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"The main problem of my present job is that my present job can't bring me things that keep pace with the times. The company culture and style are too rigid and outdated, but I can't just jump ship because of human factors. What do you think I should do? "
The message was sent by Xiao S (a pseudonym). He and I used to work in the same office building. We belong to different organizations, and we don't communicate much with each other, but we know each other.
Let's take a brief look at Xiao S (a pseudonym)' s job resume and current workplace status. Graduated from Beijing University of Technology, majoring in Chinese language and literature. After graduating for nearly 6 years, he has worked as a marketing specialist, new media director and brand manager in three industries: renewable resources, internet finance and current cultural media company. ? At present, the organization I work for is a cultural media company, which belongs to a large group enterprise established in China for nearly 30 years.
In view of knowing each other before, this is still different from the feeling of strangers meeting for the first time. Don't worry too much about how to establish a good consulting relationship with each other and how to make them trust themselves. Let's face the problem and find a solution.
"You go on." I replied to his message.
"The overall culture of this group is to shirk each other, and the leaders throw pots everywhere without taking responsibility. It is very difficult to push something forward. I used to work in a startup company, which was really good in terms of work culture. "
"Is the job you are responsible for competent at present, or is it difficult?" I asked.
"The ability is absolutely no problem."
"I heard that you are not satisfied with your current job. Have you ever thought about changing jobs? " I asked.
"Of course I thought about it. But the main reason why I haven't left yet is that most of my work is in an unsaturated state, so I can have time to review my lessons. I plan to finish my on-the-job postgraduate studies in a university this year. I want to improve my value after graduation. "
"Can you tell me about your initial idea of on-the-job graduate school?" I asked.
"I studied Internet finance. In 20 15 years, the concept of internet was very popular. I wanted to know something new, so I chose finance. Mainly because I usually like financial management, but I don't know about various products, so I want to know more. "
"In short, what kind of hope do you have for your job?" I asked.
"The salary is certainly ok. In fact, I value more the resources that a job can help me accumulate. For example, my salary in my last job was very low, but I engaged in new media and accumulated a lot of media channel resources and operation methods. I want to be based on the brand promotion direction in the future. I personally prefer the media in the brand, and media resources are very valuable. "
"What efforts have you made for your goal now?" I asked.
"I have been trying to acquire new knowledge, such as subscribing to some paid columns and online classes, but knowledge is not easy to be transformed into skills without practice. Therefore, I am not idle at ordinary times. When I have time, I will do some strategic planning for brand promotion for friends from different industries for free, so I will take it as a practice. "
"Do you have any hobbies, can you tell me?" I asked.
"I prefer playing basketball, cooking and public welfare."
"Is there anything else you want to say to me? Just say it, it's okay. " Let me ask you a simple question.
"In fact, I know that I am a little impatient, because the company was similar to me before, and now the positions and salaries of friends of the same age are much higher than mine. With my present ability, if I change places, my income will increase by at least two thirds. Besides, I have vanity. Seeing how much others earn, I always feel inferior to others. And when looking for a partner, the other person will also care about what I do, how much money I earn and so on. After all, the real pressure of living in a city like Beijing is still quite great. "
(Other consulting information is not excerpted in detail here. )
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Combining the basic information of the case and Xiao S's self-report, we can see that he is currently facing the problem of career development. People with career development problems tend to focus on the workplace after three years of work, but it is difficult to get a breakthrough after working in a certain position for a long time. Therefore, the problem is often manifested as a "bottleneck" in career development, fatigue in work, muddling along every day, always wanting to resign and adjust but never taking effective action.
Faced with the above problems, we should calm down and sort out and act for career development, and then activate the motivation from the inside to get more resources.
The fundamental core of career development is lack of motivation. Lack of motivation often produces the following three emotions: boredom, anxiety and loss. Most of the reasons for boredom are that it is difficult for people in the workplace to find freshness and happiness in their current jobs, that is, to lose interest; Most of the reasons for anxiety are lack of sense of accomplishment and mastery, that is, incompetence caused by lack of ability; Most of the sense of loss is due to the lack of happiness and satisfaction, that is, the lack of value in work.
Combined with the case, it can be seen that the main problem of small S is boredom, which not only comes from the lack of challenge to work, but also comes from the boredom of rigid and outdated corporate culture. Based on the important task that he needs enough time to attend classes and get a degree, and the "face problem" that he can't resign due to human relations, I don't recommend him to leave his job and find another job. Based on the existing work, it is a relatively wise choice to adjust the mentality and actively adapt.
Secondly, how to deal with this kind of boredom in the development of the workplace, and what methods can be solved?
Select 1: Accept.
Any problem, when you think it is a problem, is actually a problem. If you think this is not a problem, then the world is stable and comfortable. If a person can be satisfied with having a job and living a quiet life, then every day is ok. But if you don't want to pursue meaning, sense of value, success, etc. That's another matter. Acceptance does not make people feel timid in the face of reality, but makes peace with themselves. As the saying goes, "peace of mind is where they belong."
Option 2: cultivate interest.
During the consultation, I asked Xiao S what he was interested in. Everyone will have something they like to do in life and work, which may have nothing to do with work. It can be that you like playing a certain musical instrument, that you like health, and that reading and thinking are also interesting. The reason to cultivate interest is to satisfy the happiness and freshness that you can't get in your career through interest. If you can't get it in the workplace, it is also a way to get it in life. Why do you want to find a way? If you are interested now, congratulations on your enthusiasm for life. If there is no hope, you can look back and look for the things you love, even the small ones.
If you want to cultivate your interest, interviewing experts and setting challenges are also good ways to enhance your interest.
Option 3: Develop a sideline (become a career)
While cultivating interest, we should also realize that interest is also hierarchical. Let's look at the "benefit pyramid model". (see the picture below)
Take Xiao S's hobby, such as cooking, as an example. If you just stay at the level of cooking and eating, you can enjoy it purely. However, because of a lot of knowledge and skills in career and Olympiad (the result of long-term interest), at least your conscious interest can become the goal of short-term career change (career interest). Therefore, if we can promote "cooking" to the level of conscious interest, we can call it "gourmet". If you can regard it as a profession, maybe it's not bad to be a food critic.
Once you can develop your interest into a career, your inner satisfaction will be greatly improved.
Conclusion:
In our career, we will face all kinds of development and progress problems. When something goes wrong, there will inevitably be anxiety, but don't fall into negative emotions for too long. If you can, it is better to tell your problems to people who understand you and listen to others' effective suggestions than to be part of them.
Share an inspiring word for you-calmness comes from preparation in advance, calmness comes from finding the center of gravity on the stage, and serenity comes from understanding the conservation of energy.
May what you are practicing now achieve your value.
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