Whether as a student or as a professional after entering the society, our traditional education has always been that a person who knows selfless dedication is a noble person and will be respected and loved. Therefore, in the real workplace, many people also hope to establish a "selfless" image in the minds of colleagues and expect to meet "selfless" work partners at work. However, after a series of surveys, social psychology researchers have come to a jaw-dropping conclusion: those selfless people who are willing to contribute to their work are often the least popular with their peers. In a study called "I hope to expel selfless members from the team", it is found that those selfless players often become the object of resentment of partners, because they "raise the expectations of the outside world", making the performance of people who work with them look unsatisfactory, affecting their work mood and rhythm, and sometimes even putting them in an embarrassing situation.
Good wishes show the wrong time.
Amy is a novice who has just entered the workplace. A short year's work experience made her miserable. Amy told reporters that she is an introverted girl. It is not easy for her to find her present job, but it also makes her feel gratified and satisfied. Therefore, she cherishes this opportunity very much and shows great care and hard work in her work. Amy said that her company is a consulting company, with a lot of paperwork, looking up information, doing questionnaires and statistics, which is very complicated and busy. In order to leave a good impression on the leaders and superiors, she often takes the most time-consuming and patient work, so she often works overtime in the office. At first, everyone thought she was a hard-working girl, and some older seniors with rich extracurricular activities would ask her to do some work from time to time. She never refuses such a request, but always accepts it gladly, thinking that it is the trust of others and the embodiment of her own ability and value. However, she was ridiculed on the spot because she wanted to work overtime instead of her colleagues, which completely changed her thoughts and situation.
During the May Day holiday this year, the leaders asked the relevant personnel to work overtime during the holiday because they had to catch up with an investigation report. However, Yingying and other people involved in the work complained because they were dissatisfied with the temporary overtime proposal of the leader, and Yingying even refused the overtime request of the leader. Just when they were deadlocked because of fruitless negotiation, Amy proposed to work overtime instead of Yingying. The leader was angry and didn't know how to punish Yingying. She looks just what I want. So in front of everyone, the leaders blamed Yingying for her irresponsible work and her consciousness was not as good as that of a newly graduated college student. Under the strong stimulation of these words, Yingying looked at her with resentment. As soon as the leader left, Yingying began to fight back. Yingying's words were ugly, and with the cynicism of others, she felt very wronged. Since then, she has been isolated by her colleagues in the office. Even because of work, they don't communicate with her, treating her as an invisible person, making her almost unable to work and thinking of quitting.
Amy can't figure it out. Her original intention was to help people. She hopes that by sacrificing her rest time, Yingying and the leaders can have a step down and not be stiff. Such a kind wish and spirit of self-sacrifice not only failed to get everyone's approval, but also put themselves in an embarrassing situation, and even their work could not be carried out normally.
It is meaningless to show goodwill, which hurts others.
In fact, in today's workplace, there are still many "novices" who have the spirit of self-sacrifice, but lack experience and experience. They think too simple about the complex workplace, so that they will inadvertently fall into embarrassment. Although they deserve sympathy, because of their immature way of doing things, they sometimes bring unexpected troubles to people around them.
Lili is a senior copywriter in an advertising company. She told reporters that she had encountered such a "naive child" in the workplace. Lily said that she is a person who likes freedom. Because she has done several successful copywriting for the company, she has been highly praised and valued by the top management, so she is very free in working hours and arrangements. Not long ago, the leader gave her a little girl, who is said to have graduated from the Chinese Department of a famous university. She has a good literary talent and wants her to bring it. The purpose is of course to train the novice and reduce her workload. Lili said that she was not the kind of person who was narrow-minded and was not afraid of being robbed of her job. She often finds some small cases for novices to practice. Clever novices respect her very much, always rushing to do trivial things at work, often taking the initiative to work overtime, sorting out information and looking for inspiration. She is basically satisfied with the performance of the novice. But over time, the novice's unconditional and unrestrained active work and overtime have brought her a lot of pressure. It is common for advertising companies to work overtime, but Lili believes that overtime is only a form, and the key is to produce good results. Therefore, she never takes overtime seriously. She is used to finishing her work in a relaxed environment. This persistence has attracted criticism from other employees and some leaders, but due to her ability and contribution, she can only accept it gladly. But this way of working is changing after the novice comes. Novices feel that in order to reduce their burden, they often take the initiative to contract some small chores. This kind of initiative, in the eyes of others, reflects her laziness and slackness, which often puts her in a dilemma.
