As we all know, in the process of children's growth, parents' words and deeds have an important impact on their lives!
But many people don't know that with the growth of children, the demand for maternal love is decreasing, and paternal love is increasing.
If you want a smarter, more confident and more polite child, the most important factor is to accompany your child with high quality.
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Why is father's company so important?
1) The IQ index of children will be higher in the future.
Yes, no matter what your IQ is (even if it is not high), as long as you are willing to spend time with your children, they will certainly become smarter in the future.
In 2008, a research survey in Britain specifically targeted at middle-aged people around 50 years old showed that people who spent a long time with their fathers in childhood also had higher IQ and stronger social skills.
Dr Daniel Nettel, the initiator of the survey, said:
The most surprising thing about this survey is that the father's hobby has such a great influence on his children, and it also has a great influence on their social skills after 30 years.
2) At work, my father will also be full of happiness.
In 20 15, a research report published by the school of management held that:
Fathers who usually spend more time with their children have higher job satisfaction than fathers who don't want to spend time with their children.
Beth K. Humed, a co-author of the study and a professor of management at the University of Massachusetts, said:
Social organizations should attach equal importance to patriarchy and support fathers to have more flexible working hours after completing their work tasks.
3) Enhance children's self-confidence.
Spending more time with his father, whether alone with his father or with his family, will make children more confident when they grow up.
In 20 12, an academic study by the University of Pennsylvania surveyed nearly 200 families and found that children who often spend time with their fathers have higher self-identity.
4) Father is a role model.
As the first male image in a child's life, it is very important for a father to establish a positive image for his child.
In the daughter's mind, they want to believe that other men will treat them like this in the future. In the eyes of their sons, they also learned how to treat and respect women.
Dr Obi Clayton, professor of sociology at morehouse University, said:
Fathers have a great influence on their daughters, especially boys. If fathers can accompany their daughters with higher quality in life, these girls will go more smoothly in the future.
5) Children's future life will be smoother.
There is an important evidence to prove that children who lack their father's company in childhood are more likely to have disciplinary problems in later life.
In 2006, a study published by the US Department of Health and Human Services showed that:
From birth, the father's company can make children more emotionally stable and more confident to explore things around them.
These children are unlikely to get into trouble at home, school or neighbors. When they become adults, they have a more harmonious relationship with the people around them.
According to a survey conducted by the Census Bureau, 90% of homeless and runaway children in the United States come from fatherless families, and 7 1% of college dropouts also come from fatherless families.
6) In the face of multiple tasks, fathers will perform better.
Everyone has heard that "one fetus has a brain for three years", and pregnancy will change women's brains, but a survey conducted by Yale University in 20 14 shows that after having children, men will also undergo chemical changes.
They found that for men who quickly entered the role of father, the gray matter in the brain increased in some areas, but it also decreased in some areas.
When carrying out emotional reactions and solving multiple tasks, the brain's ability has been improved, but on the contrary, memory has declined.
7) It is easier for the baby to hear clearly what the father said.
You may think that children are not very sensitive to their father's voice.
But in fact, because the male voice is deep and penetrating, the baby began to be familiar with his father's voice as early as in his mother's stomach.
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10 Advice to Father
Being a good father is never easy. You will need more responsibility, encouragement, communication, and the help and understanding of family, friends and colleagues.
More importantly, strengthen the relationship with children. The following are 10 suggestions for all dads.
1) Be a crouching father
Close, equal and constructive parent-child relationship should be established with children. Children deserve our respect, and they also have personalities.
2) Be a learning father
Blindly asking children to love learning and never holding books has become a typical "bad example".
3) Be a strict father
The father is the child's initial role model, and your tenacity, tenacity and sense of responsibility will be the best textbook.
4) Be a father who can play.
Playing is a child's nature. Putting down the father's shelf, giving full play to men's creativity, leaving other troubles behind and concentrating on playing crazy with children can not only establish close parent-child relationship, but also stimulate children's enthusiasm.
5) Six sentences that a father should never say to his children.
● How can such a big child be so ignorant?
Don't ask so many questions, just do as I say;
● Dad is busy and has something to ask your mother for;
● Don't study hard, believe it or not, I will slap you;
I don't care about you anymore, as you like;
● Idiot, useless thing!
6) Seven things a father can do for his children.
● Play with children, build blocks, remotely control cars, play chess by hand, and develop intelligence in games;
● Reading with children, bedtime stories are not just mom's;
● Take your child to exercise together and help him/her cultivate a sport he/she loves from an early age;
● Take children out for activities, visit the zoo, watch movies, visit museums and broaden their horizons;
● Always take children to visit grandparents and grandparents;
● Sit down and talk to your child;
● Mother's birthday, prepare gifts with children and teach children to express their love.
7) Be an "always present" father.
Don't be absent from children's birthdays, parent-teacher conferences, performances and competitions.
Even if you are a silent audience, it is of great significance to the child, and it is the moment when he feels his father's concern, gaze and security.
8) Be a reasonable father
The father must let the children understand, but don't just swear rudely, be emotional and rational.
9) Be a modest father
Don't think that children's games are naive, just use your own preferences and perspectives to command children. Being a child's supporting role can play an auxiliary role, so that children can give full play to their imagination and practical ability.
Be an understanding father.
After children enter the rebellious period, they will unconsciously sing against adults. In the family, the father needs to explain patiently and tell the other party how to treat men's understanding.
Dad's unconditional love is the most precious wealth for children, which makes them confident and happy all their lives.
Finally, a word to all dads: children only have one childhood, and missing the best time to accompany their children means missing each other's best time.