On the surface, there is nothing wrong with our family. No preference for boys, no domestic violence, no strong parents. I have made all the important decisions such as entering a higher school and filling in my volunteers since I was a child, and my father didn't interfere at all. If you are admitted, you will have to pay the tuition. You will care about whether you have enough food, enough money and health.
I have always been puzzled and puzzled, such as whether I will miss home or worry if I don't contact them for a year. For example, buying them presents on their birthdays is what they think they should do, not what they want to do.
If I don't get along well with my father, then I should have a strong emotional connection with my grandparents, but I don't.
Sometimes I even have some resistance to going home. There is always no topic when you are in contact, not even talking about it. This state is also to continue to get along with friends, so I basically have no friends.
Want to know why this is happening? What's the problem? How to change this state?
Cold love reply:
Your present situation will be divided into two episodes.
Episode 1: Accept the Status Quo
For the present situation, all you have to do is admit and accept. Accepting now means that there is no topic with relatives, no greetings, and the same with friends.
These are all right, which means that you have no love now, and you have never met this kind of love connection between two people. It's a bit like standing in a wilderness and looking around. There is no one else. This is your present situation.
And our recognition and acceptance of the status quo is the first half of this event.