Personnel in the workplace are very complicated, and the relationship between leaders and subordinates is also very subtle, especially for senior employees like her. Sometimes, the relationship with leaders is to contain and use each other. The tacit understanding and balance that she finally established was broken by the arrival of this novice. What makes her even more depressed and helpless is that because of the subtle relationship, many things are just tacit to each other, and her dissatisfaction cannot be directly told to novices. She admits that the newcomer is right to work actively and can't criticize, but it does add a lot of trouble to her because of the inexperienced novice. Three months later, she applied to transfer the novice from her original post.
Netizens suggested that "one acre and three points" should be managed.
Psychologists have done an experiment on this topic. They asked some students to play an online computer game with "four other students" respectively. But in fact, these four players are just virtual computer programs. In each round of competition, each participant will get some points. They can keep these points themselves, or remit the same points to the team to double their value. After that, participants can withdraw some points to their own names, and the withdrawal amount shall not exceed 1/4 of the * * * points contributed by the other four people. However, if he keeps the * * * points, he will be more likely to win some kind of reward for his team. At the end of the game, each participant can convert his points into meal coupons.
Most of the four virtual players will make a seemingly fair exchange: take out some points from themselves and remit them to the same basic points, and then extract some points from themselves. However, there is a virtual player who always contributes a lot of points selflessly, but rarely takes them back. After the game, the experimenter asked the subjects which player they wanted to continue playing with. Almost at the same time, they said that they didn't want to continue to associate with the selfless player, saying "that man made me look bad" or "he broke the rules", and sometimes even suspected that he had ulterior motives.
For those selfless people in the workplace, some netizens gave their own different views. Netizen "F Yaya" said: I think selflessness is a noble character. Although there are many hidden rules in the workplace, working hard and helping others solve difficulties, regardless of gains and losses, is the proper character and the truth of being a man. Anyway, I will stick to myself, stick to what is morally right, and don't go with the flow! I believe there are still many good people!
Netizen "lynmao" thinks it doesn't matter to eat a small loss properly, but don't eat unprincipled losses. The workplace is a complicated place. Sometimes, your indifference and loss are regarded as a means and calculation by others. This misunderstanding is very fatal to newcomers in the workplace. Therefore, we should pay more attention to everything, and we should also look at the timing and occasions.
Netizen "Zi Xin You" said: Everyone wants to get the attention of office leaders, and selfless people are easy to grab jobs. He will do this and that. Sometimes he thinks it's okay to do too much, but it's easy to offend people. Therefore, the more appropriate way in the workplace is to do your own one-third of the land.
Hard work is more interesting and flexible.
I have to admit that the workplace is a place full of competition, which is not only a place to do business, realize ideals and ambitions, but also a place to make a living. Many enthusiastic novices in the workplace hope to make some achievements in their posts after entering the society. To achieve this goal, in addition to hard work and good work results, there are also some workplace tips that must be mastered. Experts said: Although the workplace is complicated, to sum up, the most important things are two aspects, one is how to behave and the other is how to do things. How to be a man and how to do things are two very complicated problems. Improper handling of both will bring trouble to career development.
As human beings, although there are many aspects, and they all vary from person to person, there are no similarities, but there are also similarities. For example, being helpful is a good virtue, but being kind to others requires preconditions, principles and flexibility. If anything is overdone, the effect will often be counterproductive. Although we often say that helping others is equivalent to helping yourself, if you are often as selfless as a "rookie" in the workplace, you will eventually be excluded and rejected instead of saying yes. This kind of "help" itself is already problematic. In addition, it is obvious that newcomers who have just set foot on the society will appear immature in all aspects because of their lack of experience, so that many things will backfire. Actually, this is a normal phenomenon. Even experienced professionals think that they have experienced such an "immature" period and have mastered the way of survival in the workplace through constant beating. Therefore, don't be eager for quick success and instant benefit, and you don't need to be depressed when you encounter setbacks. Impulse is a taboo for survival in the workplace.
With the wide spread of the online light comedy Sima Taya, Sima Taya became the second benchmark figure in the workplace after Du Lala. This time, he brought the smart characteristics of white-collar work to the extreme. Some human resources experts said that "Sima Ta" caused a warm response in the workplace because it truly reflected the situation in the workplace, and colleagues and bosses were more willing to communicate with "interesting" people. So for newcomers in the workplace, in addition to hard work, sometimes a little cleverness will be more popular.