Today's society is really an era of extroverts. In school, those "campus man of the hour" who often organize and participate in public activities and attract the attention of the whole school are mostly extroverted; In the workplace, outgoing colleagues who are good at communication can always get more opportunities for learning and promotion, and quickly become successful and become "the man of the hour in the workplace".
Compared with extroverts, introverts are more gloomy. Introverts are mostly quiet, not good at communicating with others, and not good at showing and expressing themselves, so it is easy to give people the impression of being withdrawn and reserved, and even form many misunderstandings.
I am also an introvert. When I was in college, I didn't participate in all kinds of activities. Many years after graduation, a classmate who worked in other places once went to Beijing on business, and the monitor insisted on forcing me out to get together with everyone. Looking back on campus, a classmate sitting next to me told me, "You don't get along with people very much at school, whether it's lofty or other reasons, I'm very happy to see you at the party today." I was really surprised at the time. I actually left a "lofty" impression on my classmates, but I'm not good at chatting.
Introversion itself is not a problem. Many introverts are very capable and talented. Introverts also have many successful people, such as Bill Gates and Buffett, all of whom are introverts. However, introverted personality and communication disadvantages caused by introversion actually affect personal development and job promotion. Of course, this disadvantage is relative, not absolute. With correct methods and more practice, introverts can also make up for the lack of communication, turn disadvantages into advantages, improve their personal competitiveness and become excellent leaders.
Jennifer Conweiler's Communication Bible for Introverts is a communication guide for introverts. Introversion can be managed and the disadvantages of communication can be improved. What you need is practical methods and persistent implementation.
Jennifer Conweiler clearly pointed out in the Bible of Communicating with Introverts that "introverts can be very successful leaders" and that "successful introverts actually turn weaknesses in others' eyes into strengths".
Jennifer Conweiler summed up the four challenges that introverts bring in the workplace in the Bible of Communication for Introverts:
1, pressure
2, their own vision is far less than others.
3, do not understand the business "relationship", career development is blocked.
4. Become invisible in the workplace.
As an introvert, I am familiar with these situations, and I have spoken my mind. In order to help introverts cope with such challenges and improve the communication effect, Jennifer Conweiler put forward a good method to change the life of introverts.
4P method loop
What is the 4P method?
The Bible of Introvert Communication says, "The 4P method is a simple and easy guide that can be used to optimize your performance". 4P refers to preparation, presentation, promotion and practice. These four steps form an action cycle. Different action plans can be made for different application scenarios. After repeated cycle execution, they can gradually improve and overcome the difficult problems in their work, and finally "turn stumbling blocks into stepping stones".
1, ready
Whether introverted or extroverted, the truth that "opportunities belong to those who are prepared" is universally applicable. For introverts, they are not very good at communication. When they encounter conversations, meetings, speeches and other scenes, the metropolis is nervous, fearful and at a loss.
However, if I ask "study hard" on the spot, what is the next sentence? "I believe that everyone, whether extroverted or introverted, will confidently give an answer (and give me a contemptuous look). Why is everyone answering confidently and smoothly at this time? Because I am familiar with the questions and answers, I am confident and have the means to deal with them freely.
Facing the scene in the workplace, making full preparations in advance can make introverts have laws to follow, content to talk about, and a bottom in their hearts, which will naturally give them a certain degree of self-confidence and willingness to face up to problems and lay the foundation for the next statement. Therefore, "the more fully planned, the more comfortable you will be."
2. Presentation
Exhibition is to express and show yourself on the spot in the working scene. At this point, the most important thing is to focus, focus on the present, focus on the object or audience you are facing. Your expression is expected to be accurately conveyed to the other party. Your concentration can attract each other, make them concentrate on following your thoughts, understand your intentions, and eliminate other interferences. In this way, we can successfully show the truest you in front of everyone, so that everyone can see clearly, instead of being ignored, and also pass the most accurate information to each other to achieve the purpose of communication.
Good expression can help introverts win a good impression. From then on, it is no longer a "small transparency" in the crowd, but you who are familiar to everyone.
3. Push
Pushing is actually a small challenge for introverts. To make progress and success, we should not only be satisfied with showing ourselves, but also push ourselves to take further actions.
If you always do things that you are completely familiar with and handy, it will be difficult to make greater progress. Push is to improve yourself, get out of the comfort zone and face some strange, fresh and even a little risky fields. For introverts, you don't have to push yourself too hard. Choose small steps. No matter how small the attempt, there will be some gains. Little by little gains will make introverts more willing to try further.
As the book says, "After all, you want to know what you can do in this world". I believe everyone will agree with this truth. Introverts should bravely push themselves out of their comfort zone and experience new fields. With the accumulated harvest of action, the courage to spur yourself will become stronger and stronger, and the will will become more and more positive.
4, Practice (practice)
Constant practice can make people more and more skilled and handy, and can also be constantly adjusted in the process of practice to find better methods, just like a "technical" oil seller. Practice is the best way to strengthen skills. Make continuous progress in practice, and you may find new situations and create new opportunities.
Jane avenue. There are four simple steps: preparation, demonstration, promotion and practice, and everyone can understand the meaning of the steps. The action cycle formed by 4P method is a set of action guides that can be applied to various scenarios.
The Application of 4P Method in Public Speaking
In the Bible of Communicating with Introverts, not only the theory of 4P method is briefly explained, but also detailed scene analysis and action guide are made for common situations in the workplace, such as public speaking, project management, communication with superiors, leadership team and expression in meetings. These are the most common scenes at work, which every introvert must face. The practical action methods described in the book can be used directly.
In the application scenario, use the 4P method, suit the remedy to the case, list the targeted action table, and persist in practicing and executing according to the method. Your movements will become more and more skilled, your plans will become more and more comprehensive, your ability will become stronger and stronger, and your self-confidence will become richer and richer.
Introverts, according to this set of methods to deal with the challenges in the workplace, those difficulties and problems will be solved one by one, the disadvantages in communication can be made up and improved, and communication skills will gradually become the strengths conducive to work.
Quiet introverts can be as competitive as extroverts, and introverts can become successful leaders. If you are an introvert like me, I recommend you to read the Bible of Communication for Introverts. In daily communication, especially in the workplace, we can learn from the 4P method to guide our actions, improve our "quiet competition" and cope with the challenges in the workplace freely.
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