1. Men will think of shrinking under pressure. This may be different from the man we think in our concept. We always think that men are more frustrated and brave when facing difficulties and pressures, but they are not. Under pressure, it is easy for men to have this idea of shrinking. And they will complain, that is, what caused me to become like this. It is difficult for men to admit that they are inferior to others and are unwilling to admit defeat. So when something happens in his life that he can't cope with, it may be difficult for him to tell his wife that it is my incompetence that leads to this result. It is easier for him to find some objective reasons, such as Xiao Zhang's uncooperative, Xiao Li's stumbling block and so on. Blaming, or complaining, is a sign that men are under pressure.
It is also the most one. When men are under pressure, they like to shut themselves up, go home and keep silent. After he entered the room, he closed the door, then no matter how you knocked, he wouldn't open the door, and finally he opened the door. You asked him what happened to you? He said it's okay. You said I thought you obviously had something to do. Why didn't you tell me that you took me as your wife?
He said, I said nothing is nothing, so don't ask. ?
Then you will say whether you like me or not, and you won't tell me from the bottom of your heart. ?
He said I didn't take it to heart, I just don't want to talk now.
When this person doesn't want to talk.
A woman should allow him to be quiet; You must never try to pry his mouth open when he enjoys this space alone.
Because then he will not only tell you the truth, but also easily bring you into conflict.
So as a woman, when your man releases pressure, you should give him time to be alone, and don't want to occupy his whole world.
Once he closes the door, you feel that he is rejecting you. Once he doesn't tell you the truth, you feel that he is on guard against you, which will easily lead to this contradiction between husband and wife.
2. When a woman is under pressure, she will easily lose her temper and get upset. She will kick the stool down, then pat the child twice, or say a few words to her husband, that is, when she is under pressure, she will be more irritable.
For example, children are not good at school and children are not obedient. Husband is too lazy, that is, once there is such a thing that he can't control, he will show that kind of excitement or anxiety.
Another situation is overreaction. Women tend to think of something as catastrophic, just a small thing, and I will continue to expand. I thought this thing was terrible, and then I scared myself to death. It's just a small thing, I will associate it at will, and then the more it is associated, the more serious it will be, and then I will be too scared to sleep. It's easy.
There is also easy to cause their fatigue. They are very, very tired, and feel that they are difficult to cope with, that is, to consume themselves. This is also a manifestation of women facing pressure.
Faced with the same pressure, men and women react differently. Therefore, the course of husband-wife relationship needs men and women to study together, and women should not grow up alone, but men should also grow up. Only in this way can the married life be more harmonious with the joint efforts of both sides.
When this woman is upset and hysterical, you must never talk about her. How could you? Are you menopausal? Are you out of your mind? When a man says that, it hurts a woman very, very much. She is not menopausal or neurotic, but her personality. When a woman is stressed or afraid, she may get hysterical. Then as men, we really need to understand her.
The core that everyone should grasp most is that as a woman, you should give your husband time to be alone, and don't want to occupy all his heart and his world. He must have a part of himself. Then as a man, when facing his wife's hysteria, don't satirize her, don't hit her, you should give her care and calm her mood.
If both men and women can do what they should do, how big a problem do you think your marriage life can be? Of course, to do this, we should not only understand this difference, but also make it harmonious. The truly perfect lovers have to go through the polishing of love, polish off a little corner for each other, and be able to live together in harmony without difference.
At 7: 30 every Friday night, it's a great pleasure to walk into the nail studio in Wen Cong and listen to Wen Cong talk about gender-related topics. Because men and women know each other, so cherish! Life is more exciting because of you. Thank you for growing up in a group every time!