1, don't pretend to be a "good guy", face yourself.
In the eyes of many people who feel inferior, they feel inferior. If they can't please others, they won't be recognized and loved by others, so even if they are miserable, they should wear the mask of "good man". Self-deception never ends well. Pretending to be a good person only temporarily protects your self-esteem and only makes your heart more painful.
People with low self-esteem want to change and need to challenge unreasonable beliefs accumulated for a long time. For example, they can ask themselves: Will ta really get angry if I refuse my friend's request? If ta is angry because of this kind of thing, is ta really a friend? Living uncomfortably in fantasy and honestly facing reality shows that we are ready to change.
Stop pointing your finger at yourself.
Many people with low self-esteem like to blame themselves for their problems, constantly reflect on themselves, doubt themselves and even hurt themselves. In fact, it's not that they don't know the truth that people are not saints, but they are used to taking the blame themselves. Self-attack is caused by self-prejudice. Prejudice is mostly the internalization of parents' criticism, which comes from the counterproductive critical education in childhood. To change this situation, we must first realize the existence of "self-attack" and consciously block this idea every time we doubt ourselves.
3. Accept your imperfections
Everyone has imperfections. The most important thing to accept myself is to accept my imperfections and tell myself that everyone has limitations, as long as I really try my best. Therefore, parents should understand that introversion is not the main cause of depression, but inferiority. Creating a positive and harmonious family atmosphere for children is an important basis for cultivating children's health concept.