Just after Xiao Jiang's 30th birthday, she became the "older leftover woman" at home, and was bombarded by them day and night.
Xiao Jiang really doesn't understand that he has a good family and a good job. He also bought an RV with his own efforts. He has everything he needs. What's wrong with getting old? Why do you have to find a man to marry?
But in the end, she couldn't stand the oppression of her family and embarked on the road of blind date. Through the introduction of the matchmaker, Xiao Jiang got to know Xu Hui.
Xu Hui is five years older than Xiao Jiang. He was born in an ordinary family. Now I am a small supervisor in a company, and my salary is not as high as Xiaojiang's.
Although Xu Hui lags behind Xiaojiang He in both family and economy, he seems to be honest. Coupled with the constant persecution of his family, Jiang tried to get along with Xu Hui.
They get along well with each other. Xu Hui is not only honest, but also frugal.
On Xu Hui's birthday, Xiao Jiang invited Xu Hui to eat several hundred pieces of western food. Xu Hui felt very expensive, and kept nagging for a week, which made Jiang smile bitterly. She felt that this man made her very practical and worthy of being entrusted for life.
As a result, the two successfully entered the marriage hall.
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After the marriage, Xiao Jiang lives with her parents-in-law and pays the food expenses regularly every month. The income of husband and wife is also AA.
Theoretically, there is no economic conflict between Xiaojiang and Xu Hui, but after marriage, Xu Hui is more and more nagging about Xiaojiang's consumption.
Xiao Jiang bought a salad. Xu Hui looked at the price and said that it would be nice to cook a dish for a few dollars. He had to spend dozens of dollars to buy one.
Xiao Jiang had a manicure, and Xu Hui said that nail polish is harmful to people's health. It didn't take long to tear it down, which was meaningless and a waste of money.
Xiao Jiang bought a massage chair at home. Xu Hui said angrily, let's massage and help each other. Why spend so much money?
Xu Hui is interfering more and more with Xiaojiang's consumption. At first, Xiaojiang thought that Xu Hui was frugal and had financial plans for his family, but slowly, Xiaojiang became more and more impatient with Xu Hui's nagging, and the two began to quarrel.
Xiao Jiang said, "What's wrong with me spending my own money to buy something for myself and my family? I am not incapable now. "
Xu Hui responded: "It's not a question of who spends money and whether they have the ability. That is, money has to be spent on the cutting edge, and there is no need to spend extra! "
Jiang was speechless with Xu Hui's answer, and the two broke up in discord.
The occasional small quarrel lasted for some time. Although both of them were dissatisfied with each other's practices, they did not cause substantial harm to their feelings. It was not until Xu Hui lost his job that Xiao Jiang realized that their ideas were actually completely different.
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Xuhui Company laid off employees due to poor efficiency, and he was unfortunately included in the layoff list.
After losing his job, Xu Hui was depressed. Because the market of his industry is not optimistic, Xu Hui's job search has been hindered to some extent.
Xu Hui, who has lost her economic resources, is more concerned and dissatisfied with Xiaojiang's consumption habits than before.
Xiao Jiang thought that Xu Hui was worried about her family's economy because she was unemployed, so she comforted Xu Hui that her income could support her family, reassuring him that she would always support Xu Hui and this family.
However, Xu Hui did not stop interfering with version, and remained aggressive.
In order to take care of Xu Hui's mood, Xiao Jiang ate all his favorite food secretly before going home, but he dared not get a manicure. Tired, I can only secretly go to the beauty salon for beauty treatment, and I dare not tell Xu Hui when I come back.
In order to share the pressure of Xu Hui, Xiao Jiang doubles the household expenses paid to her parents-in-law every month.
However, even if the in-laws have more household than before, they are still very frugal because their son is unemployed, and they are not willing to buy more meat when buying food. No matter how Xiao Jiang persuaded them, they were indifferent.
Xiao Jiang is very depressed about this. In order to vent his emotions, he invited friends to go shopping together, hoping to buy them at buy buy to make him feel happier.
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Xiao Jiang bought some clothes and a bag. After returning home, he was afraid of her husband's scolding. He also deliberately cut off the tag price of clothes and told Xu Hui that this was a store sale.
Although Xu Hui was dissatisfied, he didn't say anything more. At this moment, Xu Hui saw the bill that Jiang forgot to leave in the shopping bag. He took it out and saw that the bill showed that the price of this bag was 888 yuan.
Xu Hui flew into a rage at the sight of this bill and shouted at his wife, "Jiang! Didn't you say the mall was having a sale? Take a look at this bill yourself. A bag of 888 yuan! "
Version heard Xu Hui yelling, feel bad. He quickly reached for the bill and said coquetry to Xu Hui, "Honey, didn't the company just give me a bonus? I haven't bought a bag for a long time. I promise not to buy it next time. "
Version looked at Xu Hui with a smile on her face. Who knows that Xu Hui didn't stop being angry because of this, but he was even more angry. He said, "My parents are reluctant to buy meat. You spend 888 yuan on a bag. You are a black sheep! "
Hear Xu Hui, version suddenly collapsed. It suddenly occurred to her that the problem between her and Xu Hui was actually not a question of how much money was spent at all. The root of their contradiction is that their values are completely different.
Even if Jiang earns more money, even if Xu Hui is not unemployed, and even if the family is rich, Xu Hui's values will not change. He, Xiaojiang He, is not from the same world at all.
At the thought of this, Xiao Jiang doesn't feel cold, and her patience these days has completely frustrated her. She said coldly to Xuhui, "Xuhui, I don't owe anyone. Maybe we should consider whether the two of us are suitable for living together. "
After that, Xiao Jiang returned to his room with a shopping bag.
Later, the couple also started a long cold war. They all need time to re-examine their marriage, what are their problems, and whether they can make changes for each other and move on.
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At the beginning of the article, I also talked about the importance of matching, not only referring to economic equivalence, but also telling us that the story of the article is more important in spirit and values.
Different family environments will affect different growth experiences, so the world outlook, outlook on life and values will be different.
As the saying goes, "beautiful skins are the same, and interesting souls are one in a million." Whether the soul sings in marriage is very important for the durability of marriage.
There is no right or wrong in values, only suitability and consistency.
Only by finding people with the same values can we spend the rest of our lives happily together.