But why don't most people support women buying a house before marriage? Is it traditional thinking? Unequal status? Or because of property ownership? This problem has been bothering many, many women. It's not, the group of people below are quarrelling again. ...
A: Recently, a female colleague of mine graduated in four years and has some savings. The most enviable thing is that she found a handsome boyfriend who was going to get married. Boyfriend's family has booked a wedding room, but Xiao Xia wants to use his savings to buy a suite in Jimo's hometown: pay the down payment first, and then pay the mortgage. However, this idea was opposed by her boyfriend and her whole family. They think that Xiao Xia's motive for buying a house is impure, not only because she doesn't trust her boyfriend, but also because buying a house will increase the burden on her married life. The crisis of pre-marital trust eventually led to their breakup, and Xiao Xia finally chose to break up. You see, what a good husband-to-be, blown away by his willfulness! (Trust crisis: the motivation to buy a house is frequently questioned)
B: Manager Liu of our company has a successful career and owns a "luxury house" in a luxury residential area in the north of the city, but he is 36 years old and unmarried. Going to get married, she has a blind date every day, but there has been no suitable marriage partner, largely because most men "don't like" her having a house?
Mr. Liu told me: "It's easier to have a blind date before buying a house. After buying a house, many men don't want to meet directly. First, they think they are under too much pressure. Second, they don't like my house and are worried about the distribution of property in the future. This makes me feel very distressed ... "(Older women are more difficult to marry after buying a house)
C: There is a woman in our community who bought herself a house by mortgage before marriage six years ago. After marriage, she became a full-time mother, and her husband kept paying the mortgage. But last year, her brother planned to get married and buy a house, and she transferred the house to her brother without consulting her husband. Husband is very upset: the 2 million house (including loan interest) changed hands without saying anything, but because the owner of the house is herself, the husband can't be held accountable. This kind of "sulking" has caused a crisis crack in the originally harmonious family. (Property before marriage is inseparable after marriage)
Both daughters are of marriageable age. In the last two years, each of them has a small second-hand apartment in the city where they work. The eldest daughter has a stable job, borrowed some money and bought a bigger one. My youngest daughter just graduated and bought a one-bedroom apartment in full, and now she has rented it out. Buying a house for a child feels that money is getting more and more gross. It is better to give something practical in the future than to marry a sum of money. Second, when the girl is away, she has no sense of wandering psychologically when she has a house. (the truest sense of security)
E: One of our female colleagues, a female friend of hers, always quarrels with her husband, so she will spend the night at her colleague's house for fear that her parents are afraid to go back to her mother's house. She swore that she must buy a house. If she quarreled with her husband that day, she would go back to her nest and do whatever she wanted, so that her parents wouldn't have to worry about themselves and watch that wretched man dangling in front of you. (Don't get angry after marriage)
Bian Xiao believes that whether a woman buys a house before marriage depends on her actual situation and buys it if she has the ability. This is also a recognition of her own ability. If she is incompetent but independent enough, she can still create wealth for herself in other ways, but nothing can replace her confidence and sense of security except adding value to her house. Even in Shengrui Hua Ting, it is worthwhile to own a 53-square-meter hardcover small apartment.