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My girlfriend vomited, and my mother-in-law had a cold and was complained by her husband that she was not good at honoring the elderly.
My best friend feels very wronged. She's exhausted from working to earn money to go home. Besides, going home to deal with unfinished work and a lot of housework, how can filial piety be imposed on her alone?
In addition, my husband is a freelancer and a technical consultant. When he has no job, he can stay at home all day. Why not wait on him?
My best friend was angry, but I went to talk to my husband about it. As a result, my husband said, "Since you are married to me, you should accept my parents' existence. It is your duty to be filial to the elderly. "
"I have never said that I am not filial to the elderly, but I don't understand why you have to impose the responsibility of taking care of the elderly on me." My best friend asked.
Her husband replied, "How can this be imposed on others? This is your filial piety. "
Hearing this, my girlfriend understood that this marriage is not only for him, but also for his parents. This is usually the life of two people. At the critical moment, as a wife, a woman has to listen to her husband.
My best friend knows that she is busy as hell, and her husband is often idle and very angry. Shouldn't her husband take care of the elderly? It's not that she is unfilial to the elderly, but in terms of care and service, shouldn't someone spend more time and do more things? What's more, it's his real mother!
Then my best friend naturally stood up and said, "She is your mother, not my mother. As a daughter-in-law, I should be filial to my in-laws, but I have no time. You have no right to ask me to take care of it. "
After hearing this, the husband decided that she was unfilial and said angrily, "I really regret marrying you."
In this matter, my best friend is in distress situation now, and she regrets marrying him.
The best friend is thinking about her mother-in-law's cold, and her husband can yell at her like this. If the mother-in-law is really old and can't walk, it is not her responsibility to support the elderly.
My best friend is not afraid to take care of the elderly. She was puzzled that her husband was not so kind to her. In life, the husband and wife have clear accounts and financial AA. Now they have no children and can live like this. But why must she take care of the elderly?
The more my girlfriend thinks about it, the more she loses. Why do they have so much shit when they get married?
The idea of a girlfriend is not unreasonable. When a woman gets married, she really wants to accept her husband's family. From the traditional point of view, it is "natural" for a daughter-in-law to honor the elderly. Come to think of it, her husband didn't do anything for her to be grateful for. Isn't it a loss to have one more "mother" to serve out of thin air?
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It is often said that women care about marriage and don't want to pay for it. They have a white house, don't have to wait on their in-laws, and even clamor for their mother-in-law not to take care of their children. Excuse me, who made all these things?
If it's the White House, isn't that woman pregnant for nothing? Besides, many families now buy houses and repay loans together, so there are really few white houses.
"Not serving in-laws" should not be imposed on a woman. It is certainly a good thing for a family to live in harmony, but if the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can't live in harmony, wouldn't it be a good thing for women not to serve? It is normal to avoid conflicts and run a marriage with a small family as the mainstay.
Let's talk about "the daughter-in-law complains that her mother-in-law doesn't take children". If the new father can really do his part for the children, why should the wife beg others? How can I complain without asking her? After all, the husband threw too many things to his wife.
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Neighbor Wei Jie lived with her in-laws for about 13 years. After taking care of her in-laws, she began to take care of her mother-in-law and never said a word.
In fact, we also know that Wei Jie's in-laws are notoriously difficult to get along with, and the old couple are also notoriously stingy in our area, but they have been able to "live in harmony" with their daughter-in-law for more than ten years, which makes us curious. Have the in-laws "reformed"?
Later, according to the aunt in the community, their family was not without contradictions, but it was easily resolved by the clever son.
In fact, it's not that my son is smart, but that he understands the hard truth that a stable family should take good care of his wife first.
Therefore, in this ten-year marriage, Wei Jie's husband's love for him has never been stingy, but it is getting better every day. According to Wei Jie, on the first day of her marriage, her husband washed her feet once, and this habit has been maintained until now.
There are many small things to express love, which are not solemn enough, but the weight of each thing is Wei Jie's sweet happiness. Therefore, because her husband is good enough for her, she is willing to love his parents from the heart.
The young couple live with their parents-in-law. Needless to say, the friction is very small. Since the fifth year of marriage, my father-in-law has been paralyzed by a stroke. Originally, living with the elderly was a lot of right and wrong, and my father-in-law had more trivial matters.
Sister Wei, on the other hand, never thought about shrinking back. She knows her husband's filial piety, so she has been helping him fulfill his wish. When the mother-in-law took care of her father-in-law, all the housework fell on two young people. Her husband is all thumbs and can't cook meals suitable for the taste of the elderly, so Wei Jie began to cook by himself. This was completed in two years.
In the seventh year of marriage, my father-in-law left, and everyone was relieved when they were sad. It is said that Wei Jie refused to work overtime to take care of the elderly at home and missed two promotion opportunities.
Not long after my father-in-law left, my mother-in-law's health went from bad to worse. It seems that there is a tumor in her body that can't be cut off. Chemotherapy must be carried out within the specified time to curb her condition.
This task naturally falls to Wei Jie, who will deal with her work urgently every month and then accompany her mother-in-law to treatment.
Up to now, my mother-in-law's condition has been standardized and controlled, so there is no need to go to the hospital. As long as it is taboo, she is just like a normal person.
See, as long as a man can be infinitely kind to his wife, then this wife can be infinitely gentle.
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Marrying a person is definitely accepting the family behind him, but it doesn't mean accepting the unconditional service.
In life, many men are not clear about their position, and they are not good to their wives, but they want her to be filial to their in-laws. Is it possible?
What a woman wants in marriage is her husband's attitude, taking care of her wholeheartedly and loving her, so that a woman can be gentle with her husband and filial to her in-laws. However, if a husband makes his wife feel unloved and wronged, that woman must defend her dignity.
Some people say that the husband's attitude determines the temperature of marriage, but it also determines the temperature of women.
The reason why a woman is lonely is because she loves you, marries you, takes care of your worldly wisdom, and supports the old people who used to be idle, for nothing but the love of their loved ones. But that doesn't mean that women are stupid. Don't think that women with empty gloves don't love it. I also hope that women will do their best for the family behind you.
In our usual marriage, many men set too many moral kidnappings for their wives with their inherent ideas, such as "What will you do to me if you marry me, or what will you do to my parents?"
A woman can do as you ask, but only if you give your wife enough love or money. Give nothing, just ask for this with a paper engagement. So, why?
There are some things in marriage that need not be said. As long as you are kind to a woman, she can be kind to all of you. On the contrary, don't expect her gentleness except divorce.