Every child is unique, they all have their own unique personality, and we need to observe and feel slowly with curiosity, so that we can really gain different warmth and touch.
? Shi Ze is a seven-year-old boy from Beijing. He has dark skin and is tall. He looks very strong. A pair of small glasses on the bridge of the nose still can't cover his big, round and shiny eyes. In the "second day" community, I met Shize's mother, Teacher Jenny. Miss Jenny has been working with Miss Susie Zhang's team. She is kind, sincere, practical and trustworthy, so I admire her, admire her and like her very much. Love me, love my dog, because I have seen Sezer many times in Jenny's WeChat circle of friends, and it seems that I have known him for a long time. On the afternoon of the first day, when I arrived at the post office, the first thing I saw was our classmate Shi Ze. He accompanied me to find the activity room and then went to find his mother. Along the way, we had a preliminary contact.
? In class the next afternoon, Shi Ze unexpectedly gave me a difficult problem. In class, he is like a different person. He said nothing and didn't take part in any activities. He just sat there quietly, staring at us, talking and laughing. I couldn't help walking up to him and crouching down to invite him. He always shrugged his shoulders and waved his hand to answer me. Later, it was discovered that Sezer really didn't want to participate, so he chose respect and acceptance. Every child is different, just respect your own rhythm. Although I think so in my heart, I still try my best to make him integrate into the group quickly, so I will invite him to help whenever I have the chance. Fortunately, he was able to help me distribute things and send things to the teaching assistants later. I immediately seized the opportunity to encourage him, and gradually, a smile appeared on his face.
? It's time for tea break. I don't know who touched my ass when I put on my teaching aid. I said with a little exaggeration, "Oh, who spanked me?" My ass is already big, and I can rely on you to make it bigger. "
After all, the child is still young. After listening to my words, he became more excited and deliberately spanked me. How they met one, and so did others. As a result, my ass hurt, and the little guys came to slap me, and I also "hurt" badly. Sezer's little guy finally took the bait. He also took part in spanking me, once, twice, three times ... the children laughed, ran and made noise. Gradually, I feel closer and closer to them. Although my ass is a little numb, I feel a clean stream in my heart.
After class, after feedback with Jenny, I learned that Sezer never likes to talk in front of everyone because he is afraid, just like Jenny was a child. Knowing this, I will no longer force guidance, but try to make him have a full sense of belonging here on the basis of respecting the child.
On the third morning, in class, everyone spoke actively and thanked each other. Shize still chose silence. But during the break, he changed, like a little monkey, with his hands and feet hanging on one of my legs. Wherever I went, he hung there, not too tired, and so on until class. Even so, I am not bored, but let him express his attachment to the teacher. I began to get to know him gradually, which was a way for him to get a sense of belonging from me. Since he likes it and I can do it, I will try to give him enough. Only when he gets a full sense of belonging can he better integrate into the classroom, right? Later, whether in the classroom or in the post office (where we met), he either suddenly patted me from behind or suddenly gave me a hug, which made me sway for a while before gaining a foothold ... This is Shize, a little guy who loves me, looking for a sense of belonging in his own unique way.
? On the train back, Teacher Jenny asked me to give feedback on the child's performance in the past two days, and I gave her the real situation of Shize truthfully. She felt embarrassed and moved. Thank you constantly for tolerating children. This makes me a little embarrassed. Later, I said to her, "Every child comes into this world to pursue a sense of belonging and value. Shize is seeking a sense of belonging from me in his own way, which is not the teacher's package. The child's practice is actually testing whether the teacher knows the password to express love. I really appreciate Sezer's precious childlike innocence and his attachment and trust to me. However, due to the typhoon, our course has not been fully developed, and I am not satisfied with my classroom leadership this time. " Hearing this, Teacher Jenny said with emotion, "Teacher Li Jing, I really appreciate your kindness and sincerely accept and care for him. You teach your children what love and encouragement are with your own practical actions. Isn't this the best portrayal of your curriculum leadership? " Courses can be led by many teachers, but this unconditional acceptance and love for children is very admirable in my eyes. That's enough. Teacher Jenny's words gave me great encouragement and reminded me of will durant's words: "What are we, not just what we teach our children. "
? At this moment, I suddenly understood why Mr. Zhang asked me, a rural teacher in a remote area, to teach children in big cities such as Shanghai and Beijing. It turned out that she was concerned about me, not the courses I took. In an instant, I was deeply encouraged by the recognition of Teacher Zhang and Jenny. It turns out that I am really good enough to be SEL.
So, in the final analysis, what I should thank most are these children with unique personalities. Their frank performance pushed me to adjust my teaching ideas, so that I could calm down and interpret their code of seeking and expressing love. My love for them was also seen by people who understood me and came back to me again in another way.
Love, like this, flows around us. ...