From these words, we can hear the helplessness and responsibility of a stepfather.
This sweet talk made Xu Ying, who was 47 years old at that time, deeply involved and unable to extricate himself.
She finally chose to follow her boyfriend Ceng Xiang, who is 16 years younger than herself, and came to Changsha from Chenzhou, Hunan, regardless of her children's opposition. From the moment he left home, Xu Ying seemed ready to make a complete break with his children.
In order to marry a 3 1 year-old boy, the 47-year-old aunt abandoned her husband and children.
Raising children to prevent old age, but the behavior of some old people is really not worthy of respect.
Since Xu Ying followed Ceng Xiang to Changsha, they got a marriage certificate in secret, and no one dared to tell his family.
I thought I could live a world of two people with deep feelings from now on, but the reality is somewhat unsatisfactory.
Xu Ying and Ceng Xiang are both married, but Xu Ying did not divorce when she established her love relationship.
At that time, she was 47 years old and supported five children with her husband.
When her husband was ill in hospital, filial sons and daughters took turns to wait on him, and Xu Ying had leisure to "flirt".
Ceng Xiang was born in rural Chenzhou. He didn't like studying since he was a child, so he dropped out of school early to work.
But he was lazy and idle, and he couldn't save much money all the year round, so his first marriage broke up in discord.
After the divorce, Ceng Xiang also showed some self-abandonment, riding a motorcycle all day fooling around outside and never talking about business. Even in middle age, he has accomplished nothing and is a loser in the eyes of his neighbors.
By chance, Ceng Xiang met Xu Ying.
Xu Ying's family is in business, and she has some spare money. When she saw that Ceng Xiang was down and out, she ate the last meal instead of the next, just like a big sister, she cared about him.
When Ceng Xiang is short of money, Xu Ying will help; Ceng Xiang was short of things, so Xu Ying bought him big bags of things.
Gradually, Ceng Xiang developed a sense of dependence on Xu Ying. In Ceng Xiang's own words, he said, "I spent her a little money at that time, and she helped me in my most difficult time." This timely help warmed Ceng Xiang's heart.
Xu Ying turned to look at her husband lying in a hospital bed, then at Ceng Xiang, a vibrant Ceng Xiang. The love that should not be bred gradually expands.
I don't know whether Ceng Xiang is defending men's dignity or other reasons, but he described himself as an upstart in front of Xu Ying.
He told Xu Ying that he had a house and a BMW under his name, and he would repay Xu Ying well when he turned over.
At that time, Xu Ying, who was fascinated by color, also ignored the textual research. There is no doubt about it. Ceng Xiang said that the house in his hometown is a tile house, and BMW is his nickname for his motorcycle.
Xu Ying, who has a good impression on Ceng Xiang, has become more and more attached to Ceng Xiang in the process of getting along day and night. A surprising idea appears in her mind: divorce.
On weekdays, her husband is obedient to Xu Ying, and her children are very respectful. Seeing that they are going to live a life surrounded by their children and grandchildren, Xu Ying has to toss and turn.
When Xu Ying told his family that he was going to elope with Ceng Xiang, he was strongly opposed by the whole family.
The daughters resolutely disagree with Xu Ying's practice. How can Xu Ying, who has a hot temper, tolerate young students questioning his life? He will cut his daughter with a kitchen knife, but his family will stop him, otherwise this bloody case will be inevitable.
During her love with Ceng Xiang, Xu Ying seldom went home. As long as he goes home, he makes a noise.
She won't stop until she reaches her goal. Her family invited all her relatives, hoping to persuade Xu Ying to change her mind.
And she has made up her mind that she can't pull back eight horses. No matter what the relationship is, as long as someone advises her to break up with Ceng Xiang and return to her family, Xu Ying will not hesitate to turn against her.
Xu Ying seems to be possessed. She must divorce her husband, dead or alive.
Children at home even frown. Looking at this disobedient mother, they can only be angry. Neither of them will have a good result in the end. Xu Ying will come back crying sooner or later, and the children even say angrily that when Xu Ying regrets that day, she will be left in the street.
