore, after a detailed analysis of children's "weariness" motivation (the reason is not necessarily single, many factors will be caused by interaction), effective targeted programs can be more easily output and accepted. From cause to result, from result to cause. When we encounter a problem, don't be stumped by it, find the root of the problem, and there are always ways to alleviate, change and solve it.