This kind of problem is not difficult to deal with, just chat with the second department of enrollment and be flexible.
With the mastery of human nature, all problems become very simple.
We ask parents for their children's contact information. Parents have concerns, so naturally they can't come with their mouths open.
For example, the first time I make a phone call, my parents are very polite during the call, so let's tentatively ask:
Boys and girls?
Does the child have his favorite major?
Are children rebellious children in their daily lives?
Have parents reached an agreement with their children on the choice of majors and schools?
The senior high school entrance examination is coming. Does the child feel stressed?
Are children introverted or extroverted?
Here is a question and answer formula, a question, an answer and an affirmation.
We can reduce the rejection of parents after opening the topic.
We began to ask for children's contact information, pay attention to contact information, which is tentative and suggestive, and tell us the reason for communicating with children.
A stranger wants the contact information of his children, out of instinct to protect them. What if you are the bad guy? Who doesn't worry about their children being cheated? Right?
Therefore, we need a reason. When we make all demands on our parents, we need a reason:
"Now children have a strong sense of self. Children's own ideas may not actively communicate with their parents. If necessary, I can ask my child to add me, and I will communicate with her to understand her real thoughts. "
"During my years working in a vocational school, I have contacted thousands of children and given them psychological counseling as usual."
Some of them are rebellious, don't listen to their parents, and even run counter to their parents and are tired of learning, but most of them are very stubborn and may just not tell their parents. "
This kind of dialogue, with a little practice, can completely touch the hearts of parents. If children are obedient, their grades will not be at the lower-middle level.
At least for now, there are some problems in their family education environment.
In essence, parents' neglect of their children's education leads to their rebellious, tired of learning and very self-righteous characteristics.
We have been doing one-on-one work between parents and children for many years, which is the basic starting point of our parent work.
As soon as we listen to the parents, we can roughly infer the child's situation. We can also infer the parents' situation by listening to their children.
Therefore, some people say that vocational education and current education are the product of family education mistakes, which makes sense. Let us remember their characteristics and be rebellious, tired of learning and disobedient.
This is the essence of being a parent. Children are copies of their parents, and children are the projection of their parents.
Knowing children, inferring parents, knowing parents, can also infer the situation of children.
For example, when we chat with children and lengthen the topic, we will talk about children's dreams.
The child said I wanted to be a big star.
You said, you must look very distinctive, right Still have a skill? No need to guess, you should be a handsome boy, handsome boy. I really envy you.
Well, you affirm him, you constantly affirm him, support and respond to his dreams.
He will open his mouth and talk more. The more he talks, the more he trusts you.
The child said he wanted to play games.
Wow, do you often play games?
Needless to say, you must have your own unique skills, because I think everyone who can dominate the Wulin has their own unique skills.
He'll give it another push. That's what people do. They have been suppressed for too long and want to be seen. Psychologists say that people live to be seen.
When his repressed thoughts tell you, to a certain extent, you become his confidant.
Isn't it easy to recruit students at this time?
You ask him to introduce you to some friends, and he can bring you a whole group.
Because most of them are rebellious, it is a good dream for you to come again at this time. Mom and dad are not very supportive, are they?
One stroke hit him in the heart.
He'll think you know him too well.
Whether we are parents' jobs or students' jobs.
We can't go straight to the point and rush headlong into it.
Remember, if we don't reply to your message after arousing disgust, we will spend a lot of time to save this student.
For example, when we were doing student work in our early years, we invited and made an appointment to report the next day.
Students send messages in the middle of the night: Teacher, I will come up tomorrow. This is my first time to travel far away, and I also helped you make an appointment with a classmate. You won't lie to us, will you? You're not selling me? It doesn't matter if I am cheated myself. The point is that I also made an appointment with my best friend, who sent a long article.
This gave me an inspiration. When we invite children to do children's work, we should mention by the way:
In order to ensure a smooth journey, try to bring your parents with you and ask them to give you advice when choosing a major at school.
If parents don't have time, ask their brothers or sisters to come.
This is not only a warm reminder, but also dispels the above concerns.
To sum up, only if the dialogue has temperature and emotion can there be an invitation.
The whole system draws lessons from many research results of modern psychology and family education. Only by understanding human nature can we understand the invitation.
Otherwise, where does the interesting soul come from? ! ……
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