Xu Ying believes that even without children, Ceng Xiang will always take care of himself, because he promised more than once: "I will support you when you are 70 or 80 years old." Xu Ying doesn't need to care too much about his children's feelings.
Xu Ying was blinded by Ceng Xiang's pledge of eternal love. She believes that Ceng Xiang will make a comeback sooner or later, and he will never give up on himself. These two people will be together forever.
Finally, at Xu Ying's insistence, her husband agreed to divorce.
When Xu Ying got the divorce certificate, she felt free. It is also from this moment that she has nothing to do with the small family she worked so hard to manage and the children she raised.
On the other hand, Ceng Xiang is also under great pressure.
When he told his family that he was in love with a woman 16 years older than himself, he was severely reprimanded by his family and earnestly advised him to give up as soon as possible.
First, Xu Ying has her own family and children and should not be a third party;
Secondly, Xu Ying is much older than Ceng Xiang. There will be physical problems in a few years. Then Ceng Xiang will have another "mother" to support.
I don't know whether Ceng Xiang really loves crazy or takes a fancy to Xu Ying's savings, but he didn't listen to his family's advice in the end.
Xu Ying's children also tried to contact Ceng Xiang directly, asking him to "let go" of his mother, but Ceng Xiang was very firm, saying that they were true love and others didn't need to interrupt.
After consulting with Ceng Xiang, the "bad karma mandarin duck" decided to leave this trouble spot and go to Changsha.
People are emotional animals, and Xu Ying knows what this means.
Ceng Xiang doesn't matter, but Xu Ying muttered something before leaving.
Ceng Xiang packed her bags long ago, but Xu Ying became hesitant and always found various reasons not to leave Chenzhou.
But in the end, Xu Ying couldn't hold on to Ceng Xiang's insistence, and they ran away from me.
Objectively speaking, Xu Ying and Ceng Xiang violated the moral bottom line, and their actions were very inappropriate.
Xu Ying obviously has a family and children, but just because of his own whim, he gave up his feelings with his lover and abandoned his family to follow Ceng Xiang.
Ceng Xiang knew Xu Ying's situation from the beginning, but in order to continue to accept Xu Ying's assistance, he naturally pursued the "third superiority" and became the destroyer of family and marriage.
In today's society, it is not uncommon for an old man to have fewer wives or an old woman to have fewer husbands. But in fact, most of them just take what they need.
The older one took a fancy to the other's youth and beauty; The young side took a fancy to the other's successful career.
If there is always material support, this feeling may last for a long time. Once there is no material foundation, the contradiction between the two sides will gradually emerge.
Couples of similar age will expose each other's shortcomings if they have been in contact for a long time, not to mention this relationship that is ten years apart.
Xu Ying and Ceng Xiang are destined to have great differences in life and values. As long as we get along for a long time, the crisis will break out.
Remarried 1 1 year, crying and regretting.
"Leave you two to us. These questions have long been guessed."
Listening to the words on the phone, the second daughter Feng knew this indifferent attitude and sat on the bed and cried.
Feng Zhi, it seems, had anticipated the mother's ending. In her opinion, since her mother was stubborn from the beginning, there is no need to say anything now, so she hung up the phone in a hurry and left Xu Ying to regret it.
It turns out that since Xu Ying followed Ceng Xiang to Changsha, their lives have become more and more difficult.
At first, they thought they had found the king of Thailand. They stay in the rental house all day, and neither Xu Ying nor Ceng Xiang goes out to work.
After all, Xu Ying took a lot of money from home when he left. At that time, he didn't have to worry about eating and drinking at all. Ceng Xiang also takes care of Xu Ying and cooks for her.
But with the passage of time, Xu Ying has little left, her age is increasing day by day, and what little beauty is left is completely lost in the baptism of years.
Ceng Xiang had to go out to work to make money.
Ceng Xiang thinks that she married a rich woman at a young age and can spend the rest of her life comfortably.
Although Xu Ying is very rich, she is by no means a rich woman in everyone's mind. Both of them need money for food and clothing, water, electricity and heating, and it is only a matter of time before Xu Ying's financial resources can make a living.
Ceng Xiang didn't find a real job either, just took a few odd jobs near the rental house.
