Give up unnecessary "necessities".
At the end of every year, I have the habit of cleaning and throwing away all outdated, old and unused things.
Let the room that is not very big feel "suddenly enlightened".
Before, I was not like this. I always feel that everything is useful, old clothes, worn shoes, needle and thread, waste books and newspapers. Leave these things here, maybe they will be used soon.
They are not taken out for use until they are covered with dust.
The thoughts of the older generation have a deep influence on me. New three years, old three years, patchwork and three years.
Once, I looked for an album, rummaged through most of the rooms and found it on the floor, but it was moldy beyond recognition. I was so angry that I threw it into the trash can.
Because this search was unsuccessful, I didn't look at my mobile phone and missed a big business.
At this time, my confidante called at home and saw my face covered with dust and fireworks. She smiled and trembled. I looked flustered and thought, it's over. In her mind, my glorious image is completely finished.
The next day, she sent me a book, written by a Japanese woman writer, Eiko Yamashita, called Breaking Up.
This is a very timely book, which is just timely help.
Her understanding makes me elated and deserves to be my forever bosom friend.
In this book, Eiko Yamashita's words opened my eyes: cut off unnecessary things, give up unnecessary waste, leave, get rid of obsession with things, and put down things that are not needed now.
I compare and modify my life again and again. I started throwing things out, recycling them, giving them to junk collectors for some RMB; Wash what you can donate, fold it and send it to the donation box; Nothing of value was thrown into the trash can.
Every time I throw something, I feel much more relaxed, just like I have less fat and my body is as light as a swallow.
Balzac once said:
"In the storm of life, we often learn from the captain and throw away the heavy goods under the storm to reduce the weight of the ship."
2
Get rid of unnecessary "social circle" micro-friends, netizens, bad friends and fair-weather friends.
At one time, I signed up for a Chinese painting class. I cultivate my hobbies in my spare time and want to make my life richer and more interesting.
I don't think so. When I got better, a friend called me. He looked worried. He told me to leave quickly. Listening to that tone is like going to a burning house.
When I got there, I realized that it was nothing, just drinking and rubbing KTV, chatting and taking a bath and frying golden flowers. When I got home drunk, I found my brain was in a mess and I couldn't study any more.
It is embarrassing to see that other people's grades are rising like pig feed, but their own level is thrown in the same place.
Someone encouraged: Come on, buddy, it's up to you!
Some people are sarcastic: you have a good foundation, but your progress is too slow. Don't be half-hearted, keep up with the rhythm.
I was also a promising young man at that time. I was nicknamed "Qi Baishi in the Mountain Village", a flower, bird, fish and insect, and a landscape figure. Nothing is ambiguous, I can hold it up and down. I have two brushes. It's a bit embarrassing to make young people joke now.
After that, my study was set to "vacuum time", my mobile phone was set to flight mode and my landline was unplugged.
I found that no one bothered me and I made rapid progress.
Without the feeding of wine and meat, I am more energetic and radiant.
The Buddha said, "Everyone can become a Buddha without the extra parts." .
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Get rid of unnecessary "psychological garbage".
Every night, I want to leave myself a "lonely time" to reflect on my heart and get rid of the ingredients without nutrition. Such as worry, disappointment, regret, regret, resentment. Anger and so on.
Psychologist jung said that more than 95% of the things we are worried about will not happen.
In the same way, we can draw inferences from other countries.
Disappointment is hopeful, regret is not trying, regret is not acting, resentment is narrow-minded, and anger is lack of tolerance.
In a sketch, the period said that when the wheels turn forward, people should look forward.
If one thing is not done well, it means that there is something wrong with the method or that the efforts are not in place. It is a big deal to refuel yourself and charge your brain.
Who hasn't worn open-backed pants yet?
The young monk asked the master how to make his heart as happy as a lotus.
The master said, keep it simple.
The young monk said, how to do it?
The master said, only do one thing at a time. You chop wood, you carry water, eat when you should, and sleep when you should.
In reality, most people are like this: thinking about work when eating, thinking about entertainment when working, thinking about sleeping when entertaining and thinking about tomorrow when sleeping.
How can you be happy if you are restless and restless?
The young monk touched his head and seemed to understand.
When reading "Disengagement", I began to "disengage" myself in all directions.
Eiko Yamashita told me that the essence of breaking up is to diagnose how much energy items have taken from you, and then realize self-improvement and self-improvement through the action of screening items.
There is a saying in Zen:
Let go of a thought and be clean in all aspects;
Once you put it down, you will feel at ease.
When we clarify the relationship between people and things, things and hearts, and adjust to the best state, then happiness will inevitably follow; Happiness will be with us.