The problem here, if you are still in your post, is another matter.
I think at the beginning, because of my work, I may often be busy, I may often come and go from east to west, I may often clink glasses, I may often interrupt, I may often call over and over again, and I may often have endless information.
Perhaps these are also the normal state of their work and life.
I'm afraid it's hard to be quiet.
Professional habits, sometimes habits become nature.
After retirement, there is no communication at work. There will be less natural contact and less things.
It seems that there are fewer so-called friends.
It is natural that the above-mentioned telephone calls and information will go away at any time, which is also a natural phenomenon.
In its place, seek its administration.
Do your job and fuck your heart.
Retired, not in place, not seeking its politics, not doing its things, not caring about its heart.
Put it down, put it down.
It's quiet when it's quiet.
Loneliness, loneliness.
This is actually the duty of being a man, and it is also in line with the common sense of interpersonal life.
What's so surprising?
Introspection, habit becomes nature!
I wonder what you have in mind.
A few words, a little humble opinion, for reference only!
Because of my age, many colleagues do things separately, and my friends break up when I walk. When they lose it, their health is no longer healthy. Many friends get together less, and new friends don't want to join. Familiar friends will naturally decrease gradually, especially after some retired workers leave their jobs, they have time to think about their busy work for decades, and then live the life they want and spend it in a fantastic life.
Nowadays, the mobile phone network is becoming more and more powerful, transportation and communication are becoming more and more convenient, and the contact between people is becoming less and less. Old people are also very busy. If they have nothing to do and don't want to disturb others by phone, they naturally lose a lot of contact. For example, if you are idle at home and busy with housework, you will lose a lot of contact with your friends, make phone calls, not work together, and even have no communication at work. People need a long time to cool their tea, and everyone's communication will be lost.
Perhaps most older people stay at home with their families and take their children out to play, or spend most of their time doing things they like, planting flowers and raising small animals, all of which take time to take care of and enjoy life. Everyone has his own things to do, and gradually he can't find the topic he wants to talk to his friends, so he naturally relaxes himself and lives in his own world.
Gradually, the habit of calling and sending messages has decreased, and each has its own way of playing. There is less and less intimate emotional communication between friends, and they feel closest to their relatives, family and lovers.
In my fifties, I'm at home, and I'm a lone ranger. I'm not interested in chatting with people except watching my mobile phone. Sometimes I go to places I know occasionally, and chatting is boring. Your parents' time in my house is short, so killing time is of little value, and sometimes I can't control it. Let others know what I shouldn't say at home. Sometimes you go to an acquaintance, and this person may not welcome you because he is very busy and has no leisure to talk to you. It's even more boring if the discerning person goes back.
I'd rather watch and play with my mobile phone now. Mobile phones make people reluctant to leave their friends. There are too many text messages on mobile phones. The circle of friends is advertising every day, sharing beautiful pictures, delicious food, beautiful children and beautiful homes ... it is full. As long as you go to a lot of products and have a beautiful group, as soon as your mobile phone is turned on, all kinds of routines will let you open it and watch it. Time spent, my eyes turned to flowers and swelled up.
In today's world, as long as there is a mobile phone in hand, a network, and traffic, then the information will continue, and you will not be silent.
This is a seemingly inevitable phenomenon, but it is also controllable to some extent. The main reasons for this phenomenon are:
Some of the original channels of communication and interaction have gradually disappeared, such as interpersonal communication in the workplace. Although there may be people discussing professional issues with you occasionally, it will become less and less until it disappears.
It turns out that the interaction with colleagues and friends is online and offline. The older you get, the less offline interaction you have, and the less online interaction you have.
The content of communication and interaction in life is limited, and the trivial matters in life will not be exchanged from time to time;
When you get older, your energy will decrease, your interest will decrease, and your interaction will gradually change from active to passive. Without the initiative of communication and interaction, your circle of friends will be significantly reduced.
But this phenomenon can also be controlled and improved. If you are old, you can still actively communicate with friends and relatives, not just passively, and even cultivate some new interests and expand some new friends. Without this information, the number of friends will be reduced to a certain extent, and life will be more interesting and rich.
When I am old, I can't socialize in many games. I slowly quit, and my former friends separated, seeing through people's hearts and understanding the world. Quiet or spend more time with your family.
It's almost the same as my state. I feel that my phone number is reserved for express delivery when I am away in winter and summer vacation. Besides express delivery, my old mother occasionally calls me once or twice when she has something to do. Other calls are generally not made, and China Mobile has the most information.
Wechat is a patent of Little Cotton Jacket, which plays videos several times every day, and occasionally some friends also play video chat. That's all.
In fact, this is because the resignation is good, and the work phone and WeChat group have nothing to do with themselves. Colleagues are gradually alienated because they don't go to work.
As for relatives and friends, with the growth of age, everyone is eager to live their favorite life: stay away from unnecessary social parties and parties, don't want to flatter or accommodate anyone, and live as they please. Because I don't want to be too close, I naturally don't want to contact and maintain the relationship that is thinner than paper. So there are fewer and fewer people around, and naturally there are fewer and fewer friends.
Personally, I feel old, most people have retired, people and things related to work have moved away, and the relationship between relatives and friends has gradually drifted away. It's normal to have no phone calls and messages. Adjust your mind and live a good day.
With years of life experience, I want to open my mind and look down. Live a good life and stop worrying about useless communication. You can keep your friends.
I remember reading a story. After a leader retired, he did nothing all day and was listless. No matter what his lover asks, it's no use taking care of him. If he can't ask others, someone instructs his lover to do so. How did his lover do it? It is to write down all the instructions at home on paper, let the leaders reply, and the leaders "agree" in batches and open their hearts immediately.
Whether this story is true or not, it illustrates a common phenomenon, and many people may feel this way. After a person retires, there will be less and less contact with the past and people, and it will be useless to get rid of it, so there will be less natural contact.
So, if you leave a circle when you are old, you can make another circle and like to make friends. Don't dwell on the past, live a good life in the future according to your own ideas.
When you are old and inconvenient to move, there will be fewer opportunities for colleagues and friends who will have direct contact with the outside world. Telephone is a tool for exchanging information with the outside world. When you feel lonely and difficult, don't forget to communicate and chat with your former friends or colleagues. You don't forget others, of course they remember you. Although there are not many opportunities to meet and chat, it is very convenient to chat on mobile phones. Good friends and colleagues can only chat normally if they care about each other and greet each other with good health.
That's true. When I am old, I don't want to run around, just want to be quiet, don't want to be bound, and do what I like. Friends exchange greetings through WeChat, and sometimes hearing who has passed away will make them feel uncomfortable for a few days. So I don't take the initiative to contact others now.