In the meantime, Ceng Xiang became more and more impatient. The thought that he was in his forties, had no house or car, and had to work hard to take care of Xu Ying lost his motivation to work.
He spent three days fishing and two days drying nets. Basically, he stopped working after earning enough monthly rent and daily living expenses, and their lives did not improve much.
Because there is no money, Xu Ying can't maintain it, which makes her skin worse and worse.
Moreover, when people are old, it is inevitable that they will find the upper body because of various diseases. Xu Ying has leg pain or backache all day. She is penniless and doesn't even have the courage to go to the hospital for examination.
Because of her poor physical condition and appearance, Xu Ying feels less and less secure.
She always feels that Ceng Xiang, who is not at home all day, must have someone outside, and every time they go out together, Ceng Xiang always walks very fast, trying to distance herself, for fear that someone will know that this aunt is his wife.
When they take photos together, Ceng Xiang always keeps Xu Ying at arm's length.
Xu Ying always rushed forward to hold Ceng Xiang's arm, and Ceng Xiang would barely squeeze out a smile.
Ceng Xiang's performance made Xu Ying more and more sensitive. She began to feel that Ceng Xiang had abandoned herself, and she was afraid that Ceng Xiang would abandon herself in a few years.
What worries Xu Ying more is that she saw Ceng Xiang shopping with other women.
Angry Xu Ying immediately rushed forward and began to question the woman in front of him, but Ceng Xiang only called it a friend relationship and told Xu Ying to go home quickly so as not to embarrass himself.
I don't know how many times this has happened, and Xu Ying's psychology is gradually distorted.
She spent a whole day in Lacrimosa, and the little husband who was kind to herself has remained in her memory ever since.
Xu Ying was desperate, and the children at home had quarreled with themselves. Begging their forgiveness is tantamount to going to heaven.
Besides, Xu Ying doesn't know whether his wife who was abandoned by him can accept himself again.
Helpless Xu Ying had to come up with "expanding the illness" to bind Ceng Xiang.
One day, Xu Ying met Ceng Xiang and other women in the shopping center. She was so angry that she went up and wrestled with them.
She cried hysterically and accused Ceng Xiang of disloyalty. When she got home, she said that her legs ached with anger and she couldn't stand up at all.
In front of the camera, Ceng Xiang showed the sense of responsibility that a man should have. He said softly, "Honey, I'll take you to the hospital for examination."
But Xu Ying refused to go. Even if the reporter asked why, she couldn't tell why.
Ceng Xiang guessed that Xu Ying must be pretending to be ill, so that he could stay at home with her all day.
In recent years, Ceng Xiang has also been full of discontent. He thinks that Xu Ying is like a different person after menopause. He often looks at this and that, thinking that he is having an affair with another woman. He even often says, "You're fooling around with those women. I'm afraid you're poisonous."
Ceng Xiang, who is nearly 50 years old, has no career or children. He was overwhelmed by this dullness all day, and he was also very uncomfortable.
In his speech, Ceng Xiang didn't mention the word divorce, but his heart of parting ways with Xu Ying was clear.
Xu Ying finally knew that Ceng Xiang was unreliable, so she was eager to return to her family.
With the help of the reporter, Xu Ying found his third daughter.
The third daughter, like the second daughter, was indifferent to Xu Ying, saying that when she left home, Xu Ying vowed that "that person (Ceng Xiang)" would give her a good life and abandoned a large family.
Of course, these are all angry words. As a child, how can you not care about your parents?
After consulting with their father, Xu Ying's children decided to take Xu Ying back, mainly because Xu Ying's wife will never forget her.
In the years after Xu Ying left, his sons and daughters all set out to introduce him to another object, but the old man refused to live or die and always used various excuses to shirk it. In fact, he just can't forget Xu Ying.
"My father wants her to come back, and my father still cares about her." Hearing the daughters' answers, Xu Ying burst into tears.
But she didn't make a clear choice, divorced, and she couldn't let go of her little husband; If you don't get divorced, life will be too hard.
In Ceng Xiang's indifference and family's enthusiasm, Xu Ying chose the latter. In the end, this 1 1 year love ended with Ceng Xiang paying 50,000 yuan, and the two divorced.