In love, two people have a good relationship, but in marriage, everything should be considered.
If you have no money after marriage, you will find your relationship difficult to move.
A good marriage is really about money. I have met many women. She didn't have a house when she got married, and she still lives in a rental house after marriage.
When they have no children, there is really no problem, but once they have children, they will have all kinds of quarrels.
Therefore, although money is not everything, at some point, no money is absolutely impossible.
Will you marry men who don't have houses? Interviewed some women, and this is their answer.
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@ Xiaoyao, married for 5 years, when there was no house.
I am a living example! I didn't buy a house when I got married, but my child bought a house when he was three years old. Only I know the hardships.
Forced to move many times in the middle. I quarreled many times and cried once because of the rent increase.
So when you get married, things can smash everything. So girls, think twice before you do. Material is the foundation, but it is not as people who have been poor together know.
If we don't buy a house after marriage, I don't know how noisy it will be.
So my suggestion is that girls should still think about their future. Sometimes love is not enough to drink. If you have no material things, you will find that your love is not worth mentioning.
Therefore, when choosing a partner, you should see whether his family and education are commensurate with you. What are your partner's potential strengths? Can you accept your partner's shortcomings and whether the three views are consistent? If the above conditions are similar, you should be able to get married.
Otherwise, even if you have been married for a while, it will be very troublesome after marriage.
@ Yutong, no money, no house, wronged everywhere.
My sister married a poor child without a father. My parents didn't agree at first, but I couldn't beat my sister. I don't want a bride price when I get married. My parents helped him decorate the house, which was very kind to him, just to make him be kind to my sister.
As a result, he doesn't know what gratitude is, and he wants my parents to help him raise his children, and he wants my parents to help him more.
After marriage, whenever there is something big or small, let our family help. Moreover, his income is not high, and sometimes it is difficult to support himself, let alone support his children.
After having children, the family of three is still crowded in a rented house, and they have to rely on their parents to help.
My mother was angry, too. She scolded my sister several times: I told you not to marry, don't marry, you have to marry, and now you have suffered.
But it's too late to say anything now.
Girls always think that love is enough when they are young, but be realistic. When you fall in love with a boy when you are young, you must find out what you want: appearance, talent, money, and sincere kindness to you. If he is not satisfied, why talk about it?
@ 中中中: First get the license and then buy a house, and two people will work together.
I married my boyfriend and didn't buy a house. I have already got a license. Because the epidemic is not married, we are all ordinary families. We don't want to put so much pressure on our parents, so we use our life savings to buy us a house and work hard.
Anyway, I have been in love for seven years, and I have been renting a house together for two or three years, and I have never been knocked down by daily necessities. Although it may be more bitter than others, I am willing to fight with him.
@ Island Owner and Cat: Material is really important.
No matter how much you promise now, you will know when you really live on daily necessities. It's just that now many girls in their twenties follow that person for love.
I also got married for love. My husband and I have been in love for six years and married for one year. To tell the truth, I don't mind that he has no room or car. As long as this person always cares about you and treats you well, you will be willing to help him achieve him, otherwise you will not see the future of the two.
But after a year of marriage, I have some regrets.
Because after marriage, he is really different from before marriage. Now I have a bad temper and can't make money. Every time I mention him, he yells at me.
Marrying a man who is incompetent and has a big temper is a lifetime's bad news for a woman.
I have some regrets. Of course, it doesn't mean that if a man has money, your life may be happy forever, at least you don't have to suffer so much.
Love without material things is a mess. The wind dispersed as soon as it blew.
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Here, I'm not saying that I want all girls to be materialists. If two people really love each other, then it is ok to work together, struggle together and pay the down payment together.
After all, married people want to live a better life.
For single women, if they haven't found a suitable partner, they can be themselves first.
After hearing this sentence, I don't know who I will meet next, but I'm sure that no matter what kind of person the other person is, he must also want me to be excellent, calm and mature, so I don't need to spend a lot of time fantasizing about the future, but I have to arm myself with all my waiting, just to be able to confidently say that I know you are good, but I am not bad.