For example, cognitive psychology believes that the cause of people's psychological confusion is not the induced event itself, but your view of the problem. When the same thing happens, because of different views, some people are very unhappy, and some people laugh it off. Buddhism first makes people realize that pain comes from desire, and if desire is not satisfied, it will be painful. Therefore, we should warn all beings, reduce desires, abstain from greed, anger and ignorance, and psychological problems will be gone. Also, Buddhist masters often warn people that happiness is temporary and will soon pass. Similarly, the pain is temporary and will soon pass. With this knowledge, people will have hope in extremely difficult times.
Get to the point, we should correctly use emotional technology in psychological services. * * * Emotion, also known as empathy, as its name implies, refers to the ability to understand and accept the feelings of others and respond appropriately to their situation.
In life, when men and women watch emotional movies together, women are often more likely to be moved to tears. In fact, many studies show that women have a higher emotional level than men. Generally speaking, we will say that women's emotions are more delicate, and they are more likely to resonate with the characters in the movie and produce the same emotional response. Because the characters in the movie are sad, happy and happy, which is what we often say. Emotional sharing is the core of * * * love, and laymen also have a deep understanding. * * * People with poor emotional ability are not suitable for psychological services.
* * * Love is an active behavior, which includes three functions: ① Go deep into the other person's heart to experience his feelings and thoughts with the help of his words and deeds; With the help of knowledge and experience, grasp the relationship between visitors' experiences and their experiences and personality, and better understand the essence of psychological problems; (3) Using consulting skills to convey their empathy to the other party, so as to win the other party's recognition of "one of their own" and let the other party express their emotions or anguish without reservation. The process of speaking is a process of psychological growth and emotional flow. Whether it is life or emotion, only in the flow will it not stagnate, block or stagnate.
It should be pointed out that * * * emotions need rationality, not all by sensibility. For example, when the opposite sex comes to consult because of marital problems, it is necessary to grasp the degree of goodwill, otherwise the other party will regard you as a perfect man and turn hatred for your spouse into love for you, which will be in trouble.
A star in the entertainment circle, who is still active in various TV programs, met my son when he was three years old. She was cheated by her boyfriend and is still single. When chatting in a coffee shop, I said that the guy was really nothing, which delayed your great youth. This is the first step to communicate with her emotionally, but she opens her mouth and says that all men are nothing except me. I smiled. Once bitten, twice shy, so you made a turtle shell and wrapped yourself up. There was a surprise in her surprise, as if I had penetrated her heart, and she was thoughtful. In fact, most men are still good people. This is the utility of empathy.
How to improve * * * emotional ability? First, the ability to accept other people's views, that is, at least you should be able to agree with other people's views from their standpoint; Second, don't judge others. Love is not sympathy. Third, identify other people's emotions and try to communicate with them; Fourth, feel and analyze the mood at this moment with others.
Compassion in Buddhism is a higher-level emotion, which is not only to solve the current psychological problems, but also to make visitors grow up in an all-round way and undergo qualitative changes in their psychology, thus increasing their ability to cope with difficulties. Compassion means giving happiness to visitors, giving a happy career and saving them from suffering and pain. Kindness refers to bringing benefits and happiness to others, and sadness refers to sweeping away the disadvantages and sadness in others' hearts. Caring for all beings and giving happiness is called kindness; Sympathize with its suffering, pity all beings, and pull out its suffering, which is called sadness. It can be seen that the meaning of compassion is broader than * * *.
Compassion is also transforming emotions, turning negative emotions into positive emotions. For example, to truly overcome inferiority and realize self-esteem, we must be compassionate and friendly to ourselves. When we have negative emotions such as anger towards others, we must first live in peace with ourselves, cultivate a sincere friendship with ourselves, and spread it out, and the anger will disappear.
Compassion is the best way to resolve psychological pain, and caring people in life have less troubles. Compassion is explicit and can be expressed by words, actions and your appearance. So * * * love is short-lived and ends with the end of the therapeutic relationship. But compassion is permanent, and serving others with compassion can get twice the result with half the effort.
Compassion and love come from mutual understanding, understanding and acceptance. * * * Love is a tool of psychological service, and compassion is unconditional love and giving. Compassion is synonymous with tolerance, that is, put yourself in others' shoes and you will understand their difficulties. I relented and began to forgive others' mistakes. Therefore, compassion not only improves the psychological ability of visitors, but also improves self-psychological cultivation. Now when I meet someone I don't like, I don't shy away, but say to myself, "Good luck, good luck!" " Through the subconscious communication with each other, or the communication with the sixth sense officer, the invisible sense of exclusion between the two sides disappeared.
Improve your emotional ability or sympathy, and consciously improve your self-cultivation at ordinary times. Cultivate a sense that whatever you do to others, you are doing it to yourself. No matter what you do to others, the person who really receives it is not others, but yourself.
Finally, share a philosophical story:
There is a farmer's corn variety, which gets an excellent harvest every year. He always gives his excellent seeds to other farmers without stint. Someone asked him why he was so generous. He said: I am good to others, but I am actually good to myself. The wind blew pollen everywhere. If neighbors sow inferior seeds, pollination will naturally affect the quality of our corn. Therefore, I am glad that all farmers sow the same fine varieties.
This is a small * * * love has great sorrow!