The reason is simple: birds of a feather flock together. With what kind of people, there will be what kind of life.
With diligent people, you are naturally a little less lazy; With decadent people, you will be involuntarily depressed.
In other words, among many friends, some people can make deep friends, while others need to stay away. If you meet the following three kinds of people, the wisest thing to do is to stay away from them.
First, stay away from the "poor" with incomplete personality.
In the evening, my friends talked about some things on the phone.
My friend has several interns. After lunch break, my friend saw an intern playing with his mobile phone leisurely and asked him if he had time to finish the translation of the next document.
The result was beyond my friend's expectation, and the other party directly replied, "I have time, but I am just an intern."
Generally, people who talk like this will think: because I'm just an intern, I just need to do my job well. Other people's work has nothing to do with me. I will do as much as my monthly salary.
They even think it's silly to earn 3,000 yuan a month and do 5,000 jobs.
So after listening to it, my friend said nothing.
I remember that Teacher Luo Zhenyu told a true story about interns in the program.
Last summer, a junior student of Wuhan University went to Luo Ji's thinking practice and was assigned to a customer service position. His job is to answer the phone calls of users every day.
Gao Feixia, a graduate of a famous university, went to an enterprise for an internship and only did some trivial work that seemed insignificant. Many people felt that he was overqualified.
To make matters worse, users' anxious mood and blunt tone inevitably make people engaged in this job accumulate a lot of negative energy.
After the internship, students will return to school to continue their studies. On the day he left, he voluntarily submitted a summary document without anyone's request and supervision.
He said:
Through answering the phone constantly in the past two months, I have sorted out all the customer service problems that our company may encounter, such as how to answer these questions and how to communicate a lot of words is better. I consulted the customer service of other companies and made a comb. This is a document of about 30 pages, which I hope will be helpful to the company's customer service work in the future.
After seeing this document, Luo Zhenyu was completely shocked and decided that this classmate was definitely a talent.
Luo Zhenyu believes that it doesn't matter whether a person's education, major or even the content of the document is perfect. More important than all superficial factors is what kind of personality he has.
Because whether a person is careful enough, self-disciplined enough, trustworthy enough and willing to take the initiative to solve problems, these positive personality traits are the key factors in a person's life.
In contrast, the performance of interns in friends' units, to paraphrase Luo Zhenyu, is incomplete personality.
A person with incomplete personality, only doing things from the perspective of self-interest, not only can not reassure people, but also limit their own development pattern.
With such people, you will gradually lose yourself and become mediocre.
Second, stay away from the "poor" with small patterns.
Writer Li Shanglong once shared a personal car rental experience.
Two years ago, he rented a car from the agency.
After the intermediary completed the formalities, the uncle called him to the intermediary, repeatedly told him to pay attention to the use of the car, and said that if he broke down, he would need to lose money.
At first, he doubted whether his uncle's family was in trouble, so he talked to him for a few words, only to find that he was not poor at all, but rather stingy.
During the chat, he also found that the uncle had a son from the Chinese Department who was looking for an internship. He thought that maybe he could introduce his uncle's son to the publishing house and make friends by the way.
A week later, he came to the agency to return the car.
As a result, Grandpa said that he would deduct 200 yuan's deposit.
"Why?"
"Because you drive an old car."
"How did this car get old after driving for a week? It didn't scratch or have an accident? "
"You see, this car was not so dirty before, but now it is so dirty."
"You can drive and wash, and it only costs tens of dollars to wash a car."
"Then I don't need gas money to drive, and I don't need money for my time!"
Later, the staff of the intermediary couldn't stand it anymore, so they came forward to solve it. Afterwards, they hacked Uncle Beijing.
Li Shanglong originally wanted to introduce an internship opportunity to my uncle's son, but now he has also deleted my uncle's phone number, hoping that there will be no overlap.
There are many people like Uncle Beijing. He thought he took advantage of others, but in fact he suffered a bigger loss.
Because of 200 yuan, Uncle Beijing not only lost the reputation of intermediary cooperation, but also lost his son's internship opportunity.
In the final analysis, their problem is not poverty. What they are poor is their thoughts and vision.
Such people, around you, will be contagious and make your world smaller and smaller.
Third, stay away from the "poor" who can't control their emotions.
I remember an incident that happened in college.
At that time, my club was going to hold an event. After receiving the activity task, the senior organized a meeting in the group to discuss the details of the activity and the division of labor among the members.
Xiao fen, a student in this group, is responsible for some logistics work, such as setting up scenes and playing promotional videos at the event site.
As a result, on the day of the activity, Xiao fen suddenly disappeared, no one answered the phone and no one was in the dormitory.
Due to the lack of temporary staff, everyone was doing their own thing that day and was busy with the work left by Xiao fen.
Later, we learned that Xiao fen turned off her mobile phone in a rage because she quarreled with her boyfriend and hid. No one wanted to talk to her.
When you meet such a super emotional teammate, you can imagine that you will get into trouble.
What is even more frightening is that emotions are contagious.
There is a famous "cat kicking effect" in psychology:
When the husband scolded by the boss came home, he scolded his wife because he was in a bad mood. The wife was scolded by her husband inexplicably and was unhappy. She slapped the child when he was noisy. My son was slapped for no reason and left angrily. He just met a little black dog coming at home and kicked him. ...
This is a typical emotional chain reaction.
So, stay away from those who can't control their emotions, because the master in life never lets his emotions control him.
People are social animals, and interpersonal communication is an unavoidable topic for everyone.
But you have the right to choose. What you need to do is to observe your surroundings and then look for them.
Historian Ye Fan once said, "When good people are in the same place, they will get better education day by day; If the wicked swim, they will feel ill every day. "
Learn to recognize the people around you and make yourself better.